If you're the type of person who notices other peoples MN names...

[AgentZigzag]

...how do you not remember some things you've read them say so it doesn't influence you when you come across them again?

Not anything in particular, but when posters say 'well I never take any notice of which poster says what', what if you can't help but make the connection?

I agree spats and shit shouldn't be dragged across the boards, and that a poster who's seemingly being shitty one minute on a thread you can have a laugh with the next.

But sometimes it's hard not to let what you've read colour your view of a poster.

I'm not being unreasonable I've had gin or I wouldn't have posted would I? or ? Can't decide.

There are some posters that I delight in reading, and some that I am prejudiced about in that I feel I'm going to dislike or disagree what they are saying before I read it.
I always do read, in the hope that this time I'll be mistaken and they will have become a different person.
Usually they haven't.
There are other posters that I don't respond to, because their Yin is so far from my Yang we are never going to find common ground for discussion and it's a waste of my time. Others on the same thread may delight in reading them, and that is one of the joys of this place. The differences.

This thread will not end well. They never do.

I don't really remember names apart from Worra whom I quite 'heart'..

I do remember scenarios though and will be thinking of tiredmumno1 all day, wondering if her heating is back on yet. :(

I think the "who are you, anyway, I've not seen your posts" don't really work as an ego-prick... it needs something bigger than t-h-a-t. Generally, I try to think that if a response irks me, I've taken it in a way that wasn't intended by the writer... I try to, anyway. :)

If someone posts about a distressing rl situation, I will often wonder how they are getting on, when I see them post on other threads. I don't ask though, because presumably they would update their own thread if they wanted to talk about it.

Some posters stick in my mind, but I try to judge each post on its own merits - it doesn't seem fair to do otherwise. Although I might think 'Oh there's X. She always thinks this about a particular topic.'

I think it's unrealistic to not let what someone says on one thread colour your view of them on another. And over time, of course you build up a view of someone.

However, given that I have looked back at old threads on similar topics and found that I have been spouting utterly contradictory views between me and myself, perhaps we shouldn't take things too seriously.

I'm not on MN often enough to remember what someone said in a thread yesterday, last week or last month really, unless there's been a spectacular bunfight.

I do think about certain posters who are going through a tough time, perhaps only fleetingly, but genuinely.

I believe each poster comes onto a thread with a different opinion on everything, so I certainly don't take it to heart if I have a run-in with one. I'm sure we'll agree somewhere else

I find that I get my ShitList wrong loads of times, a lot of the lowercase/number names blur into one in my tiny mind and I forget who has pissed me off .

I am also worried by a few poster's RL situation but there's nothing I can do about it

yes, i remember people and details, don't think it's difficult, and I don't have a spreadsheet :o If I don't "like" people (as much as you can dislike someone on the internet) I just avoid posting on their threads. If I have disagreed with someone, I can easily find myself agreeing on another thread. That's life.

although I do get people mixed up so try to not to assume I'm right unless I'm sure.
How's that nasty, embarrassing boil on your bum Sue?

Reality if you laminate the shitlist surely it takes a lot of effort to maintain. May I suggest an online list - you maybe need a sharepoint site to organise your MN life. You could get a secretary.

I'm brand new to this site so I have no clue why you wouldn't be influenced by previous posts from others if you recognise them by name. Is it some sort of Mumsnet Nettiquette or something that you're just to ignore what you know? Odd...

runningwilde if you actually read the thread you would see that someone has already corrected my mistake and I admitted I got the names mixed!

Sqeakytoy if you were offended at all by my mistake I apologise

Sydney, it's to generally bad form to go onto a thread and say "but you're the person who disagreed with my favourite chocolate biscuit and therefore I diagree with everything you say hence".

That wasn't me with the Arse Boil, Stealth, that was Stratters. I was the one with the third nipple and the attitude problem.
Silly you.

Stealthpolarbear I'm not the type to do that (Mainly beacuse most forums I've belonged to insist that you don't mention previous threads) but I can't just turn off my inner judge-o-meter either.

So I suppose publically I'd say nothing and I would definately not give an opinion based on what I thought of the person asking the question but, by the same token, I would probably give their opinion a little less weight if I knew them to be generally full of it.

I've got a really bad image in my head from 'laminated shitlist'.

Yes, I think that's what I probably do Sydney

Surprised you've got the time what with all that wandering around having sex in front of the kids Squeaky

I dont even have sex in front of the husband if I can help it.....

I only remember a tiny handful of posters but tend to respond to their posts rather then 'them'.

It's easier that way to agree with them on one thread and disagree on another.

Anyway, as soon as I start to remember names...everyone has a name change fest.

Siamo I keep reading your name as Salmonella