to have been sarcastic back towards this mother who said my.dd looked overweight.

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Her son is tiny. 6 years old and in age 4-5 clothes. She was complaining about how little he eats and How he needs to eat all the time.
She said I wouldn't know becase my dd is overweight.

Dd is not. She is the height, and consequently weight, of an 8-9 year old child.
The doctor is happy with her. She eats pretty much everything put in front of her, all home cooked meals.swims once a week. Rainbows. Dog walking everyday. In the park, bike riding. Scooters etc.

So, I commented it must be very hard to have a child that won't walk more than 200 meters. Or do any physical activity. ( he doesn't, there is nothing physically wrong with him)

Ffs, where do people get off?

Op you're human. Don't worry about it.

With hindsight I'm sure we could all come up with something great and witty I say but there you go.

The other woman needed to stfu and hopefully your comment did that. It does seem high that you are likely to continue getting comments like this so if I were you, I'd come up with a few comments so you can reply in future and not feel bad.

OP - Bear in mind that being overweight in small children can show itself as being very tall too. If you and DH are both tall or one of you is very tall then chances are it's fine. If you're not that tall then it does sound like your DD is overweight and it's showing itself in her height as well as her weight.

I'm not saying you should worry if the HCPs say don't but the other mum saying your DD was overweight was probably just telling the truth. As she did it out of earshot of DD I think you're being oversensitive.

I imagine that most children who look fat are fat. I mean - we're not exactly unused to seeing overweight kids in the UK are we?

And there's a mass of evidence suggesting many parents of fat children don't recognise that their offspring are overweight.

Are you sure your dd isn't actually hefty?

She's not thin, but she's not fat.
As I said,both her doctor, and a nurse, on seperated occasions have said she is fine, and I.Wss warned against making a thing of it.

The nurse laughed at me. Told me not to be silly.

So, no. She is not fat.

Gould, did you not read that my ex husband is 6ft 5. And his entire family.are over 6ft. Including tge women.

OK she's not fat we get it. I'm very surprised the other mum said anything to you...

She just looks bigger, Because all her peers.are.smaller..stand.her with 8 year olds, who are the same height, and she looks fine.

Probably because.next to her child, mine looks like a giant.

She.did say that the boy in.the class, who is also tall ( and looks bigger) looks like he could lose weight. Ive seen him in swimming trunks, he.is fine. And again. In proportion.to.his height.

right - have uploaded some pics of dd for a limited time.
Now - i know she is not thin, and neither is she a slip of a girl, but really, does she look fat?

( she turned 6 two weeks ago) both pics were taken when she was 5.

OK - I agree she doesn't look fat in the photos. It's rather difficult to tell due to the lifejacket in one and the table in the other but certainly her face and arms look slim. I guess she's just going to be tall then like her Dad.

ah , ill try and find another in the dress.

You don't have to prove anything to random people on the internet, watchout.

People are goading you.

I think maybe it's best left

If you got upset over this woman saying anything about your daughter then certainly internet people saying things is going to have the same effect.

Maybe you need to learn to have some more confidence that you and your family are OK and then if anyone says anything you will be able to shrug it off more easily.

Don't post pics to prove stuff. Really.

She doesn't look fat - she looks just right to me, watchout. And lovely, too. As I said earlier, I think the other mum was rude, and YANBU to be upset - but I think you could have handled it another way.

yes, you are right. this is what this morning was all about, standing up for myself and dd and not letting people be so rude to me.

Seems that was wrong too.

The woman this morning was bloody rude. DD is not fat. She should learn some manners. Im not very well equpit to deal with people when they are so rude to your face, you know. Just stumps me that people would say such things.

I feel like i need to, because people are clearly making all kinds of judgments that are wrong. same as this bloody woman this morning.
I do not like things that are wrong being spouted about those dearest to me. And im sure most people would feel the same way.

just, i know DD is going to have this all her life, people making comments. I hate that.
i remember the biggest girl in my class, she was a lot larger than everyone, we all thought she was HUGE. Children are not nice, and i know what it did to her self esteme.
I dont want that happening to dd, but it seems thats whats going to happen anyway, because i cant help her size. I dont want her to have a complex, people are always going on about how ' big' she is.
I dont want her hurt or feeling bad about herself about that. At the momment she is ok about it, has the occassional wobble, but im trying to make her proud of her size, not trying to hide it or be apolegic for it.

Its bloody difficult, esp when people play the ' shes fat' card.

I don't think she looks fat at all OP.
And yes this woman was rude, I think you should practise a few retorts in readiness, without bringing her boy into it, in case she says anything again.

Op sweetheart take your photos down and go and have a cuppa.

You don't need validation from people on the internet or horrid women on the street that your family are fine and you are doing a good job

And remember this.

If someone is rude, if little bits of spite escape them, it's because they are so full of unhappiness that they can't hold it all in, and they want to make others unhappy too.

If someone is unpleasant, they are to be pitied. If there is another time, just laugh as if you are terribly amused and say, "Righty-oh, lovely." This will also give dd a good example of how to deal with people's nonsense.

shagmund, if the OP was one of those delusional parents regarding their child's weight, passing Macdonalds through the school gates, she's hardly likely to be posting photos of her DD on Mumsnet for all to see and validate her concerns?

Ghoul, do you have a 6 year old boy that wears 4 year old clothes and won't walk very far?

"if the OP was one of those delusional parents regarding their child's weight, passing Macdonalds through the school gates"

My niece is overweight and my nephew is obese, despite the fact that both are extremely active, play regular competitive sports, and only eat home cooked meals with masses of vegetable. It's a myth that the only children who are overweight are those who eat junk food and don't exercise. It's an oversimplification of the issue.

Anyhows, I must have missed the picture of the OP's dd. Will go back now and have a look.

OP you and this mum both have children at extreme ends of what is normal. Wouldn't you have been better to support on eanother in accepting that it doesn't bloody matter.

All of you who are slating the op, have you really never said a comment in the heat of the moment? That's what this was, the woman was downright rude, stop trying to second guess why, and give her excuses, maybe she's just a rude cow.

Ok it wasn't the best reply but give the op a break.