To have no sympathy for a family that overstretch themselves to pay school fees?

[mrsruffallo]

Why not just go to state school?
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she must of hid it cos I went for a nose and couldnt find it

Ok haven't read the whole thread but have we ascertained why she hasn't sent her on, is he a lesser creature? Surely you can't pic and choose which children go? What would you base it on?

Her on?, should her son.

*be, god struggling today, where's the coffee?

"she must of hid it cos I went for a nose and couldnt find it"

So do we take it she's read this thread?

Come on out, Shona. You don't do shyness in the Mail.

I fear the older girls are probably mercilessly teased at school, poor things.

Actually Snake if you read the article she wrote in the Express (someone linked to it somewhere) it seems that she prefers her son to her daughters. According to her daughters remind their mothers of their own failings.

And the first thing she thought when she looked at her newborn son was that she would kill the girl who was going to break his heart. You know the hypothetical girl who's probably not even born yet.

Shit imagine her as a MIL...

Whenever we overspent we just remortgaged without comprehending the consequences of taking yet more equity out of the property
Just how stupid do you have to be to make a comment like that, let alone live your life based on that principle? Her kids probably understand that when you spend your pocket money - it's gone, forever, there is no magic money tree constantly replacing it.
Poor kids, with a pair of dimwits like that.

I like the way she says they were enjoying their "wealth". Er no, that wasn't wealth, that was all borrowed money. Not bright, is she?

Haven't read all 12 pages so it may have already been said but give the poor woman a break, she looks lovely, and she's got beautiful eyes

Poor Keith is in his early forties?

here is the FB page

She appears to have upped her privacy settings. Not much to see on the FB.

Hi sweets! Big fan of your work, but please, PLEASE stop being such a moron. And maybe look into baking as a solution to your financial woes.

I was at college with this woman - utter loon (but I figure you'd worked that out by now)

I used to enjoy having a nose at her facebook page -wish someone hadn't outed it - the expensive holidays, desperate pleas for magazine stories and how funny it was that her lovely son threw a load of wee all over the nanny or something.
The DM articles are are no doubt often embellished which is not necessarily a wrong thing but they're so contradictory and ridiculous she becomes memorable and does indeed come off as a bit of a loon.

There's also this one here

The article you just linked to mrudagawa is so sad, made me feel very sorry for her actually.

Oooh Mavis, tell us more

well I am sure she will have been sent a link to this thread and will have seen 200 odd posts saying what an uppity, DM, snobby, ugly bitch she is

Great, job done everyone!!!!! lets hope she feels REALLY SHIT ABOUT HERSELF when she reads this eh!!!!

shes a twat, but two wrongs don't make a right, but hey she's an easy target to vent some vitrol on eh??

The Mail used to have someone else who would spill her guts about her family for cash.

Her name was Diana Appleyard and her specialism was writing about how posh she was (she wasn't) and how hilarious and embarrassing it was being married to a common Northerner who didn't understand her taste and refainment.

She'd write about their daughters with particular emphasis on their violin lessons and membership of the Pony Club.

She doesn't do it any more which makes me think her daughters left home as soon as they could and her husband divorced her buried her under the muck heap.

There's another one called Tom Utley who similarly betrays his family in the Mail virtually every week. He says his sons complain but he excuses it by saying he's lazy it's paying the school fees.

porcamiseria - she must be used to feeling that way by now; she gets a lot of negative feedback on the dm threads.

It's people like her that have raised living costs for everyone else. By buying property with an interest only mortgage and using it as an ATM she has lived above her true means. This is what has driven property prices so high.

We are all paying for the happy years she lived in her bubble. At the monent a lot of people like that have been temporarily saved and given time to extricate themselves from the debt. She has done the right thing selling and renting but doesn't realise it yet. When QE has to stop and we can no longer suppress our interest rates, they will rise to double figures and stories like hers will be ten a penny. The really sad thing is that even now other people are loading up on debt lulled into the false sense of security of low interest rates. They don't realise the bankers will make more mortgage interest when they pull the rug out from under them.

She's thick as fuck isn't she?

Sensible people would realise that borrowing and borrowing against your house to do renovations, etc is not a good idea. Christ, I'd love an extension. DH has enough money saved up to pay for one outright but we don't do it as we want to hang onto the money for a rainy day. What if, what if, etc - he loses his job, yadda yadda. So we don't do it. Never mind adding to the mortgage till you end up in negative equity, can't make the repayments.

I sincerely don't know what the view is on stretching yourself to pay school fees. Is the view that it is just plain stupid because people should send their children to state school?

Here is another similar situation
Mother went to private school when she was a child - her parents paid for her to go to a private pre school and then at 11 (I think) she won a scholarship so secondary school fees were paid for or heavily subsidised. Mother frequently talks about how wonderful her school days were and how she loved it but just as frequently talks about how poor her parents were.

That same mother sent all 4 of her own children to state schoools of mixed quality and if ever challenged about that is extremely defensive and says she did a "good job" picking those state schools (in terms of house location / catchment area). However at the same time the style of mothering to all 4 children is extremely pushy academically and outwardly exhasperated and disappointed at the low standards displayed by her own 4 children whilst they were at school. Notwithstanding the mothers disappointment at her own childrens performance at school all 4 children went to university, two of the four to oxbridge.

Now one of these four children has her own two children. In a conversation with her above referred to mother she says she would love to send her two children to private school if she could only afford it and might get a second evening job to see whether she could raise enough money for fees. One of the reasons is that the school which those two children will go to is in special measures.
Mother (i.e grandmother) is outraged and very agressive about "state school being just fine".

Is it wrong of the mother to try to get a second job to pay for private school in this situation? Of course the mother is me, the two children are mine and the Mother referred to in the top paragraph is my own mother (grandmother)