to have been sarcastic back towards this mother who said my.dd looked overweight.

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Her son is tiny. 6 years old and in age 4-5 clothes. She was complaining about how little he eats and How he needs to eat all the time.
She said I wouldn't know becase my dd is overweight.

Dd is not. She is the height, and consequently weight, of an 8-9 year old child.
The doctor is happy with her. She eats pretty much everything put in front of her, all home cooked meals.swims once a week. Rainbows. Dog walking everyday. In the park, bike riding. Scooters etc.

So, I commented it must be very hard to have a child that won't walk more than 200 meters. Or do any physical activity. ( he doesn't, there is nothing physically wrong with him)

Ffs, where do people get off?

Yeah but no, but yeah but no, but did you give each other evils?

Some people have no filter. They say what comes into their mind without considering the effect it has. You say people are talking behind your back, she said it to your face. Is that worse? I'm not excusing it, but the best thing to do is point out that she is being rude and not reduce yourself to her level by being deliberately nasty about a child.

It is hard to take any criticism direct or implied of one's children as they are a reflection of ones self and that's always going to niggle. However, the dignified response is always to ask the person to repeat themselves because you can't believe how rude they are being.

And also consider this - maybe she does have a point, you seem to indicate more than one person has said this - GPs don't know everything and don't always get things right, are you sure she should be the weight she is at her age? I know height makes a difference, of course it does, but it's also quite easy for a GP faced with a cross concerned mother to say 'yes it's fine' than have a prelonged conversation about weight issues.

Also, the other mum may actually just be one of those stringbean family people that are tiny, some people are. Doesn't mean he's not healthy, or that he is healthy, if he's a lazy sod, that's bog all to do with his height or weight. I'm pretty lazy myself, at any weight or height.

Is it really difficult to ubderstand?

You respond by saying 'you are being incredibly rude' in whatever version of that suits you. I have no issue with that, it seems fair enough.

But retaliating by being rude about her child is snide

I don't think people are talking behind my back???

Ubderstand is hard to understand.

I'm sorry I don't believe you and I'm leaving this thread.

On the other hand, has it occurred to you that she was perhaps trying to empathise and share her concerns about her child's problems?

Well I misunderstood when you said "I'm sick of all the comments at school"

"She started it!"

Marvellous

I like your username though OP.

On another note...my DS2 had a perfectly healthy BMI but was at one time getting a fat belly on him.

Not that this in anyway excuses you and the other Mum being rude to each other, I'm just pointing out that my Doc was perfectly happy with his weight.

We weren't though because we used our eyes rather than mathematics and ensured he exercised more and lost it.

Grown women sniping about each other's kids, will never end well.

No, she is fine. A nurse has said so as well. I have been told not to make an issue about it.
Her weight is not right for her age, no. But both the doctor and nurse have said, if you put her age to 8, to match her height, then she is fine.

I have not gone to the doctors cross, please don't put a spin on.this. I have been to the doctors twice, because she is so much bigger than her peers.

Sounds like a thoroughly unedifying exchange all round, tbh. I feel sorry for the children caught up in it.

I.agree.
Obviously I won't say anything next Time.

But she was rude, I normally take it, then go home and feel upset. This time I thought I'd say something back.

I know it wasn't nice.

Try saying something back that isn't about her child, ffs.

There were a lot of things you could have said back that had nothing to do with her child.

"Did you mean to be so rude" is a MN chestnut but very effective.

She was indeed rude but if she ever does it again focus on her attitude and behavior. Don't stoop and pick on a kid.

She was mean about mine first

so i stamped my feet, pouted and scweamed and scweamed until i was sick

then i pulled her hair

Op, my niece was much bigger than her peers and my sister found it hard. Even nice people would say 'bliney she's massive' because she looked years older even though her body was in proportion to her height.

And even though my sister knew she was fine it bothered her.
If you don't mind me saying it sounds like you are anxious. Perhaps that is why you over reacted.
Just concentrate on your dd and ignore the snipers.

And, are you all being just as mean, if not meaner to me now?.

No.

hth

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You are not a child op.

Are you sure you're not infact 5 and posting on mummys PC?

I'm not anxious about it, its not an issue.
Doesn't bother.me, until people snipe at be about it, then, when I am nice and try to brush it away, by saying the doctor is happy with her. They continue and say.she still.looks like.she could lose some weight.

I.did try to brush the comment away, I didn't just snap in.her face.

Obviously it does worry you or why does what she thinks matters?