to be royally farked off at my friend's behaviour

[mrscumberbatch]

... I have been friends with this guy for 10 years.
He got married on a whim a few months ago. I have never met his new wife.

He popped round for a visit and I told him congratulations etc. And also that if I'd have known/been invited I would have gotten them a gift but given the circumstances this has not been possible.

I know a fabulous rural couple's retreat. Vair vair swish and relaxing. I offered to book them a weekend there as a honeymoon/wedding gift.

Friend v. pleased and says thankyou and goes home to consult wife for dates that suit.

Given those dates, I go and book and pay etc.

2 weeks before they're due to go he tells me that he is cancelling as he didn't realise it was so rural. I gave them brochures/website/etc prior to them choosing dates.

AIBU to be hopping mad at him for wasting my time?

I'll go, if it will help you out

Has he wasted your money too? If you can't get it back I would go myself. He sounds very ungrateful.

Crikey! That is extremely kind of you and extremely ungrateful and rude of them. Unbelievable! What did you say?

Ungrateful shit. Cancel it and don't offer an alternative

It's for couples. I'll go with BillyBollyBandy just so she doesn't feel left out.

I hope you didn't lose out financially. Yes. I would be somewhat put out with him too- bit ungrateful.

Sounds like a complete ingrate and unimaginative to boot. "Ooh there's nothing to do in the country". Tell him to bog off and go yourself.

You sound like a lovely friend by the way

Hey!

I hear you're in the market for a new friend......

I like rural stuff and am really nice.

Very kind Grumpla

Keeps eye on cluffy...

Have you seen the thread about the person who'd been booked a spa holiday they didn't want to go on?

Not friends of yours are they?

How ungracious of them - what a fabulous wedding present and how lovely of you to organise it.

Do neither of them drive, so they can't actually get there? But presumably you'd know that though before you booked it?

I agree with other posters, if you can't get the money back - go yourself, or 'sell' it on to other friends.

I'm feeling a bit for you, cos it sounds such a great thing to do.

Thanks ladies! Glad to know I'm not being a shit for wanting to batter him

He is a keen amateur photographer so I thought it would be right up his street.

Here's the website if you want a nosey at rural bliss!

He had contacted me just last week to see if we could get him somewhere with a kitchen so that they could save on food bills and so I upgraded the room. Raging.

What a cheeky bugger!

Ola he drove over here to visit so I'm assuming he can drive

Never seen the thread about the spa holiday.... don't suppose they'd fancy a swap lol.

Well, they were complaining about the gift giving having the gall to book something where they might have to pay out themselves in transport costs/food/treatments ON TOP OF the gift.

I think they should be friends with your friend - similar outlook.

How utterly bizarre.

He sounds as rude as rude can be!!!

Oh.My.Lord. It looks absolutely gorgeous.
I'm so, utterly jealous.
What an idiot he is for turning it down.

Seriously, are you sure these aren't your friends?

Looking at it in more detail, if we lived up your way, MrsC, DP and I would absolutely bite your hand off to 'buy' that weekend from you.

That's actually crazy, it's really similar isn't it????

Don't get me wrong if someone wanted to pay for all my meals, days out and transport etc I'd probably want to marry them kiss them and be eternally thankful.

I am thinking that I need some new pals......

Oh my goodness, what total arseholes they must be. That place looks loverly.

Whatatosser.

Gosh how ungrateful, that place looks amazing. go yourself and dont bother getting him anything

You sound like a fabulous friend OP, what a wonderful gift. He deserves sweet sod all from you, the ungrateful git. If you now have a vacancy in your circle of friends, can I apply?