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to use dc's savings to pay for extra mattress to replace Playmobil that have been abandoned?

142 replies

JoyceDivision · 19/01/2012 11:32

Strange title i know but can't think how to word it!

Not a very serious issue, but I like to consider the weighty opinions or M'nttrs!

Last week, after a wobbler from dd (5) because I wouldn't let her eat a candy cane from school (she's in reception and a bit miffed they gavce them all out, but hey ho..) and we agreed she could keep it and, i dn't know, play with it or look at it or something.. Grin

anyway, got home, dd went upstairs then after a while quite cheerfully asked me to come and look at her bedrom. Sje jad emptied all her playmobil into the middle of her room, school park, the princess castle she got from santa at Christmas!

So I told her to clean it up, went back upstairs after a while and she had trashed the castle... it tookus 4 hours to put it up!!

So all the playmobil has been confiscated, with tyhe agreement dd can have it back in a week but dd must show she can look after it. Dd however is not really that bothered and said she doesn't want ot and we can give it all away..

I'm thinking of doing some swaps with friends so dd isn't bored with it or if she really doesn't like the castle (sob! the carriage, bathroom, bedroom, nursery is with it!), and buying a cheap mattress at about £60 to put under her bed as a den as she seems to like the empty space to read.

So, would I be acting right (as in, not spoiling / giving in to dd) by getting what I think she would like, and since she was sooo naughty, rather than cough up myself, should i take the funds from dd saving a/c and she has in effect bought this herself?

Am i rotten or to soft? Grin

OP posts:
SecretMinceRinser · 19/01/2012 22:18

OK now you've clarified a bit if your daughter broke the castle in a huff why are you considering getting her anything new???

slowburner · 19/01/2012 22:25

That's really bad. Having no respect for her toys, I appreciate it'll be a few years before she can comprehend the idea of money etc but even so to be angry enough and volatile enough destroy an expensive toy I suggest unless you have a pit of money you take breakables away from her, give her some cheap cushions and blanket and let her build a den. Just dont give her any sissors fgs. Oh and fwiw I wouldn't be letting DD have that before her dinner and I'd be miffed at the school too. But I wouldn't give it to her to look at, I would put it away then get rid of it.

But I also kinda hope DD would (when she gets to that age) understand that she doesn't break toys, doesn't eat sweets before dinner and behaves a smudge better. YANBU to be pissed off, but I wouldn't bother buying a mattress, and I wouldn't take it out of her money.

mercibucket · 19/01/2012 22:42

Flippin heck I don't think I could actually snap playmobil walls or turrets! Really and truly snapped?? Wow she is strong
I think your daughter takes after you - both want the last word and to get what you want
Honestly? Probably better overall to have a glass of wine, chill and forget about it. Start afresh tmrw. If playmobil is broken you can't exactly sell or swap it but put it away for a bit and she can play with it again, even if broken, in a few months/year or so, when a bit older

ItsSnowDarling · 19/01/2012 22:53

We have the playmobil castle (the boys version) and it does come apart fairly easily (as DH discovered when trying to carry it upstairs at Christmas) - but I really can't see how your DD can have broken the turrets and Walls in half and who in their right mind would want to swap a trashed castle for anything else?

Kewcumber · 19/01/2012 22:55

Sorry but that is not at all what your OP said Confused

"So all the playmobil has been confiscated, with tyhe agreement dd can have it back in a week but dd must show she can look after it."

That very clearly implies that it is dismantled but still usable otherwise why would you confiscate it and say she can have it back if she looks after it?

Dozer · 19/01/2012 22:56

Mad thread!

marblerye · 19/01/2012 23:00

I don't believe for a minute she has broken the playmobil unless she also has power tools in her bedroom but if she has then their customer services are very good and can send spares.

QuintessentiallyShallow · 19/01/2012 23:05

My son had a playmobil castle. I dont believe for a minute that she has manage to actually snap the pieces in half. Are you sure they are broken not just dismantled?

Construction toys are for constructing with!
If she has actually really broken it (which I doubt, unless she is Arnold Swarchnegger) then you just need to let her construct it back again, anyway!

MamaMaiasaura · 19/01/2012 23:16

Op got slated so she's trying to make it all sound worse so she can be told she did right thing which she didn't

Feel sorry for her dd. dramatic controlling mum.. Lucky girl.

mercibucket · 19/01/2012 23:25

I wouldn't feel too sorry for her dd - I've got a feeling she'll be a match for her mum in a few years

Yorkpud · 19/01/2012 23:40

If she broke the playmobile on purpose then she should see a consequence to her actions. I presume someone spent money on that as a present. Therefore, she should not get anything in return for this (not even a mattress!). I don't really see the problem of taking money out of her savings to buy something for her. We have accounts for our boys and put birthday and christmas money as well as a bit each month, then when we need something for them we use it from there. I hate hard sweets and lollys for children that age as they just crunch them.

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 19/01/2012 23:46
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GoingForGoalWeight · 19/01/2012 23:52

Poor child couldn't eat her candy cane. My Mother did that kind of thing to me. I'm 25 stone :)

BigBoobiedBertha · 19/01/2012 23:55

She would surely have hurt herself if she snapped loads of bits of the Playmobile. You can't snap that stuff without lots of sharp edges richotting all over the place. Actually I couldn't do it at all and I have thought about it so she must have turned into the Incrediable Hulk whilst you weren't looking.

edam · 19/01/2012 23:58

Joyce - are you sure the walls are actually broken, rather than just taken apart? If they are broken, why did you say she 'can have it back in a week'?

imogengladheart · 20/01/2012 00:20

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ComposHat · 20/01/2012 00:59

Is the 5 year old on steroids or does she have a sledgehammer in her room?

Playmobil is sturdy stuff and I doubt I could properly bost it with my bare hands.

belgo · 20/01/2012 06:41

how can you sell it if she has broken it as much as you say?

HeadfirstForHalos · 20/01/2012 07:53

dc twats her pmobil to wind me up

Sounds like it worked a treat Wink

Morloth · 20/01/2012 07:53

I don't actually understand the question/problem.

Kids are often annoying PITAs. HTH.

HeadfirstForHalos · 20/01/2012 07:58

she has BROKEN the entire castle, there are wall panels and turrets actually snapped in half

I don't believe that for a minute. You just have the arse because you don't have unanimous "YANBU"s

MamaMaiasaura · 20/01/2012 08:22

Agree with headfirst.

LoveInAColdClimate · 20/01/2012 08:25

OP, forget arguments about candy canes, your DD is clearly a contender for future World's Strongest competitions if she can break Playmobile with her bare hands at five. You need to start with the protein shakes, Fake Bake and 18 egg omlettes Grin

Groovee · 20/01/2012 08:29

I wouldn't give her back the playmobile but I also wouldn't buy her a mattress for her chill out! She can go without as it sounds like she wouldn't care.

TheProvincialLady · 20/01/2012 08:41

If she can break playmobile castles with her bare hands, she needs to chill outGrin But I do seem to have a flea on my chin.