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AIBU?

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AIBU to ask for £2.50 more?

111 replies

MidnightWorry · 21/02/2012 14:27

a mum in my childs class asked me today if I would take her child to school in the morn x3 days a week. She will drop dc round at 8.20 and i will take them to school.

I hope I wont have to feed them!

she said she would pay me 7.50 a week to do this and school starts at 8.50
she said her shifts at work have been changed and she cant swap them.
I live opposite my school.

it means the house will have to be tidier, wel all have to be dressed and available to the child. I dont know, in one way i wish she hadnt offered money, but on the other hand i HATE mornings and it will be an inconveience.

the child is not a friend of my childs, they are in yr1. they dont not get on but you know.

AIBU to ask for £10? or am i being a complete bitch who needs to be reminded how hard cc can be (i should bloody know).

Advice? comments?

OP posts:

ReduceRecycleRegift · 21/02/2012 19:01

I think you should say no, you sound like you won't LIKE having the child there and the child will pick up on that! not nice for the child (I've been that child!)

bloodymumps · 21/02/2012 19:10

I do this for a mum of a girl in my dd's class- they both used to catch the bus at 8.30 am, and then when the bus service was stopped it put this other mum in a tight spot with work times as school starts at 8.55. So I offered to take her dd in in the mornings- she drops her off at 8.30 on her way to work. I am not going out of my way at all so i don't charge anything for it. The only thing that is annoying about it is as you say, having to make sure house is tidy downstairs although she only comes in for a minute while we put on shoes as we leave at that time to get to school on time.
The way I look at the situation is this- its not much extra effort for me ( just slightly irritating as I am NOT a morning person) but I am helping out someone who would be really stuck if I wasn't doing it. I probably take this girl 4 times a week on average as she is sometimes staying overnight at her dads, and when her mum has a day off work sometimes she will come and collect my dd and take her in so I don't have to leave the house. I know that as I have been doing a favour for her for free, I would feel much more comfortable about asking for a favour in return if I needed something. I think if she was paying me the danger would be that she would feel either resentful or not look upon it as a favour so if I wasn't able to do it one day for whatever reason, she might feel annoyed.
If that makes sense

DublinMammy · 21/02/2012 19:15

I would do this for a friend for nothing but wouldn't do it for someone I don't even know, whether or not they offered to pay me. And certainly not for a piddling 7.50 (or 10 or whatever you settle on with her).

Original poster

MidnightWorry · 21/02/2012 19:20

piddly?

i dont want to be taken advantage of either!

OP posts:

WineOhWhy · 21/02/2012 19:24

I would do it in exchange for an evening's babsitting once a fortnight (assuming she is not a single parent)

DublinMammy · 21/02/2012 19:37

...or indeed, piddly.

swanker · 21/02/2012 20:13

you dont even know her?
I wouldnt do it then. What if said child dashes out into the road? or throws up?
As you arent a registered CM you won't have insurance etc

What kind of parent would leave their child with people who they don't know, aren't CRBd or insured?

historyrepeats · 21/02/2012 20:19

Tell her to fuck the fuck off and then some. £7.50?????? Really? don't do it op

historyrepeats · 21/02/2012 20:20

I like whines idea though.

suzikettles · 21/02/2012 20:25

Oh fgs! She's a parent with a child in the same class, not some random off the street.

I think £2.50 is very reasonable for having a 5 year old round for 20 minutes, but am clearly living in a different world to some of you.

Still think you'd be better off doing it for free (if you do it at all which obv you're under no obligation to) as it keeps it as firmly a favour which you can stop at any time/change to suit you.

historyrepeats · 21/02/2012 20:41

I wouldn't do it because:

I am also not a morning person
If I wanted to be a child minder I would charge way more tha that
I wouldn't want the pressure of the house being tidy
ditto responsibility
I'm not sure if my children would like it
What happens if you or your child are ill?
Shes a cheeky bitch and you should be offended that she offered you a crap amount
What other randoms are going to think you won't mond cos you live opposite school?

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