Quite, BelleDame
I do think that certain parts of society like to think that they love their children more; that if you loved your child enough you would manage X Y and Z
that's rubbish: the vast majority of people adore their children, regardless of income. Some people are damaged and struggle to cope with parenting, some people are lacking in opportunities- maybe they live in the Valleys of Wales or had to care for the ir Mum as a child and missed most of their schooling. Some people haven't a clue how to get back on their feet after being kncoked off them by a divorce, illness, redundancy.
Many people have lost their jobs and are just trying to cope- evidence is showing clearly that one's ability to manage that is regional. My closest city is Newport; BBC news today is saying that it is harder here (and in Swansea) than many other places. People can't just move- there isn't the low cost housing elsewhere. Yet because it's cheaper here the government policies will seem to want people to move here: where there is no housing, where there are very few jobs since the public and industrial sectors collapsed on us, where certain schools already have hundreds more students than they were built to take (different admissions system- live in catchment get a place regardless of how many of you...). Where social services are having to ration the Sn summer scheme even to those established within the system. Where even a family prioritised as needy cannot get respite and parents of severely disbaled people are refused adult resi unless- to quote a friend's case- 'you are abusing them or dying of a terminal illness'. Where ds4, who is known to have ASD- it's bloody obvious, will post a random pic in my profile in a minute, even visible from that- is stuck way down a hospital list to be seen by a Paed. Where even at a so-called good school ds2 had 13 teachers last year and will have many more next (half expecting school to go into special measures but still 'local posh Church school' to outsiders)
Where do people think the families will end up? Where housing is cheap- Merthyr? Where IDS cheerfully told people to catch q bus into Cardiff except Cardiff has seemingly lost Peacocks and much of Lloyds last week alone. When the HB cuts were brought in thousands of B&B places were pre-booked (at a +++++ cost natch) in Margate and Hastings- I am not familar with these palces tbh but I will bet with their demographics they do not have the infrastructure to cope with hundreds of thousads (200k was one estimate I read) of families needing school palces, GP allocation, hoispital and social services.....
In principle I have no problm with a cap, I am a grear believer in the value of work. But loud claims about tying it to average wage when a family on average wage gets lots of tax credits help just to cope is ridiculous. Cutting child benefit formore children is appalling and IMO immoral. Expecting people to move into low cost housing when ther simply isn't any is stupid.
The idea has some basis in sense, but we do NOT have the basics it takes to make it workable in place, not without human suffering and misery anyhow. Ripping up communities- moving people from possible childcare within the family, care support for older or disabled relations- is bizarre and the opposite of Big Society. 'Care for your aging Mum- even if you've been displaced to Newcastle and she is in Suffolk'.
It's also seemingly pathetic to demonise non working people when there are no jobs to be had. Shifting focus can surely only work for so long. people will notice- won't they? When I got DS1's diagnosis carers (I wasn't officially one then) were not counted amongst the 'unemployment benefits; commonly they are now. It's a massive shift.
But you know what i really loathe? What grates every fibre of me being and makes me furious? It's when someone brings in these policies then looks down a camera and denies it will cause suffering, as IDS did this weekend. Despite a film being shown alongside of a mum and small boy ebing made homeless. WTF? People are killing themselves (see above link). People are in a state of panic.
IF YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE CUTS POLICIES LIKE THIS EITHER HAVE THE BALLS TO ACCEPT THE INEVITABLE FALLOUT FOR REAL LIFE PEOPLE OR FUCK RIGHT OFF
And now I have let that out will go engage my dear little ds4 in activities. Becuase diabolo (nice name) might choose to believe I am Queen Scrote but I am not; I am a good person who loved and prioritises her children. Writing me off as part of some irresponsible mass annoys me immensely.
SWC hellooooo! Only come in when feeling brave LOL. And when my FB page needs a break from the politics 
(somewhere in that rant the line 'These are the palces where the disenfranchised will be expected tomove;' is missing as I found it bizarrely at the end of the piecve but DS4 s making annoying grabs for my 'boobies' and I can't find it between batting him off!)