Justified anger at the posters who were rude and hurtful on a past thread

[Roseability]

I haven't posted on Mumsnet for nearly a year and I am posting in this section, well because I suspect it is one of the most popular and I am hoping certain posters will read it

Just under a year ago, I posted about my ds (link provided below). An Early Years Educator had raised a concern that he was sometimes having problems following instructions.

She insinuated he had serious developmental problems and was quite negative about him. I posted for advice, because I genuinely felt she had got it wrong.

The response I got from some posters on that thread was quite frankly disgusting and had I not been too upset, I would have reported it at the time. I was called names, told I was a bad mother and told I was in denial about my ds.

I know that learning difficulties can be a sensitive area, but I stated time and time again that I was making no judgement about children with learning difficulties. I was following my instincts as a mother. Still I was insulted.

In the end my ds did have a speech & Lang assessment and he was discharged. He has settled into school really well. I still think about that thread now and then because at the time it put me in quite a bad place. I know it is strangers on the internet, but words hurt.

I suppose my point is, that I have read many a thread on here, of mothers who instinctively know their child is having developmental difficulties and are met with resistence by various authorities. It can work the other way. A mother who really believes her child is being misunderstood.

I would never neglect to support my children in the best way. Anyway, whilst there are many lovely posters on mumsnet, some are hurtful and agressive. No doubt this will be met with the usual nasty quips from some, but I don't care. One thing I have learnt is that everyone is entitled to stick up for themselves. I am not posting just because I was right. For indeed, had my ds been diagnosed with special needs, I still would have posted. That it was no way to be towards a mum in distress.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/preschool/1140182-Anyone-had-problems-with-pre-school-I-think-they-are-trying-to-label-my-son-as-autistic

Wine time everyone (hands round wine in hope everyone will get pissed and fall asleep)

Rose - look at the moment on the old thread that you got arsey about someone, in an attempt to give you support and kindness, calling you love. That was where it started to go wrong.

You ripped open the wound

What do you expect?

that was on page 1, by the way.

Mmmmm, thanks MrsRobertduvall, have been looking forward to wine o'clock all day...... Would you like a crisp (offers bag of lightly salted crisps)

Shirley knows things

wine and crisps etc are here

I think the OP started this off again as some sort of odd attention seeking which seems to have worked a treat.

Ooooh maryz how nice...no tongues though

What vjg13 said.

I'm joining you for wine Fanjo It is much needed

Why do so many people here think everyone is attacking those with special needs? No one wants to hear that there might be something wrong with their child. I read that thread to get some background info and I could only see Rosability on the defence about her child, not about SN in general.

Incidently, it is never a nursery nurse's role to diagnose a child. I only skimmed the thread, so I'm not sure if s/he suggested ASD or implied it but it is not their role to even imply something specific.

Btw OP, let it go now. It was a year ago. These are complete strangers at a computer. I understand why you posted but next time, take a breather before you post in a highly emotionally charged situation.

I won't comment on this bonkers thread... other than to say I have contacted Mumsnet and asked them to delete it - for your own good Rose.

Roseability, I am pleased that it turned out well. There are all sorts on here and it can be nasty. Words hurt and most people get hurt at some point. You will never get everyone to agree-I think that you just have to let it go and not reopen the wound.

Yes Shirley, IIRC the OP has touched on this subject (the offending thread) within the last year.

Perspective. Perspective. Perspective.
Repeat 3 times a day before switching on your computer.

Op the first person who was aggressive in the original thread was you, and your the first one to throw a hissy fit in this one.

Posters in the original thread shared some very personal experiences with you whilst trying to help you understand the processes involved and all you did was rant swear and yes you were obnoxious.

You may now choose to think I am nasty for pointing out the facts but really what are your motives for rehashing this a year on, I think you need to take a long hard look at your self because you truly do appear to have deep issues.

Do you know what, roseability you're right. There are some total dicks on Mumsnet. It was pretty much the first thing I noticed after joining. I don't know if maybe it's so culturally ingrained that posters can't see the wood for the trees.

You haven't said anything on this thread to even vaguely rival the aggression of some of your responses. You were upset on your old thread, and now you've apologised. It should be the end of, but that's Mumsnet.

You can't talk an aeroplane into laying an egg. Make yourself a cup of tea and forget about this shit.

When did you join Florie? Just I've been here for nearly 5 years and haven't noticed that so much - which will be why I've stayed I suppose.

Oh there are a few total dicks. Many more who are very very insightful, wise and have been through a lot of difficult stuff and come through with wisdom to share.

Oh... about a month ago. I remember the first time I read though this section - I nearly shit my pants!

Like others, I started reading the original thread, but stopped soon after the OP said she had been "flamed" (when no one -at that point, anyway - had said anything even remotely flame-like).

OP, you might think about why it is that NO ONE ELSE on this thread so far agrees with your perspective. Either Mumsnet consists entirely of heartless bitches, or else your perception of what has happened needs adjusting.

I think Oikopolis is right on with her comments. I hope you are able to find the peace you seek.

Are they really dicks or just people telling ther people that they are being totally unreasonable?

I struggle to see the bullying from inside the viper nest

There are a few shouts of bullying but I have yet to actually see it

I have read, and thought, and answered very reasonably, but as this thread has gone on - a year on, is this just not the most appalling, nasty, gratuitous, stealth braggy thread ever in the history of MN...

" well, hey, the nursery thought DS had SN, I was appalled, they were wrong and so were you, ha ha HE IS NORMAL!!"

Good for you, good for fucking you, OP.

I think there are some dicks on Mumsnet. Kick me in the nuts until Christmas but I won't take it back. So ner!