to have been sarcastic back towards this mother who said my.dd looked overweight.

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Her son is tiny. 6 years old and in age 4-5 clothes. She was complaining about how little he eats and How he needs to eat all the time.
She said I wouldn't know becase my dd is overweight.

Dd is not. She is the height, and consequently weight, of an 8-9 year old child.
The doctor is happy with her. She eats pretty much everything put in front of her, all home cooked meals.swims once a week. Rainbows. Dog walking everyday. In the park, bike riding. Scooters etc.

So, I commented it must be very hard to have a child that won't walk more than 200 meters. Or do any physical activity. ( he doesn't, there is nothing physically wrong with him)

Ffs, where do people get off?

Yanbu

You both sound lovely.

How did this woman actually phrase it?

Sounds like she is worried / defensive about her son

Seems a bit arsey

I dont know why people turn parenthood into a competition!

YANBU.

YANBU. She was less than tactful, for sure.

Her DS does not sound very healthy. If I were her I would be more concerned with my DS lack of wieght gain and energy, than your healthy sounding but tall daughter.

I can understand your annoyance and instinct to protect your child but ultimately you were just mean about a child.

As you are happy with your dd perhaps try to ignore in future. It is hard. But being rude about a child is just hitting a level you don't really want to.

So, you answered rudeness with rudeness. Huh. No wonder the world is going to hell.

Oh wait, I just compounded the problem.

Ah well.

Ok what did this mother actually say?

Hmm, I think I would have bit my lip and not said anything, always the wise option.

bitten.

She sounds like she is worried about her child.

Did she really say, "you wouldn't know because your daughter is overweight"?

I find it had to believe that anyone would actually say that.

"She was complaining about how little he eats and How he needs to eat all the time.
She said I wouldn't know becase my dd is overweight. "

Was there anything that you said between her "complaining about how little he eats and How he needs to eat all the time." and saying that you "wouldn't know becase (your) dd is overweight"?

Anything at all?

Or did she just talk about how little her son eats and then say oh but you wouldn't know about a child not eating, because your child is overweight

Because that sounds really odd and I feel like there is a contribution to the conversation from you missing here. Is there?

She was mean about mine first. Else I wouldn't have said it. But I'm sick of the comments and things at school. ( not.just towards me, but all the gossip too, abd this mother is terrible for it) that I wasn't going to stand there when she called my dd fat.
O told her the doctor was happy with her and.she said ' well, she looks like she could do with loosing some'

well this woman has got a point, if you haven't got any problems with your dd then you wouldn't know would you?

If she really said it out of nowhere than the correct mumsnet response is

"did you mean to be so rude?"

I would have suggested she make an appointment at Specsavers.

Nice bit
Of drip feeding there that I don't believe

Blimey
"she was mean about mine first"

They are children. Being mean about them is grim no matter who started it.

I am sure the last time I had to say something like that my dc was about 8.

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so why get into a convo with her?

Oh, for goodness sake. Why would I make it up?

The mother is a pita, complaining about everythibg at the school all the time. She went.through a stage of accosting mothers in the playground calling their children.bullies ( not me, thank fully ) until someone told her to calm down.

I'm not going to stand there while someone is rude to me.

She sounds horrid, but so do you. I thin you would have been better off just telling her it was rude.

They are 6. I agree, its not nice. Nothing to do with the children really, everything to do with.her.

Obviously I shouldn't have said anything back and just let her call my dd fat..