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Original poster

well am I ? ds' girlfriend ...........cats .....feeling smalll

131 replies

CreamolaFoamless · 14/02/2012 10:16

I have moaned alot on here about DS1s grlfriend

They are both 18

her mum as to go to London and ds1 girlfriend said the cats would coming here

Apparently that is now not possible and the cats must stay at her' (the girfriends mum's house

I've never spoken to her ....should I ? And if i should , what aould I say

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catgirl1976 · 14/02/2012 10:17

I'm sorry I dont understand your post?

gettingalifenow · 14/02/2012 10:17

I think you'd better retype that - it makes no sense!

PoohBearsHole · 14/02/2012 10:17

I don't get it, were the cats coming to live with you permanently or just for a week?

Will ds' girlfriend be cat sitting?

Will ds be going to girlfriends house?

Is there a back story we don't know?

Smile
piratecat · 14/02/2012 10:18

totally confused here.

squeakytoy · 14/02/2012 10:19

I remember your previous posts.. you have just let them take over your home really...

Why not kick the gf out, like you have been trying to do for weeks.. and she can look after the cats in her mother's home. Everyone a winner! Grin

TroublesomeEx · 14/02/2012 10:20

OP, she's not still at your house is she???!!!!!

I don't understand the cat stuff. Sounds like you're gutted you won't be having freeloading cats to stay along with the freeloading girlfriend! Surely not!!

TinkerSailerSoldierSpy · 14/02/2012 10:22

Um, well im a bit confused? Did she ask your permission about the cats or just assume it was ok for them to come to your house? What is it exactly that you think your being unreasonable about?

Shutupanddrive · 14/02/2012 10:22

Eh? Confused

Dustinthewind · 14/02/2012 10:27
Grin This could be the beginning of the third series. The GF moved herself in, temporarily and now forever presumably the bed was installed against your squeaking and only the fact that the cats will be happier in their own home has prevented you being invaded by felines. What do you need to say? Well, you need to make up your mind what you want to happen first, and then stick to it. I eagerly await installment four, GF is pregnant and episode five, they go out all the time and leave me to babysit. What should I say? You'll just get the same advice as last time, either set rules and stick to them or roll over.
IUseTooMuchKitchenRoll · 14/02/2012 10:30

I don't get it.

What's wrong with the cats staying where they live and your ds and his GD staying with them?

Why would you want someone else's cats peeing in your house anyway?

Magneto · 14/02/2012 10:32

I think you should just move out op... Sell the house and find a new one and DON'T tell them.

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CreamolaFoamless · 14/02/2012 10:43

sorry for the confusion!

The cats where alledgedly coming here for a week ..and I had absouluty no problem with that

She as been living her since Setmember so if her Mum has to go to London with work for a week , the cats will needing looking after?

Now that appears that's not the case as her mum has no 'the cat's' aren't going downing to her's (to ds1's girfriend not to me )

Should I try and meet her mum ?

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kilmuir · 14/02/2012 10:45

sorry still confused. let the mother and her daughter sort out the cat issue????

charitygirl · 14/02/2012 10:46

Why do you care about her mum's cats? What would you say to her mum?

This makes no sense!

pictish · 14/02/2012 10:47

What?
Am still confused!

usualsuspect · 14/02/2012 10:49

What do the cats think?

Dustinthewind · 14/02/2012 10:50

Yes, meet the mother. tell her that you feel shunned and small and that if your home is good enough for her daughter, it should be good enough for her cats. Provide her with a menu for her beasts and offer to sleep on the sofa so they can have your bed.
Are you still hoping the GF will move out? That either of them will ever be independent in their own place?
What happened about the bed?

ViviPru · 14/02/2012 10:51

Haha love threads like this.

So you've got the arse OP because your DS' GF's Mum thinks you're not good enough to look after her cats?

AmazingBouncingFerret · 14/02/2012 10:52

usual Grin

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CreamolaFoamless · 14/02/2012 10:52

I really don't think it's about cats ..I think it's about ds1's girlfriend .

So if you were in my postion would you phone up her mum and say @hey let's get together and coffee or something' and speak about your daugter

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charitygirl · 14/02/2012 10:53

Oh, is that it? FGS! OP - you need to base your self esteem on things other than whether a virtual wants to take advantage of your doormat-ness.

tabulahrasa · 14/02/2012 10:54

Are you assuming it's personal that she doesn't want the cats at yours?

It would take some sort of apocolyptic emergency before I'd send my cats to stay rather than having someone keep an eye on them at my house, cats get stressed massively by things like that.

One of mine freaks out for days if you get a new chest of drawers or move a chair Hmm

charitygirl · 14/02/2012 10:54

*a virtual stranger!

What might talking to the mum achieve? If your son's GF is taking advantage of you, talk to him!

ViviPru · 14/02/2012 10:55

How has this latest cat-minding incident prompted you to feel that things have come to a head enough to arrange to meet with her mum Confused

pictish · 14/02/2012 10:55

What? You're hurt that the mother deems your place not good enough for her cats?

Well...hallelujah! Who the hell wants someone else's cats pissing all over the house for a week because it's unfamiliar to them? Why do you?!

Who cares what she thinks?