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Idiot Husband

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coffecoffe · 05/02/2012 19:43

Just caught my husband watching porn in the living room infront of me and my 3 year old. I'm raving but he told me to get a grip.

what do you guys think????

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silverbay · 05/02/2012 19:56
Hmm
signet · 05/02/2012 19:58

Disgusting. He needs to sort his priorities out. Can't believe he'd be watching porn while son was in the room. Or you for that matter. If it was my DH he'd be getting an absolute bollocking from me about now.

larks35 · 05/02/2012 19:59

Urgh that is just disgusting. Was it a link he was sent or had he purposely searched for it? I just can't get my head around someone searching for porn in the presence of their wife and kid! I think I'd kick him out for the night at least, especially if his reaction to being caught out was to tell ME to get a grip!

I've never said this on a post before but OP tell him to get out of your sight until he comes to some realisation that what you caught him doing was totally out of order.

AThingInYourLife · 05/02/2012 20:00

If he was my DH he'd be phoning hotels looking for somewhere to stay tonight right about now.

Ick! And

twincrazy · 05/02/2012 20:01

Crickey - Id hit the roof - and seriously be thinking about what this guy is about - he should be playing with his child and leaving his addictive viewing until your child is in bed

Id also seriously get him out the house for a while if you can

taxiforme · 05/02/2012 20:02

Hi

I cannot tell you how serious this is and it is clear that he knew the child was there.

I assume that he was being a twatt

BUT

If he is getting his kicks from allowing a child to see porn then he is committing an offence under s 12 Sexual Offences Act 2003 and would be liable for 10 years and rule 43 in prison as a nonce.

Sorry to be so harsh.

Heyyyho · 05/02/2012 20:05

Very, very serious indeed. Sad

I would be making plans to end this relationship pretty pronto, he has exposed a young child to pornography which I believe is a criminal act.

TheSecondComing · 05/02/2012 20:06

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Proudnscary · 05/02/2012 20:08

Secondcoming - WTF?? Are you serious??

Heyyyho · 05/02/2012 20:09

TSC I read that thread and didn't feel the general feeling was that it was "ok" at all

JustHecate · 05/02/2012 20:09

Shock bloody hell, TSC. who was that?

I can only assume that the people on this thread are different people than those who were on the other thread, so it is a case of different people having different opinions and not the same people thinking that one was ok but this one is abusive.

fwiw, I didn't see the other thread and would have thought that behaviour VERY wrong also.

TheSecondComing · 05/02/2012 20:09

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Threeprinces · 05/02/2012 20:09

What he did is unacceptable but what people don't seem to be realising is that the child couldn't see the laptop screen so wasn't exposed to it. Still totally not on but people are talking about abuse here and he seriously overstepped a boundary but he didn't expose the child to it.
Unless I've for the wrong end of the stick?

Ghoulwithadragontattoo · 05/02/2012 20:12

Some over reaction here. I think you have it right OP your DH is an idiot to be watching porn while a child is in the room. But given child was not able to see screen and DH was probably having a sneaky peak I would say tell him not to do it again. I think kicking him out would be an over reaction unless there's more to this.

larks35 · 05/02/2012 20:13

Threeprinces - I agree, abuse didn't come to my mind at all. Just complete disregard and disrepect toward his family. Which is enough for an eviction until he shows some remorse IMO.

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 05/02/2012 20:14

If the child couldn't see it, it is irrelevant that the child was in the room. Grips need to be got.

On the other thread most people said it wasn't on, some said it was OK. The Op and her partner were under a blanket and the child wasn't paying any attention to them.

AThingInYourLife · 05/02/2012 20:15

I realise that the child didn't see the laptop, but as the OP was able to get a good goo without being noticed, I don't accept that the child couldn't have seen it.

larks35 · 05/02/2012 20:16

Ghoul - But to react to it by telling the OP to "get a grip"? That would be the killer for me. I'd be incandescent with rage and would have to get him out of my sight.

TheSecondComing · 05/02/2012 20:16

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AThingInYourLife · 05/02/2012 20:18

It absolutely is not irrelevant that the child was in the room when an adult was watching porn.

Unless the child was asleep.

I have a 3 year old.

I would not leave her alone with someone who would watch porn while she was in the same room.

KittyFane · 05/02/2012 20:19

thesecondcoming god that thread is grim.
As for 'known posters so that's ok then'... I'm with you, no it's not ok.
The poems are vile too.

squeakytoy · 05/02/2012 20:20

If the child couldnt see it, then the child wasnt abused in any way.. but it is still eughhhh that some bloke could be happily turning himself on watching porn while his kid is in the same room... why on earth would you do that?

why not go into the bedroom with the laptop and do it in private... Confused

AThingInYourLife · 05/02/2012 20:20

I feel the same about shagging.

Agree with TheSecond.

JustHecate · 05/02/2012 20:21

That baffles me too, TSC. Totally baffles me.

To become aroused when your child is right there - how? How can you (not you you Grin) be seeing your child running around, making noise and at the same time feel sexy and want to have sex with your partner? While the child is there. I mean - surely having your child right there is something that kills the mood? I don't see how it's possible to be turned on while your kid's 2 feet away making a lego tower.

squeakytoy · 05/02/2012 20:22

I do think it is important to clarify though.. was he actually watching porn, as in seeking out porn to watch.. or was it a bit more innocent like flicking through your mates facebook page and clicking on a link without knowing what the actual content was..