If you're the type of person who notices other peoples MN names...

[AgentZigzag]

...how do you not remember some things you've read them say so it doesn't influence you when you come across them again?

Not anything in particular, but when posters say 'well I never take any notice of which poster says what', what if you can't help but make the connection?

I agree spats and shit shouldn't be dragged across the boards, and that a poster who's seemingly being shitty one minute on a thread you can have a laugh with the next.

But sometimes it's hard not to let what you've read colour your view of a poster.

I'm not being unreasonable I've had gin or I wouldn't have posted would I? or ? Can't decide.

I respond to post,not poster.no I don't recall who said what on such and such thread.why would i

Those who recall names usually do their love in threads or pop up to gripe you is a bad un

i think if someone is just mean and it is unwarrented - this is different from say - having a different pov and debating this pov in adult fashion.

It seems to be like a top trumps thing sometimes bluddy, like a 'I have far more important things in my life than get involved with strangers online' kind of thing. I have a bit of a lurk in the week and mostly post at weekends, but you get the gist of who's who even just doing that.

I don't get into any 'love in' threads (although I'm kind of attracted to the sound of them ) SM, it's just that I love reading what people decided would be a good MN for themselves and they stick in my head - along with all sorts of other irrelevant shite. I can't help it!

I'm ashamed to say I've not posted on a thread when I've seen who it was started by, but I'm comfortable (because of my anonymity) in not being completely objective.

Is this not about connecting with people then do you think SM?

I'm not connecting with anyone,pragmatically it's online blah with strangers

There's a couple of people who I have recently been surprised agreed with me about something. Tends to be people I disagree with that I notice and NannyOgg and Jackrum because they also love Mr Pratchett.

yes zigsag, what great way of getting out of being rubbish to people. by pretending they aren't people at all

I totally agree MrsP (but only because DH is a huge Tezza fan ).

Are you agreeing with what I've said or being a bit sarky Custy? Can't make it out. If it's sarky then I'm the opposite and can't help but see the people behind the names, and I hope I'm never shitty with anyone unless they're being a twat.

Haven't you ever taken a poster 'offline' and thought about how they're doing in RL SM?

Someone who posted something that really resonated with what you've experienced in RL, you've talked to them online and then found yourself wondering how they're doing the next day?

I know for sure I don't get too involved online, but whether for positive or negative reasons, some posts/posters can make you think from a different angle.

No.dont commit poster name to memory
Yes naturally read stuff and it resonates
Have too much rl and work stuff to ponder the what ifs on mn
I switch off and switch off

I don't commit the names to memory in a creepy vendetta kind of way SM

They just stick, the fuckers.

I shall now give weight to everything you type since your DH is a fellow obsessive. I don't notice the names sometimes but during a sad/scary/weird thread people often say MNname something something so I do note the name even if I don't see it at the top of the post.

I don't remember any names apart from anyfucker who I think is funny/lovely and squeakytoy who has sex with her kid walking round am still shocked by that

Surely it's okay to remember people and react accordingly?

It's not okay to stamp over and declare that you aren't going to reply to their thread because in your opinion they are a cunt, but it is fine not to waste time and effort on people who have previously shown themselves to be cunts. Similarly, I make more of an effort with people who I have previously found to be kind, friendly, knowledgeable, helpful etc.

Slife innit?

Dammit SilentBoob I thought that your post was good, now I find myself checking your name. Aargh, what has Agent done? Must stop looking at names. I thought it was StrandedBear bonkinking with the kids around.

That was bonking but bonkinking sounds good.

Ooh it's a while since I've had any bonkinking action.

< wistful >

Lol that's right strandedbear lol that just proves the point I forget who's who!

Maybe that's why people namechange, because they don't want to be 'sterotyped', or join in a thread with someone they don't usually get on with. It's probably because they're bored with their old name though, like me .

Agent, I think I know what you mean and I agree with you. I recall feeling quite fond of a certain poster until the time she expressed a certain point of view that just completely shocked me, and I've never felt the same about her again. I think of it every time I see her post something.
I think for some people, it's easy to recognize certain posting names. Others maybe don't see the names, they only see what's written.
Not that I hold onto grudges or anything but I definitely recall the names of offensive posters and like to imagine throwing rotten eggs at them :o.

I tend to read what's written first and then find myself thinking oh yes, that's from so-and-so. Some posters are very extreme in their views and stand out. They rarely drift from a strong ideological viewpoint and I am never surprised to read a post and discover it comes from them. OTOH I love the fact that I can disagree with someone so hugely on one topic and be in agreement with them on another, even though that happens less often. I will admit that I will give more consideration to an unexpected POV from a poster whose views I normally respect.

I'm the same as sunshine (I think). I read the post then look to see who said it. I do have an issue with one poster that I always seem to disagree with - I read the post, see who wrote it and think "oh yes, that's XXX being an ignorant cowbag again". Actually, if I'm being honest, should XXX post a sad/needy post I would ignore it, and think "just desserts"

I was really surprised by a 'regular' poster the other day, posting what I thought were very bitchy, antagonistic and passive agressive posts. Later on I discovered that there is a train of thought that she does it all the time on that particular topic. I have to say that it has coloured my view of her somewhat - to a point that I can't help reading other things she's written with a bit of a dismissive air.

Actually you know, I think now that my first line was bollocks. I have views on certain posters, and that colours my view on their posts. That only goes for that more regular posters though - if I don't recognise the name I don't have any preconceived ideas.

Of course we have views on posters, there are a few I think are complete and utter twats but I agree you can't carry things over different topics. Although a couple of posters I have 'disliked' on one post have spoken a lot of sense of another post. But at the end of the day it's posts on the Internet and it doesn't affect my life so I am not bothered really.

Iy wasn't squeakytoy who had a shag whilst her child was in te room it was stradedbear - see that kind of thing - attributing somwothing to a poster they didn't do because you can't be arsed to get your facts right is really off. Unless you have your facts right you really should not post that my2centsis, it is very unfair to the poster you have wrongly named.

I admit, in that case I can't help but remember that strandedbear did that everytime I see her name on other posts and think urgh...