to ask the school to seperate yr 2 girls and boys when changing for PE

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my dd is almost 7 and wants me to buy her cropped tops to wear under her school blouse as 'the boys laugh and point at the girls boobies' when they change for PE.

My dd is getting distressed about this, She is completley flat chested still and I dont want to buy her a bra like top but I dont want her to be self concious either.

WIBU to speak to the teacher ?
Is this normal behaviour ?

I am guessing they wont have facilities to change seperatly but I dont want her to feel like this for another year before she moves to middle school.

cheers pip. I too suffered abuse about wearing a bra at ten....twas awful. Bra strap pinged daily.

BUt these are SIX year olds. I think from year 4 onwards it does need to be separate changing rooms.

posie that's rotten and I can sort of understand your post a bit more now. Because we have middle school the kids seem to be seen as that bit more grown up than if they were at primary school, most of ds's class mates have breasts and wear bras/crop tops ( they are 10/11) and it isn't seen as unusual.

valium

that's exactly the point, isn't it? there should be no need for pointing and laughing at aged 6...but it's happening. whatever the reason for the OPs DD to bring it up, it's happening

Or maybe it happened just once? Who knows. I'd want a lot more info before I made any judgements on the boys OR the teacher.

Actually there is no need for kids to giggle, point and laugh at a lot of stiff, but they still do it.

i agree, they do point and giggle at a lot of stuff

i don't agree that pointing and giggling at each other's bodies is appropriate, especially if some children feel intimidated by it

IF it happens regularly.

nope

not ever

The teacher could well have heard it said ONCE and put a stop to it there and then.

That is my final word on the matter, I need to go and tidy up. Amen

but the OP says the girls have been told to 'ignore it' - that makes me a sad panda

As long as it was only once and teacher dealt with it very firmly.

Just reminds me of a song about how men are socialised from a young age to objectify women, as it's acceptable. Must find it.

Lordy this thread has moved on a bit.

I think my dd has gone off the idea of cropped tops as they will make her itchy but she wants a vest ' so the boys don't look at her boobs ' so I think it is more than a plea for a cropped top.

We went through the whole pants / boxers thing with her older brother and now the wise women of mn have made me think about it I am more cross that ridicule of this type is being allowed and not dealt with effectively.

I will be speaking to teacher after half term.

Btw I have had school aged children for 7 years and have never before ' gone to speak to the teacher' so wish me luck

Good luck!

well dd is delighted with her plain white vests so valium who was convinced this was a ploy for her to get a cropped top - you was wrong

Dd is a little younger (Y1) and she wears vests. I am planning on buying the more cami-style vests when she reaches 7 or so.
I am to hear of a 6 year old wanting a bra top