to ask if you met your soulmate?

[weddingringdilemma]

I realised with a jolt the other day at age 38, married with 4 children, that I didn't.
Eh and I get on ok, and when we first met I did think he was my One. If there is such a thing, and I still believe there us. But if it weren't for the children I'm pretty sure we wouldn't be together... He has no conversation, at least for me, though I love talking, chatting, discussing stuff. It's like getting blood out of a stone talking to him though he lights up around other people. We have little in common, he loves the outdoors, camping etc, which I don't. I'm pretty sure he finds my interests such as craft and shopping boring and shallow. Sometimes when we fight I can tell he truly dislikes me, and I feel the same way. We don't fight often, and get on well sometimes. But there's no way he's my soulmate...if he exists, I'm never going to meet him now as I would never leave my marriage and break up our family.

[pranma]

I have been married 3 times divorced from childhood sweetheart after 3 years of marriage,widowed from dh2 after 17 years and 2 dc.Now been married for 23 years to a man who is my best friend,the other half of me-my soul-mate in every way. It was certainly third time lucky for me.

[pranma]

Just to add-the first time I went out with him we were talking about acupuncture and he lightly touched my ear lobe.It was amazing-the quality of the light changed-it was more than a click-it was mutual total realisation-"Ah this is what it's all about."

[marriedinwhite]

The night I met my dh, he had a girlfriend, I was mid ill judged fling. Think very posh do with name places and stuff. Fling was opposite me, to my right was the most handsome, drop dead man I had ever met, on my left I was introduced to dh (not dh then of course) looked at him, looked at his place name and from nowhere - absolutely nowhere came the thought "I will marry that man".

About three months later - after he had split from g/f and remembered where I worked and looked it up in the phone book, he asked me out to dinner and it was the most exciting call of my life. It was a wonderful date and my heart was in my mouth until he rang again. After our 4th date, we never spent a night apart again through choice.

That was almost exactly 23 years ago and yet of course we have had the odd tiff and of course we have worked hard at it - I think all successful marriages take a lot of work. The only sad aspect is that we got out wedding album out the other night and we looked so young .

[numbertaker]

I have met my soul mate, after 39 long years, 1 husband and 2 children.

I first I thought I could live without, then I realised that I could not. so three weeks ago we got together, right under the nose of my husband. But shockingly my soul mate died and left me sobbing.

But it was ok, coz amazon Kindle sent me a new one for £50.

I could never live without my Amazon Kindle, and its leather case, we snuggle up in bed together everynight.

[OhTheInsanity]

numbertaker

[MamaLazarou]

Yes, I met my soulmate, married him, and we are ridiculously happy together. It is brilliant.

[moonblushtomato]

OP I feel exactly the same way about my DH when it comes to conversation - we hardly ever have any deep discussions but then he can't shut up when we're in company.

This does scare me somewhat, especially about the future when kids have flown the nest!

That said, he tells me he loves me every day and/or how lucky he is to have me and he's a lovely dad.

So, no, I don't believe in the soulmate idea. No one gets it all

[Bonsoir]

My DP is my soulmate and we talk for many hours a day, every day!

[snapsnap]

Its just a word really isnt it. Its about whether or not you are happy together. We are so call it what you will

[Pannacotta]

Yes I did meet my soulmate.
Unfortunately I am married to someone else....

[Llanarth]

I met my DH on my first night at university. I knew as soon as I met him that he would be the most important person in my life (and he felt exactly the same). It wasn't love at first sight (I didn't particularly fancy him, although he did me ) but we were best friends and inseparable throughout Uni.

We both had other partners at uni and after, when we were in our early 20's we dated, then split up, then we got back together and have been married for 9 years. We don't always get on, we're quite different people and in some ways quite incompatible. I expect I could have been just as happy with someone else, but because he's my soulmate, I know we'll always be together.

[Bucharest]

I want to hear Pannacotta's story now!

Thanks to this thread I dreamed about mine again last night. But he wasn't in the dream. He never is. I go back there and he's not there.He is the elephant in the room.

[KatieScarlett2833]

They irritate me too Adverse

[NoHunIntended]

Me too, LeQ, DH and I don't work at it, in any way that feels like an effort, anyway! We just are. It's easy, simple. What is this work of which people speak?
We don't argue though, I couldn't be doing with that.

[Lizzylou]

Like others I am not sure about the term soulmate, I am happy with my DH though. On our first date (all day and then all night) I never once felt uncomfortable, just very much at ease in his company.
We make each laugh, can chat about anything and we still get on after 16 years together.

[KatieScarlett2833]

I'm quire sure DH has to work at our relationship.

Me, not so much at all

I sometimes pretend to be interested in what he does for a living, does that count?

[KatieScarlett2833]

LeQ It's catching the cues to nod, smile and frown that seem like work to me. I usually have to put my book down too when he starts to tell me all about BS2835738453894573 and why this particular garment is not suicide-proof.

I mean, Antonia Fraser or that boring tripe. Does he actually think he is more interesting? or that I care?

It would seem so. Men are deluded.

[CheerfulYank]

At least your DH doesn't write manuals about tub grinders for a living. Sweet jeebus.