well am I ? ds' girlfriend ...........cats .....feeling smalll

[CreamolaFoamless]

I have moaned alot on here about DS1s grlfriend

They are both 18

her mum as to go to London and ds1 girlfriend said the cats would coming here

Apparently that is now not possible and the cats must stay at her' (the girfriends mum's house

I've never spoken to her ....should I ? And if i should , what aould I say

flowery because son's girlfrien live here , and her mum and her gaes still lie at hers

cats cats cats not gaes

oh i do apologise about my use of the word let but I still think it's weird her mother doesn't want to know who she is with. and not that it's any of your business but I left home at 17 as well, my Mother knew where I was living though and visited occassionally

QuickLookBusy - if Agincourt had said it like that it would make so much more sense, but she implied that somehow the 18 year old needs her mother permission - which of course she doesn't.

No QuickLookBusy

so would I ............I really don't understand why there is 18 year old girl living in my house tat no-one has checked up on

Agincourt - why the raised eyebrow? Am I now supposed to apologise for assuming that what you wrote was what you meant?

As for the 'not that it's any of your business' remark - I guess the fact that I didn't ask for details of your personal life history passed you by?

She is 18, she can choose to live where she wants without her Mother having to check it out for her.

I would want to know where my 18yo ds's were living, but not every family works that way. I moved out of home when I was 17, whether or not my Mum had seen my flat or not would have made no difference.

I don't know why you've got an 18 year old in your home that you have been ineffectually trying to rehome for a couple of months.
And why you keep asking questions on here and then not doing anything about it, either for or against. You seem a bit...flotsam. Driven by the tides with no power or control of your own over anything that happens to you.

CreamolaFoamless Tue 14-Feb-12 12:07:33
"flowery because son's girlfriend live here , and her mum and her cats still live at hers"

Well that was kind of my point. The mum and her cats don't live with you, so why do you have any involvement/interest at all in what her arrangements are for feeding them?

I'm just confused about that but I can see there's an awful lot of history and backstory I don't know about.

I feel i am having an outer body experience reading this lot

well I can't kik her out ........she is 18 an unemployed

and ow there is cats involved

I don;t know the girlfriend and DS1 op in every Monday Wednesday and Friday whilst GF'sMum i at work '

to play with these cats

Of course you can kick them out. That's what hostels are for.

Is she even paying rent?

And never mind the cats or her mother.

"And now there is cats involved"

Are you toying with us OP?

This is a total wind-up

Been going a long time then, I've been following the saga for months.
Like an online soap.

It has to be a wind up!

OP you often complain about being put upon

Now you're complaining about not being put upon

I just don't get it?

And if they're used to popping in every Monday, Wednesday and Friday to see the cats....feeding them isn't even an issue is it?

These threads go round and round, with OP taking no notice of any advice, or helpful suggestions(or not so helpful )
OP this soap opera seems to be taking over your life, do you have any other distractions?
FWIW, I would not have cats who did not live here in my house for a week. They would be v angry cats, probably, would deffo not be happy to be here and would no doubt scratch stuff, and poo to mark their territory.
They would then do the same again when they went home.
Would not be pretty...

lol it would make me happier if it was a wind up

But it's not !

It's just a bit odd ......i'm offended that GF's to DS'1s DM thinks its a bad idea to have the cats here

that's why I think I should perhaps conntact her and speak to her

Really OP if you're that easily offended (and I mean this nicely) it's very much your problem and no-one else's.

If I were her I'd either be annoyed that you're interfering with my choices, or I'd conclude that you had no idea about cats....or maybe both.

I think you need a distraction from this sort of thing.

No, the time to have spoken to her would have been when her daughter moved in.

The oddest thing is not the cats, but your complete inability to police who is living in your house.

Your posts and reaction to things make you sound like a relative of mine. She drinks..

haha scarblet .,,
I do listen

do listen to the views on here , but I will admit 9 times out of ten I'll stick to conculsion I came to earlier

I have put a rent agreement in place though from advice given on here

Yes my life is not perfect.......I don't particularly enjoy having another an 18 year old in my house . She does my head in times

I'm not going do what many people suggest and chuck her and DS1 out to fend for themselves.

This is an okay place to come if you just want to go''''''''arrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggh ' why won't her mum let her cats some er