WHY is it ok to make shitty "fat" comments?

[ButWhyIsTheGinGone]

I'm fat and I know it. I've
been out with a friend in an unfamiliar pub tonight, drinking with his friends who I don't know and just met tonight. I thought all was going ok, we were all having a laugh, chatting nicely, not too many awkward silences you can sometimes get...
So, I was getting picked up as a favour by my mum and joked about how if she forgot it was "only 7 miles" etc and I didnt mind walking in this weather. This fucking guy said loudly, "you don't look like bothered before - why the fuck start now?" In a horrible piss-taking voice.
I just went scarlet and everyone did that "heads down" thing where you pretend you havent heard. I had to sit there with a horrible rictus smile on my face until I could reasonably nip out.
I'm just down. Of course I'm not happy with my size. But I don't deserve shitty comments from a virtual stranger when I've tried my best to get to know a new crowd of people. Felt totally unsettled and began to feel everyone there must have been secretly whispering/laughing about my size when I was in the loo, etc.
The dick was going out for fags every two seconds - I would never dream about making a comment on the state of his lungs - why's fat an ok target?

Usual apologies for length and sel-pitying nature of post - just feel sad.

My response to that would have been "here's a condom, now go fuck yourself" :o

Need a better nickname that is the best comeback EVER. Im on the heavy side at the moment so i hope you dont mind if i file it away in my memory bank for the next time i get a "comment.
OP there is a site called Hollaback where people have been naming and shaming the people who harass for any reason and the places where it happens. Its a movement that started in the States.

Was it banter on his behalf?

I hate banter - thinly disguised rudeness

ldn.ihollaback.org/

carernot feel free to use it it's very rare I am quick enough to think of a comeback so I was so pleased with myself!

How incredibly ill mannered.
He was the one who should be criniging and feeling bad.
What a sociopathic prick.

Good point Valer

You say "I may be FAT, but you are a CUNT, and I can diet!

I would be quite annoyed with your so-called friends too for not defending you. The bloke sounds like a total and utter cock. I hate it when people do that "looking down" thing, surely one of them should have told him to shut up?

u should of said i can loose the weight ,but your face will still be fugley

IME people like that feel they are so lacking and have so many insecurities that they need to bolster there self worth by putting others down. Either that or he fancies you and is trying to cover it

Dont let the buggers grind you down and big bottom girls they make the rockin' world go round!

Just remember - smoking causes impotence.

And I firmly believe in karma.

I expect the others just wanted to move the conversation on, rather than risk him coming out with more of the same.

nasty, vile man. Some people just don't grow up from being playground bullies. Don't let it knock your confidence, he was just an idiot.

Virtual hugs and

How disgusting of him. Sounds like a gormless idiot who thinks he's being funny. I really feel for you, it's very difficult when nice, gentle people like yourself get targeted for abuse because they never know how to respond or are to embarrassed to. Which is why moron's like this think they are going to get away with it, often they do.

Never be ashamed to tell such a person how rude they are.

I would also be pissed that your friends said nothing.

He's just a rude arsehole. Good that he deigned to reveal that so that you need have no more to do with him.

Oh OP he's an idiot!

What a ridiculous thing for him to say. I could make plenty of "I suspect he...." assumptions to try and explain for him but he is just rude.

Most of us really don't go around making judgements and passing comment either publicly or privately. Really.

"Well I at least I can diet, but there's no cure for being a wanker."

Did your friend not pick him up on it?

He is a tossed with a very small dick

Comments to overweight or umderweight people are rude and show us that the person making them is a complete twat.

What about the universal MN comeback - "That was a very unpleasant thing to say. Did you mean to be so rude?"

Have years in my eyes! I was seriously overweight for about 20 years. I'm not now but still remember the most hurtful.comments, even one from about 22 years ago when I started putting weight on :(

Those people are narrow minded idiots, please don't let that minority spoil your fun xx

"At least I could lose weight, you on the other hand will always be fucking ugly...nothing you can do about that"

Have been almost wishing for a fattist comment for ages so that I can use that

'I'm very sorry this happened to you and that no one at the table stood up for you.'

SGM is right, the fact that no one challenged the rude and nasty comment is the worst bit IMO. There will always be nasty, opinionated people out there who make jokes at the expense of others, but to stay silent in the face of it is wrong. Not you, OP, you were shocked and upset.
Someone else should have told him he was behaving unacceptably.
That's one of the ways that bullying starts.