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Original poster

well am I ? ds' girlfriend ...........cats .....feeling smalll

131 replies

CreamolaFoamless · 14/02/2012 10:16

I have moaned alot on here about DS1s grlfriend

They are both 18

her mum as to go to London and ds1 girlfriend said the cats would coming here

Apparently that is now not possible and the cats must stay at her' (the girfriends mum's house

I've never spoken to her ....should I ? And if i should , what aould I say

OP posts:
Lueji · 14/02/2012 11:33

I would have thought that see might have been more concerned about her daughter

Is that why your DS is still living with you and you got lumbered with the gf?

She has more sense than you.

tethersend · 14/02/2012 11:33

Have the cats put down.

Hey presto! Problem solved.

SydSaid · 14/02/2012 11:33

I think you are reading too much into it. She asked her daughter to look after the cats, assuming the daughter would move in to hers for the week. The daughter assumed the cats would be going to her current place of residence. When the mother realised that was the daughters plan, she said no, because she doesn't want the cats to go through that trauma.

Nothing personal.

WorraLiberty · 14/02/2012 11:33

Trying to understand this thread is like trying to punch myself in the face with my hands tied behind my back....

I'll just slam my head against the keyboard every few posts I think Grin

&$&)()28(&%"GJ£$$&*%

Original poster
CreamolaFoamless · 14/02/2012 11:34

it's not a storminateacuop viviPru it's mt life at the moment

And yes I have said 'go up and stays your mums and look after your cats'

OP posts:
MigratingCoconuts · 14/02/2012 11:36

ahhh, worra!

now you've explained it more clearly, I understand!

MigratingCoconuts · 14/02/2012 11:37

I would want my cats looked after in their own home too. They don't like being moved. Its not personal.

ViviPru · 14/02/2012 11:38

I don't mean your overall circumstances, I'm referring to the Cat situation. Its clouding the real issue.

WorraLiberty · 14/02/2012 11:38

Quick update for Migrating

&$&)()28(&%"GJ£$$&*%....+++>

usualsuspect · 14/02/2012 11:38

The cats are a red herring

WorraLiberty · 14/02/2012 11:39

I think you are reading too much into it. She asked her daughter to look after the cats, assuming the daughter would move in to hers for the week. The daughter assumed the cats would be going to her current place of residence. When the mother realised that was the daughters plan, she said no, because she doesn't want the cats to go through that trauma.

I think that's it in a nutshell OP

No more and no less than that.

Dustinthewind · 14/02/2012 11:39

Cats do that though. It's all about them, egocentricity on four paws.

Original poster
CreamolaFoamless · 14/02/2012 11:44

to quote you Lueji

*I would have thought that see might have been more concerned about her daughter

Is that why your DS is still living with you and you got lumbered with the gf?

She has more sense than you.*

they are 18 one is fulltime student the other is unemployed

OP posts:
MigratingCoconuts · 14/02/2012 11:47

thankss worra Wink

Original poster
CreamolaFoamless · 14/02/2012 11:48

at this rate I'll be in her mums house for a week feeding their cats

OP posts:
WorraLiberty · 14/02/2012 11:54

Why??

Do you enjoy being a martyr?

Let the girl travel to her Mums every day and feed them.

If that's not good enough then let the Mum sort her own cats out.

It's not your problem OP.

ObiWan · 14/02/2012 11:54

Ah Creamola, your son and the GF seem very determined to stay with you. The GFs mother is equally determined to keep the poor cats away.

Could it be that they think that you need keeping an eye on?

Only half ----> Grin

flowery · 14/02/2012 11:56

I don't get it. Why is your son's girlfriend's mother's problem of who will feed her cats when she's away even on your radar? Confused[obviously missing something]

MigratingCoconuts · 14/02/2012 11:56

you'll feed the cats for the week only if you want to....

Secrecy · 14/02/2012 11:56

...Then you would be a fool. And I'm sorry, because I really don't mean to insult you. You are mentally backing yourself into a corner, falling over yourself to help everyone out.

Even people you haven't met and have no responsibility for.

Step back and let her sort her own cats out.

QuickLookBusy · 14/02/2012 11:58

Oh Creamola, don't you start worring about the cats. It isn't your problem at all.

And yes, I agree with you that you would think the Gf's mum would have been to see where her DD has been living for the past 6 months. She obviously isn't as caring as most mums, so I would not let her worry you.

Agincourt · 14/02/2012 11:59

i find it most odd that she has let her daughter move in with you and hasn't ever spoken to you? or visited you? or anything?

SydSaid · 14/02/2012 12:02

'Agincourt - 'let her daughter'?? her daughter is 18, and old enough to make her own decisions. I moved 300 miles from my parent's house when I was 17, my parents had never been to the town I moved to let alone visited the people I was moving in with.

Dustinthewind · 14/02/2012 12:05

I think she threw her daughter out Agincourt, so is not very bothered. One of those for whom parenting ends when the child becomes an adult.
As opposed to the OP, who lets her child and anyone else's rule the roost.

QuickLookBusy · 14/02/2012 12:06

Syd it sounds like these people aren't that far apart as Creamola said she might go over and feed the cats.

I would want to know and meet the person my 18 year old was living with, even if it was just to say thank you for having her, and checking she was helping around the house etc. But really just to check she wasn't living with an axe murderer