To just want to give parenting the fuck up sometimes?

[PamPerdbrat]

Weekend from HELL. I cannot wait for nursery drop off tomorrow. DS is 16mo and will not stop whinging, fighting sleep, crying, moaning. DH and I are completely on our own and I have fucking had it today.

No temp, not ill.., just grumpy as fuck.

AAAARGH! What made me stupid enough to become a parent, and arrogant enough to think I could do it?!

DD2 (4) was like this for a few days - the low level moaning and whinging made me want to bang my head against the wall. Turns out she had chicken pox - it's doing the rounds at her playschool. Just a thought. Hope you have a good night.

mother fuck yes. FUCK. YES. MN tonight is really helping. I am grateful. I really am.

I have to go and eat the supper my children cooked. One day, my dear, all this will be yours!

Well, not that it helps now, but you´re not the only ones who are on your own.

We don´t all have someone other than each other to call on.

Would it ruin everything to bring him back down for cuddles?

I hear you, sister! We've had the weekend from hell too and we've got 3: DD age 6 DS age nearly 4 and DS age 5 months! No idea why I thought it was a good idea, I could cheerfully kill em all, and DH has man-flu, we've had a blazing row and I'm breastfeeding so can't go out and get drunk. Am going to console myself with and and cry.

Hugs and to you. You can do it, none of us are perfect, including the little shits I mean darlings

oh and it's half term next week ARRRRGGGGGG

Pam, we're just through that stage with ds (dc2). I reckon it's frustration. They know what they want and are trying to articulate it but aren't there yet. Everything we do annoys them.

Ds is almost 18 months and is a delight in comparison to what he was like 2 months ago. They take such giant leaps at times that the frustration renders them grumpy gits. Just my little theory of course. You'll get there.

Oh you are not alone! half term.... almost every activity stops... now I have to think of something to do with the kids? What's that all about?!

KK wow, you're doing it with 3 and bf-ing! That's more than I could ever imagine doing!

diddl no it wouldn't ruin anything; I guess for now I just feel like putting space between us so I don't end up shouting at him and scaring him.

yama yep I agree; I know it's all a phase but bloody hell it's hard at the time.

If it makes you feel any better I am in the same boat but DH left this morning for a 5 day work trip [gulp]. How am I going to do it? DS is also 16 months and currently fighting going down for a nap in his cot. I can hear him screaming and I have already drugged him . We are not in the UK and there is 4 inches of snow outside so I can't even storm around the neighbourhood with him in his buggy. I am coping by reminding myself that this is the only one of the 5 days when we have nothing on. At least we have a busy week ahead. Good luck! :)

I always found when my dd was like this as a baby that she was poorly with an ear or throat infection. I hope you have a better night anyway :)

mostly you've all my sympathy having been there but "me and DH are completely on our own" - you're not on your own there's two of you!!!!

Oh Pam, are you me? DS is nearly 16mo and has been shouting in anger all day.

Our nanny has been on holiday this week and I have stocked the fridge with chocolate for her tomorrow in an attempt to make it less awful. I live in fear of her calling in sick!

DS is struggling on my lap, refusing to feed or sleep. He spat out every mouthful of supper.

we have days like this too, where I nearly drop-kick DS across the threshold at nursery and then almost skip to the office in delight at not having him whining at me.

He's 2.4 now, but at your DS's age, constant screaming did often indicate a tooth coming in or an ear infection. Of course, we only ever found that out in hindsight. Now it seems to be almost down to toddler stroppiness, which is delightful.

We still have the odd evening where we sit downstairs fuming and going 'you can't hear anything either, can you?!' when DS is having a total melt down up in his room. Can't wait for the teenage years...

YANBU at all. enjoy nursery drop off tomorrow!

He's quiet since DH went up. It's been a bit that way recently; if I go in he carries on whining for me. If DH goes in, he stops

Thanks ll31

Sorry Pam Iabu but I think your post just reminded me of doing it on my own!!!!! Glad he's gone off now - open the wine!

Hope stays asleep.

We have two-teenagers now.

They have a double bed each & I remember a time when husband & I would doze off, each of us in with one of them!

I look back now & miss the desperation of getting them to sleep cuddles

PamPerd I am with you on this, DP is working longer hours this week and it's going to be a horrible horrible week as ds is teething and grumpy and just getting ready to drop his morning nap etc etc...I feel like I did on Sunday nights before school as a child (I hated school). We will get through it somehow but if anyone else dares to ask me when we're going to have another dc they'll feel my wrath!

Love the image of drop-kicking them over the threshold at nursery I have lost count of the number of times I have gone to nursery and muttered to the staff 'you are welcome to him today' with DS2 - his middle name is 'grumpy' although not at nursery it would seem

You have my total sympathy - me and DH don't have anyone to call on either (apart from nursery) and as another poster has said, we take it in turns to give each other a break at weekends by each going to the gym for a while in the mornings.

Your LO is at a hard age and his back teeth may be coming through? Poor thing is probably very frustrated - they do get like that at that age, they want to communicate more but don't know how. We all feel your tiredness and frustration and we have a been there.

I look at people without kids and think they don't have a fucking clue about tiredness!

I hear ya! YANBU.

The other day I had had e-fucking-nough! AND DD (25 months) does not yet go to nursery (but as a result of last week is starting VERY soon). I was sitting at playgroup with her, she was out of earshot btw, telling anyone who'd listen that I love her very much, but that I just don't like her right now!

I'm also 34 weeks pregnant - ha! Who's fucking idea was that?!?!?!?

But today especially (and to a lesser extent Friday) she has been really, really lovely all day. Slept until 7.30, eaten with no fuss/throwing at every meal, painted on paper, not the walls, table, cat, self, the paper and then told me it was for mummy because I was wuvvwee.

Again, I will stress, I was imagining all sorts of things I can't type because they're too horrible the other day. I was truly ready to string her up!

You're doing brilliantly, the fact that you actually give a shit that he's crying (some people think that's why iPods were invented!) says it all. It will pass, it will get better (and in some ways worse, sorry, but mine talks INCESSANTLY, ALL DAY, sounds lovely? Hmm, for the first month maybe). Relax your shoulders and breathe. :)

If it is any consolation... You think one is hard... Two or more is harder than you can ever imagine! Not just double the work, ten times harder!

mrjelly think I'll just bounce him through the nursery doors with a 'good luck' to the staff!

I'm feeling much more zen atm, I get angry with myself as well I think. Angry because I don't understand what he's saying to me.