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AIBU to ask for £2.50 more?

111 replies

MidnightWorry · 21/02/2012 14:27

a mum in my childs class asked me today if I would take her child to school in the morn x3 days a week. She will drop dc round at 8.20 and i will take them to school.

I hope I wont have to feed them!

she said she would pay me 7.50 a week to do this and school starts at 8.50
she said her shifts at work have been changed and she cant swap them.
I live opposite my school.

it means the house will have to be tidier, wel all have to be dressed and available to the child. I dont know, in one way i wish she hadnt offered money, but on the other hand i HATE mornings and it will be an inconveience.

the child is not a friend of my childs, they are in yr1. they dont not get on but you know.

AIBU to ask for £10? or am i being a complete bitch who needs to be reminded how hard cc can be (i should bloody know).

Advice? comments?

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PeppyNephrine · 21/02/2012 14:29

7.50 a week? Nope, 7.50 an hour, IMO, meaning she owes you at least 11 quid.

mopbucket · 21/02/2012 14:31

Im a childminder and charge £3 per hr so £7.50 tax free is good

altinkum · 21/02/2012 14:32

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Flisspaps · 21/02/2012 14:33

Can she not drop them off at school at 8.20 - is there not a breakfast club or something?

Flisspaps · 21/02/2012 14:34

altinkum only if the OP is caring for the children for 2hours or more a day (am a registered CM myself)Smile

whyme2 · 21/02/2012 14:34

Actually never mind the money - you don't actually want to do this do you?

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MidnightWorry · 21/02/2012 14:38

not for a year 1 child no, older years i think so. plus i guess that would cost more. Part of thinks i should just do it for free, but i dont really like people in my home so its a toss up.

7.50 is a weird figure too!

altkin, round here you do what you can for each other. yes soemtimes that means bunging someone bread money for watching your kids for a 40 mins x3. come on.

i just feel really guilty, a for taking money off her as i know shes trying to save for a mortgage and then a, for thinking if you are going to pay me 7.50 dousn mean alot.

argh now i feel awful.

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bigTillyMint · 21/02/2012 14:39

It sounds like this could be a difficult arrangement

  • your DC does not really "get on " with hers,
  • you will have to change your routines
  • you will have to tidy up more (definite deal-breaker Wink)
  • you hate mornings
  • she isn't paying much
  • by entering into a paying agreement, I think you are going to find it difficult to say you can't do it some days (if you / your child is ill) and it may be difficult to tell her you don't want to do it any more if it really doesn't work

I think you should say sorry but no if you are not wholeheartedy wanting to do it.

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MidnightWorry · 21/02/2012 14:42

big, i do want to help anyone really in any way if i can.

our dc dont not get on, but they arent "friends". im not sure if its a boy or a girl! (hiding)

i couldnt say no one day, what possible reason would i have not to? i live literallty accross the road from the school.

i just know how bad these tiny time descrepancies fucj you over and i know they can be deal breakers, i dont want her to lose her job if she cant find cc.

they are on a low income from what i can gather.

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EauDeLaPoisson · 21/02/2012 14:45

Will you be declaring this income to the Inland Revenue?
You really cant just pay people to do a regular 'job' without going through the proper channels.

Original poster
MidnightWorry · 21/02/2012 14:46

have you read my post?

i wasnt asking for tax advice!

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EauDeLaPoisson · 21/02/2012 14:47

Wow- arrogant much! You cant post on a public forum and pick and choose the bits of advice you want, doesn't really work like that.

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MidnightWorry · 21/02/2012 14:50

think you read my post wrong!

im not arrogant, im just not asking about tax advice.

didnt a cm further back say anything less than 2hrs a day is fine anyway?

eau, what would you do?

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porcamiseria · 21/02/2012 14:55

WHY are you doing this? for a measly 7.50? Just have a straight chat, says its a HUGE inconvencience and in all honesty you'd rather not do it. Say is she is prepared to pay, she is better off with a CM

agree with bigtilly mint, its NOT your problem. and if you are going to do it, well get more money

sounds harsh this will breed resentment, mark my words

wineandroses · 21/02/2012 14:55

Personally, if I were you, I'd say no. The £7.50 per week will place you under an obligation; you won't be able to say no if someone's ill in your house, or if some emergency arises or if the children just don't get on. Far too much hassle for £7.50 (or £10).

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MidnightWorry · 21/02/2012 14:58

i thin thats the things, i kind of feel like il have to do as money would change hands.

if i was out looking to do it i would ask for more than 7.50

but i do want to help this woman out, i asked dp and he said stop being horrible she cant afford more.

i really want to know why she picked 7.50. why? such an odd amount.

there was alos no mnetion of how long this arrnagment would go on for.

i told her i would do it tomorrow am anyway, but that i will talk to dp tonight abot long term.

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MidnightWorry · 21/02/2012 14:59

if i do ask for more, how much? maybe im just being awful

think i am

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porcamiseria · 21/02/2012 14:59

BTW me and my friend dicussed this, in general we agreed that if someone is doing you favour and you pay cash, you should always OVERPAY THEM. so for example we both get lifts to work, and we pay maybe a bit more than we should. This was the driver likes giving us lifts as they get more money to cover their petrol (rather than we just pay 50% of petrol costs)

IF I were asking a mate to do this, I would pay them for 3 hours so closer to £15 to be honest

Original poster
MidnightWorry · 21/02/2012 15:01

see thats how id feel por, but is that cos shes your friend?

also before i jumped on, i said id do tomorrow for free anyway as she needs it asap.

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aldiwhore · 21/02/2012 15:02

For half an hour a day I'd do it, but I agree the £7.50 sum feels odd. I'd try and see it as covering expenses rather than a wage!

LaurieFairyCake · 21/02/2012 15:06

maybe she picked that amount because overall you're doing 2.5 hours a week and that is roughly a childminder rate?

porcamiseria · 21/02/2012 15:06

she think 3 lots of half an hour is £7.50 I think? so pro rata £5 ph

I use a friend for my lift, and I always pay them bang on Monday am, and always £12 a week

I think discuss with DP, then tell her straight. Its a quite a major inconvenience for you, and whilst to her it might seem like 30 minutes its alot of extra work as you (a) have to get kids ready earlier (b) have house ready earlier so whilst she may think its 1.5 hours of work, its more like 3 hours.

You dont want to take the piss, but in parallel it needs to be an agreement that works for both. and that as it stands its a win for her, but not for you. Say a fairer rate would be £12, and you mutually agree to review after a month to see if everyone is happy

Laquitar · 21/02/2012 15:07

I guess she worked it out £5 ph, thats £2.50 (for 30 minutes) x 3 times a week.
£7.50 pw its still £7.50 extra money but if you don't need it then its hassle. Only you can decide.

Laquitar · 21/02/2012 15:07

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porcamiseria · 21/02/2012 15:08

maths genious :-) cant fucking spel tho!!!

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