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AIBU to ask for £2.50 more?

111 replies

MidnightWorry · 21/02/2012 14:27

a mum in my childs class asked me today if I would take her child to school in the morn x3 days a week. She will drop dc round at 8.20 and i will take them to school.

I hope I wont have to feed them!

she said she would pay me 7.50 a week to do this and school starts at 8.50
she said her shifts at work have been changed and she cant swap them.
I live opposite my school.

it means the house will have to be tidier, wel all have to be dressed and available to the child. I dont know, in one way i wish she hadnt offered money, but on the other hand i HATE mornings and it will be an inconveience.

the child is not a friend of my childs, they are in yr1. they dont not get on but you know.

AIBU to ask for £10? or am i being a complete bitch who needs to be reminded how hard cc can be (i should bloody know).

Advice? comments?

OP posts:
mojitomania · 21/02/2012 15:13

I'd also up the amount to say £15 per week then you'd get a bit of inconvenience money built in. Also bet she's gonna be dropping them off earlier some mornings.

As for getting a bit of pin money OP, good on you!

Can't believe the ones asking if you're going to declare it!

arghmyear · 21/02/2012 15:14

Is there no breakfast club? You can drop at all the schools I know of round here at 8.20 for breakfast club.

arghmyear · 21/02/2012 15:14

But no, YANBU to ask for £2.50 more if you are going to do it.

porcamiseria · 21/02/2012 15:14

Ohhh £15, thats bold! I was thinking £12

come on OP,

mollymole · 21/02/2012 15:17

It is going to be very tying for you. I would ask for £10 minimum.

happyinherts · 21/02/2012 15:17

Surely it's not too much inconvenience. It's only half an hour before school starts, are you not all dressed by then anyway. What time can you drop off at school playground? You're not going to have this child for long, but at end of day if you don't want £30 a month extra in your pocket, don't bother. I dont see it as putting yourself out much, you're going to school anyway and for probably less than half an hour for 3 days for £30 a month extra, no great effort required.

MyNameIsntFUCKINGWarren · 21/02/2012 15:18

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SlightlyJaded · 21/02/2012 15:19

OK you don't want to do it and £7.50 isn't going to change your life.

But you want to be helpful

Tell this woman that unfortunately you can't commit to helping. Tell her the truth - that your mornings are very stressful already and you are having particular difficulties getting the DC ready and out the door at the moment and then feel free to embellish e.g: I actually spend that half hour doing work emails whilst they eat breakfast etc.

Then tell her that you are very happy to be her standby so that if and when her regular arrangement falls through, she must feel that she can call you and that you won't take her money for the odd emergency.

The conversation will be cringey but you will be so glad when it's done.

upahill · 21/02/2012 15:23

have you read my post?

i wasnt asking for tax advice!

That has made me laugh!! Grin

bigTillyMint · 21/02/2012 15:25

I was going to say what SlightlyJaded just said. Exactly!

I really sounds like you want to be helpful, but that this seems like a step too far for you - commiting to 3 days a week. If you were really happy to do it, you wouldn't have posted for advice.

Also, see how it goes tomorrow - how the children get on in particular.

brass · 21/02/2012 15:43

I think if you're going to do it, charge the figure that will make it worth doing for you.

As you say it will change your mornings.

Original poster
MidnightWorry · 21/02/2012 15:47

im not used to asking for money, im not sure how much its worth.

i dont think could i could charge twice as much, but 10 or 12 feels right.

my name ist warren, what are you hours incl? and surely that isnt one child?

think il end up doing it, want to say yes, but unsure

OP posts:
bonkersLFDT20 · 21/02/2012 15:51

If I lived opposite the school I'd do it. It would be a potentially horrid walk to school which would put me off.

Good chance for the children to get to know each other.

Why does the house need to be tidier? Make a little list of things the children can do.

What is she going to do if you can't help out one day (illness or what have you).
If she's paying you will she expect you to be there regardless?

brass · 21/02/2012 15:54

as a guide our breakfast club charges £5 7-9am and includes breakfast.

brass · 21/02/2012 15:57

'Make a little list of things the children can do.'

tbh I wouldn't be interested in trying to arrange activities as well at that time in the morning!

they could bring a book to read.

SoupDragon · 21/02/2012 15:59

£7.50 = £2.50 a day. Not really a strange amount at all. For half an hour.

I'm not sure why it would be a lot of trouble - surely you're already dressed by 8:20, the house only has to be normal, not tidy and you live over the road from the school.

lollilou · 21/02/2012 16:00

I think I would do it as you live opposite the school. Also it would be nice to help a fellow Mum out. Perhaps you could ask for £9.00 which would be £3.00 per morning. Oh and don't worry too much about tidying up she will prob drop at the door and kids don't notice a little mess.

usualsuspect · 21/02/2012 16:02

I would do it if I lived opposite the school, I think a tenner a week sounds about right

but don't do it if you think it will be too much hassle

Collaborate · 21/02/2012 16:02

Get the kids to tidy up for you. Win win!!

Seriously though, if you're uncomfortable doing it, do as slightlyjaded suggests. Otherwise you'll end up resenting her/her child. she'll cope somehow.

bonkersLFDT20 · 21/02/2012 16:02

brass
"'Make a little list of things the children can do.'"

'tbh I wouldn't be interested in trying to arrange activities as well at that time in the morning!'

I meant things like clearing away the breakfast things or general tidying.

fuzzPigwickPapers · 21/02/2012 16:04

Hmmm tricky. I have nothing useful to add so I'll just hang around for your decision Blush

brass · 21/02/2012 16:04

'surely you're already dressed by 8:20, the house only has to be normal, not tidy and you live over the road from the school.'

HAHA only someone who has ever lived close to a school will know how ironic this is!!

when we were in this position we might still be found cuddling in my bed at 8.20. Blush

pinklaydee · 21/02/2012 16:06

Why doesn't she pay a childminder to take her to school, like everyone else has to? I know people who have an arrangement between them where one takes both their DCs to school one day, and the other does the same another day, to fit in with work patterns. I needed this on a Tuesday, but all my friends are working that day, so I pay for after school care instead. I wouldn't dream of asking another parent whom I barely know to take my DD.

brass · 21/02/2012 16:06

sorry bonkers had visions of craft and games and came over all weak but that sounds very practical.

SoupDragon · 21/02/2012 16:08

^"surely you're already dressed by 8:20, the house only has to be normal, not tidy and you live over the road from the school."

HAHA only someone who has ever lived close to a school will know how ironic this is!!^

It has nothing to do with living over the road from the school. We are all dressed half an hour before we have to leave.

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