To wonder why on earth Amanda Holden is back at work already!?

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Just 3 weeks ago she has an emergency CS, nearly died and spent a few days in intensive care. Surely she should be at home resting for a while longer yet?

And presumably the father will be helping? Or is the shock factor of going back to work just reserved for mothers?

Baby is with grandmother not father. Also I think to deny that there is any difference between the mother and father in the postpartum period is beyond ludicrous. Of course mothers shouldn't be parted from the baby that biologically they are expected to be the sole source of nutrition for. I think the bonding process for mothers and fathers is naturally very different. That's the way it is meant to be. It doesn't mean that ultimately one is more or less important than the other but to pretend they can both be the same isn't really doing anyone any favours.

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I entirely agree it'd be her choice. If indeed it is her choice.
I suspect she is under enormous pressure to fullfil contractural obligations and will be aware that her time as one of TVs pretty faces is time limited .

Re mat leave: yes, it's a total bore, I personally found vast parts of looking after infants horribly boring, frustrating and of course hard work, but still think that initial time with new babies is so important for them that more rather than less parental leave that can be shared equally between both parents should be the way forward.

Maybe she really really enjoys doing BGT? Maybe the money she gets from it will see her family right for the foreseeable? Maybe she doesn't have anything else lined up for the future?

As other posters have said she will have a team backing her up. Both she and the baby will be well looked after. In sure there is plenty if time for cuddles inbetween shoots.

Not sure why everyone is assuming that deep down she doesn't want to bd going this .

Perhaps she doesn't feel the need to be around a squaling baby 24/7. Of course it's shitty if she was pressured to return, but if those are the terms of the contract those are the terms. If it's her choice however I think it's daft to be making such judgemental comments as some of those on this thread. Not everyone deals with trauma the same way, and there seems to be a lot of projection going on here.

In sure there is plenty if time for cuddles inbetween shoots.

I doubt she's travelling between Edinburgh and London to cuddle the baby between shoots!

Good God at the character assassination of SC! Do you know him then quicklookbusy? Have you ever worked for him? On what do you base your exceedingly judgey and snidey post?

No - I don't know him nor have I or will I ever work for him but given that I'd probably think twice before denouncing him as a complete monster of a slave driver. Your post was absurd.

Well...after my emergency c-sec I rested too much I think. Didn't get out of bed really for over a day, let people do things for me etc. Took forever to heal and feel better.

A lady I know had a c-section a year ago, she was up and about at the gym part-time (her job) within the month. Looking great inside and out.

This time I may have to have another section, definitely going to be up and about and moving around quicker. I will have a 4yo so less choice in the matter.

YANBU to wonder but this thread is making me at all the knicker hoisting and harrumphing. Who cares if she is back at work / dancing the two step / knitting jackets out of weasel wool? Does not matter a jot to anyone but her and her family and I presume they are in on the reasons.

I also don't think what "she feels up to" is much of a guide. I "felt up to" a shopping trip a week after my cs and ended up back in hospital 2 days later with an infection. I massively overestimated what I could do and set my recovery back as a result.

I imagine Simon Cowell is a very caring friend actually, a lot of what we see is for the cameras.

It matters because when a public figure does something like this it increases the expectations heaped on all new mothers. We get precious little recovery time as it is!

I feel very sorry for her. The BGT is probably the best she can get and if she loses that she won't have much to fall back on. She's not exactly an A-lister these days.

I was told by midwives and nurses that being too active after a CS is a bad idea, they just say it to clear the beds quicker. I'm sure her baby is fine and backstage but her body has been through a lot. Horrible cut-throat simon cowell and show business .

vickity sorry but Simon cowell only thinks of himself. I know people who work with him.

No one will say anything against him in public beca

I see him as very driven, like Richard Branson and Bill Gates. Driven to succeed in their chosen fields and be successful at what they do. Nothing wrong with it in the slightest and I would expect that they keep business life and personal life very seperate so even if they are arseholes at work they could be teddy bears at home? Or Vice Versa. This is in the context of work though and ultimately SC needs someone there regardless for the duration. If AH can't do it he will find someone else to fill that role very easily one would imagine, and the fact is he needs someone in that role.

I'll admit to being stunned she intended to return so quickly, even before all the CS and ICU drama that happened for her. And while I personally don't judge her for it (I'm sure she had her reasons), I don't think she's going to come off very well in the wider public perception.

Sorry pressed too soon

Simon holds so much power, no one on the business would say anything against him in public. In private however he is known as someone who will appear very nice to your face then will get someone else to do his dirty work to get rid of you if you do something he doesn't like.

cutegorilla you are right, not much time for cuddles!! Apologies, I didn't realise that they were at different ends of the country.

I did scan the thread, but missed that bit.

I won't be watching BGT. Alesha Dixon and her annoying laugh, and David Walliams just being David Walliams? Let alone AH and SC. No ta.

Agree with Poobearshole's first post.

I'd imagine that's because Amanda is not well enough to travel up there other than by flying and the baby is too young to fly.

I find it very interesting comparing the responses on this thread to the ones on a thread about someone expected to go to a wedding soon after a planned cs. People on there were horrified at the very thought.

Cute- the wedding one was totally different. This is a grown adult who has CHOSEN to return to work. You have no idea of the reasons why. Are you quite so vocal about other choices mothers make that you don't deign to be 'right'?? What does it matter to YOU??

Here it is www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1391304-About-DBros-wedding-and-no-children-rule

The baby in that thread was expected to be 10 days old, not so different from 2 weeks.

Again the lady in that thread didn't WANT to travel miles and leave her baby- if she'd have WANTED to I'm sure people would have been quite supportive of her choice being an adult and everything

I feel sory for AH. She is an intelligent woman and sh must therefore know that her shelf life for this kind of thing is limited and I think she must feel an immense pressure to carry on working for as long as possible.

I doubt she relishes the thought of being without her very young baby BUT this is her career and how she supports herself and her family so if SHE feels she wants and or needs to return to work so soon that is HER choice.

Personally, I wouldn't do it but I am not her and don't face her choices, instead I make my own based on how they effect my family. Pretty sure she is just doing what she belives is right for hers.