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AIBU?

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To wonder why on earth Amanda Holden is back at work already!?

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EdnaClouds · 12/02/2012 07:57

Just 3 weeks ago she has an emergency CS, nearly died and spent a few days in intensive care. Surely she should be at home resting for a while longer yet?

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JambalayaCodfishPie · 12/02/2012 08:59

YABU

Shes contractually obliged to appear. As others have said not doing so risks her place on the panel next year.

Also, perhaps she'd rather not sit at home dwelling in the trauma of it all. Shes had a lot of shit to contend with - focusing on the negatives would do no good at all!

Sparklingbrook · 12/02/2012 09:02

mrs baldwin are you Katie Hopkins?

Sparklingbrook · 12/02/2012 09:03

Spending time with your newborn is way more important than some shitty talent show.

Dillydaydreaming · 12/02/2012 09:03

There's work and them there's "work". Hardly taxing is it?

But yeah, even so after nearly dying why on earth?

everlong · 12/02/2012 09:03

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cutegorilla · 12/02/2012 09:06

The pressure on her must be huge. Think of Cheryl Cole who kept going until she collapsed with malaria and she still ended up getting ditched in the end. She must be desperate to keep her job. It's too soon for her to have physically recovered from what she has been through, never mind mentally. It's too soon for her to be away from her baby like that. I'm sorry but it is. Her hormones will still be all over the place too. I will be amazed if she doesn't regret this in the end.

I remember reading an interview with Nicole Appleton bitterly regretting flying off with Liam to Japan and leaving her 4 week old baby behind.

I don't think we should be judging her for doing it, we should be looking at the pressures that are pushing her into a situation where she feels she needs to. I also feel sad because it's things like this that put more pressure on other Mums to be getting on with life as normal a couple of weeks after a traumatic birth and cs and while it is always the Mums right to choose I really don't think there should be any pressure that way. I don't think mums of newborn babies should be pressured into doing anything other than being with them and caring for them and bonding with them.

I have a friend who studied for and took an exam in the few weeks after one of her DC was born, her DH took on most of the care for that time. She says she's never bonded with that child the same as she has with her other. I don't know if the two things are related and I don't think she's ever made that connection but I do think it must make a difference.

dearjane · 12/02/2012 09:07

I feel sorry for her.

She obviously feels she doesn't have a choice.

What are people trying to imply when they vilify her for this? That she's a cold hearted cow who doesn't give a damn about her new baby? Bollocks.

Sparklingbrook · 12/02/2012 09:09

I am more cross about the programme she is doing it for. I think if it was for something more decent I would have a bit more sympathy.

mrsbaldwin · 12/02/2012 09:09

Who's Katie Hopkins ?? [goes away to Google her]

troisgarcons · 12/02/2012 09:10

Thousands of women get up world wide after giving birth and go back to work.

As far as I'm aware we have free choice - but woe betide anyone who doesn't make the right choice in the eyes of the MN majority. Your life doesnt end becaue you have a baby. And I soncerely doubt we'll ever see her work contract which may dictate she haul herself up and goes back to work. OR drum roll perhaps she likes working shock horror

funkybuddah · 12/02/2012 09:12

her husband was with her yesterday so i would imagine baby was too.

Sparklingbrook · 12/02/2012 09:13

No, she has left her baby with her Mum or so she said.

mrsbaldwin · 12/02/2012 09:14

Katie Hopkins = reality TV person (did anyone apart from me not know this?)

PoohBearsHole · 12/02/2012 09:15

Slebs and babies, its like a competition - who can look the thinnest the soonest, who goes back to work the earliest, who can close off a hospital ward, who can spend the most money, who can make the most money, who can give their child the daftest name......................... and the one we all have sleb or not - who had the worst/best birth.

I don't think there is anything admirable about going back to work so early in this situation, although she isn't really "Working" and will be doing nothing but making a few comments. Even so, there has to be more to life than work. But wait we are mere mortals not slebs and the thought of losing your slebdom is a fate worse than death

MrsCampbellBlack · 12/02/2012 09:17

God - wasn't she cold in her sleevless shirt [old lady]

I suspect she didn't have much choice if she wants to keep the job really and I bet her and her family have a pretty expensive lifestyle so she needs to earn the big money whilst she can.

She may be all smiles for the cameras but she's an actress isn't she. Up to her really though.

Sparklingbrook · 12/02/2012 09:17

She has been through so much heartache up until this point too. Britains Got Talent just ain't worth it Amanda.

LaBoccaDellaVerita · 12/02/2012 09:18

YABU. None of your business for one thing and for the other I agree with mrsbaldwin and trois. Why on earth shouldn't she do whatever she feels up to doing? How can anyone else know how she feels? You can't. Guessing and projecting doesn't mean anything.

Sparklingbrook · 12/02/2012 09:19

It seems to be my business because it's all over the papers, so apparently it is newsworthy.

JambalayaCodfishPie · 12/02/2012 09:21

It amazes me that you all seem to think she will have made this decision so flippantly, after all shes been through.

callmemrs · 12/02/2012 09:21

Tbh I would imagine that many women post-section are doing a lot more than her. If you're back home with a newborn and possibly other kids to look after, husband back at work, doing the school run with a pram everyday (not allowed to drive) and running a house and caring for the kids, you're no doubt having a harder time than a woman who will be chauffeured to work, have someone doing her clothes and makeup, a nanny caring for the baby a few yards away and probably a housekeeper running the show back home .

Plus- I imagine she enjoys the job and they ain't gonna reschedule the entire audition process and series

Gigondas · 12/02/2012 09:21

Up to her isn't it - if she feels up to it and right choice for her family then good on her.

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 12/02/2012 09:21

Its the business she is in though isnt it?
If she backs off she will be replaced by someone younger/prettier/available.
She hasnt got a proper talent so she relies on shows like this to keep her profile up (although she was ok in a Marple I saw a while ago). I know that sounds bitchy but I mean that she is now a sleb rather than an actress.

I think its the cut throat nature of the business that is driving her the same way it drives women to do bikini shots 10 days after giving birth.

The media/society set the standard and they have to keep up with it or lose their place.

Its up to her. I am sure the baby will be well cared for and so will she.

Personally I couldnt imagine doing it myself but then I couldnt imagine being a judge on BGT either so I am no expert

PoohBearsHole · 12/02/2012 09:24

I also find it extraordinary that after all she has been through that she would return so early - however on the opposite side of the argument, perhaps giving birth to a healthy child after having such a sad ending to her last pregnancies and having an emcs and spending time in ICU is small fry in comparison to the previous losses?

PoohBearsHole · 12/02/2012 09:27

Mind you you always look at it in your own context don't you - bearing in mind my earnings are under £10K per year I really don't earn enough to get back to work after 3 weeks but if I was earning £20K per city or whatever it is then I probably might think about it but I have no talent, ain't pretty, or young or thin so no chance there !

QuickLookBusy · 12/02/2012 09:28

I feel very sorry for her

Last year she had a still born baby, she then got pregnant again very quickly and ends up delivering early by ecs and spends 3 days in intensive care.

I can't imagine that 3 weeks after this very traumatic event she would want to leave her baby and fly up to Edingburgh to work. Even if it is just "sitting behind a desk".

I think she felt tremendous pressure to return so quickly. Simon cowel is a monster who would not give a flying fig that she has just nealy died, he only cares about himself and his programmes. If he had an ounce of humanity he would have told her that her job was 100% safe and she was to take more time off.

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