Well i am not sure and its very trivial and probably shows how money conscious, and insecure i am BUT

[MyLittleMiracle]

I saw a nice top whilst out today, and i do like it alot, but i would also want a white pair of jeans to go with them. I like the top a lot, but i am not sure about paying £35 for it. I am trying to save for rent in advance and a deposit, but it looks like the council will have to house me. I am going for a family meal on sunday as well and have nothing to wear.

Is £35 a stupid amount to spend on a top? And should i just get a different colour to avoid buying a new pair of jeans?

Think i really need someone to say, no buy it for yourself...but doubt you will. Talk me into/ out of it please. So undecided!

I want a free gym subscription

And I am jealous of 2ombie's ability to not kill her bras.

Mine always leave me with a rather nice puncture wound either in my boob, poke my eye bending over or puncture my armpit

But then I now never wash my bra

Can I just say about wires coming out of bras in the wash - it's the most evil thing ever!

I had open the drain thing up at the front of the machine a few months back because it had started making a horrible sound in the rinse cycle. Turns out there was a bra wire stuck in there! Amazing it got through everything and ended up there. My machine started purring along quietly again after that.

I didn't read the whole thread, but yes, £35 for a top when you're homeless is stupid. The most expensive thing I have ever bought like that are a pair of sandals that cost £39, but that's when I was working and rich.

Fair enough about the meal and gym then... but the same can't be said about the tops and bras!

Really would like to know why my comment has been deleted.

I had spoken about how I felt she should save her money right now, not buy luxuries. Then when she does get a home to not buy expensive items such as Tripp Trapp high chair as they cost a fortune and she could easily buy things second hand :(

I bought a highchair for much reduced price for example on ebay.

Yes I saw them! They seem easy to keep clean as they look quite smooth without many corners.

I think Ikea have some decent and reasonable things for setting up home with a young 'un actually.

Not read the whole thread, but you have to change your ways!
Start going to Car boot sales, Charity shops and using Freecycle. You'll get a bigger buzz from saying OMG i got a pan for like 50p!
My favourite 2 items of clothing i bought recently from a charity shop. I big hooded cardigan that i wear witb everything coz its so soft for £2.49 and a gorgeous Fornarina black top for £1.99. both from Help the Aged. Would have probably been £100 fir the both of them new. Nice clothes, no guilt and i didmt need to ask MN jury!

My daughters chest of drawers was £5 from an auction. My living room curtains were free coz i made them from remnants i scrounged from a fabric shop and made into patchwork.
Stop spending money! Its more fun not to!

But if she had a tripp trapp highchair it would be in good company with her trip trapping across her bridge..

really OP you have to prioritize. (Sorry haven't read whole thread so sure I am only repeating others' advice) but if you really do need a new top (and its fair enough that at some point it is a need not a want) then go to Primark, the supermarkets or Matalan. My sister is similar (but worse). She owes money (inc. to me) and says she can't pay me back yet because they are in their overdraft all the time but her and her DH have takeaways at least twice a month, she is always on FB saying how he has just "treated" her to something and they have 3 computers, iphones etc. You sound rather more genuinely brassic than her but all the more reason not to buy stuff. It is very hard so just STAY AWAY FROM THE SHOPS to reduce temptation.

Ever turn up late to a thread and not know what the feck's going on?

Sorry, the NHS is PRESCRIBING gym membership?????

WTAF!!! Run in the park - you could take the kids there instead of boxing them up in the car while you and your mate talk in the sauna run.

I have many bras and will be spending an unholy amount on a top this afternoon because I just got a new job and can therefore, you know, AFFORD IT!

You've made me really quite cross OP. I'm sure you're not stupid, but by god you don't half act it.

There is no sauna in the gym, it is literally basics only. And it is needed. It is the only time i get away from my little one and her the only time she gets away from hers. We do take them to the park afterwards, before doing whatever we had planned, ie solicitor trips. trips round every possible estate agent, hospitals, doctors etc. And food shopping i suppose too. I do have a highchair, when i need it, in friends loft at the moment as have no room here for it, so he is eating either on my lap or in his buggy. Shock horror. I know, but i am trying to make the best of being here. And for the record. I have cleared all my debts apart from the joint overdraft, cos he still has access to that account and i know it will go straight back over drawn and i dont feel i should have to pay it all off. Why should I? I am trying to be sensible. Paying the debts off i thought were, and i have saved some money so far, so not doing too badly really. The kids are happy to spend time together. I mean if i wasnt letting him interact with others you would all moan at me!

I have to say i dont do takeaways, always cook at home (unless its a salad which oviously doesnt get cooked), and i dont buy expensive things. I use everything in as limited amount as possible ie shower gel and try to make everything last as long as possible.

It was a stupid question and i am sorry. I am sure a lot if not all people on here have seen something they like and wished they could afford it though!!

True we all see things we'd like but can't afford, and sometimes some of us will say what the hell and buy it anyway only to kick ourselves 2 weeks later when something unexpected happens and we could have really done with the cash ! But in your precarious position, where every pound counts you really do just have to grit your teeth and resist temptation. Not saying it isn't hard of course but what you're going through right now won't last forever and when you're out of it you'll pat yourself on the back for having sorted things out.

Really .... unless you're going to some uber posh restaurant, they won't give a damn what you're wearing so long as you're clean, and your family certainly won't. Is there a friend you could maybe borrow something from, or failing that, borrow accessories from family ..... jewellery, a scarf, or a shrug type thing which would make you feel more "dressed up" ?

Re: house things .... stop fretting about "moving in" until you're actually moving in. The roof is by far the most important thing - once you have that I expect people will rally round with bits and pieces - either given or lent. You've already had a number of offers here, but you'd probably find that Freecycle would help you lots - there's always loads of furniture and household items on there that people no longer want. It's not always old either - some of it's unwanted gifts.

It ISN'T needed you utterly shameless, entitled woman. You can run ANYWHERE.

To put your hand out and take. Gym membership that COSTS MONEY when the NHS is cutting costs everywhere is shameless.

That the NHS does it and sacks people and cuts services is shameful.

WTAF is going on?

Don't buy the top.

It looks to me like you have a problem with impulse comfort-shopping, which you then regret.

What you need to do, is to stop that. If you can't, then sit down, far away from any shop, look at your incomings and outgoings, and assign a tiny amount to frivolities. For example £1.50.

When it's spent, it's spent. When you go out and see something nice you like, remember that your budget for stuff you don't need is £1.50, even if you have £20 in your pocket for the shopping, or similar.

OP you said you wanted someone to tell you to not be silly. Well looks like MN delivered.

In truth I wish you well.

Please focus on getting the big things sorted.

There there OP, I understand how it is to want what you cant have.
Really though you should start saving and not buying shit you dont need.
Obviously you have clothes unless you are naked now?
Leave your purse at home in future
Let the fresh air into your lungs and get running

I don't get anything anymore.