AIBU to be surpised at an almost 7 year old still being breastfed?

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Met up for lunch with friends we rarely see last week and was not aware she was still b/f. Almost 7 year old came running back from the park, went to the mum and lifted her top up and she said "no, it's not an appropriate time for that".

I can understand that it's normal for the child but wouldn't they be teased by school friends if it's asked for/done in public?

Oh Lordy Lordy - what the chuff's going on around here !!!

Mothers - pick up your 7 year olds and run for them there the hills!!!

What is going on is this... Nannyplum has decided to tell a big fat lie that she was told she should bf with one breast when she was clearly not. What was said was that it is possible to bf with one breast which is true, she was not told that she should do this. She also gave very evasive details at first talking about a 27 year old woman with one breast and then somewhere down the line alluded she was the woman in question but wasn't very clear which is not a problem but lying and saying she was told she should have bf in her circumstances when she was not told this is a problem.

Don't lie nannyplum.

Although I have disagreed with her tone throughout this thread, to be fair to runningwilde, she did not say that nannyplum should have breastfed with one breast, she said that it is possible to do so. Perhaps she could have kept that comment to herself as I dont see how it helps nannyplum now, however, it is important to say that she did not say what she is accused of saying.

At the time I said it nannyplum was not being very clear that she was referring to herself either (and I am still not sure if she means herself or not) and she did not give the detail she gave later which is why I simply stated the fact that it is possible to bf with one breast (she seemed, to me, to imply it was not possible) and I have seen it done

People may not like my view or my honesty on how I feel
And that is completely fine but I am NOT a liar and nannyplum really needsto think about what she says before she LIES and make it a bit more clear about what she is talking about as she didn't make her info very clear and gave bits of confusing info here and there.

rabidechidna Children need love and closeness and a sense of security. DD2 choose to to find hers in continuing to ASK to be BF. As I've said before it was, from the day she started school, always HER choice.
I never offered, but I didn't say no (she'd long since learnt when to ask).
I suppose once she'd started school any day I choose to say stop would have been total arbitrary.
Why did she continue, I don't know.
All I know is that DD2 is outwardly a very socially adept, secure, mature and grown child. The sensible one at home and at school.
She is also a natural pessimist, however secure her own background, she knows the world is not a nice place.
I think BF was her way of forgetting all this, her glass of wine at the end of the day. Nothing more or less.

She is also a natural pessimist, however secure her own background, she knows the world is not a nice place.

That is a very odd perspective for a child to have.

Why is it odd? Some children are thinkers, some grumpy, some quiet etc. You don't know this child, het mum does.

Not odd, just more realistic than her head in the sand Mother.
DD1 and I keep sane by being eternal optimists.
DH and DD2 are more realistic.

Proudscary - the only person who sounds angry here is you - ad much as you would love me to be angry I am not. Correcting someone's lies is not about anger. And as much as it may pain you, I have helped many women carry on breastfeed and that makes me really happy.

I am very happy to be a probreastfeeder and I am very happy that I have breastfed my children and given them the benefits of bf. So, sorry to disappoint you but I am not angry at all, although, like I said, you do sound quite angry and defensive for some reason.

runningwilde I gave some details and then left the thread without giving further details as I found the response I got too distressing .
FGS I know it's possible to bf with one breast .
But I really don't think it was appropriate or empathetic in any way to tell me that in the context of my experience.
You really sound like a fanatic running .
If all you can do is pick apart my posts and question me then I'm afraid that says more about you than it does me .

Nannyplum I wasn't saying it in the context of your experience and it wasn't really clear at the time that you were talking about
Yourself as you spoke about a woman, you didn't say 'me' and you then said I said that you should have bf when I did not. I was not referring to you and your situation and of course there are many situations where bf is not possible. If you want to label me a fanatic then that is up to you.

I don't think that just because I have a strong opinion on bf and that just because I think women should bf if they can that that makes me a fanatic. I really was not referring to your situation at all and can only apologise if it seemed that way. But also, you told an untruth when you said that I said you should bf when I did not. Like I said, you really weren't very clear in your earlier posts as you referred to a 'woman' rather than saying 'me' and I stated it is possible to bf with one breast and that I have seen this done. It was not my intention for you to take it as saying that you should have done this at all. Again, I can only apologise if you took this personally and I do get that I can be blunt and to the point in my posts but please don't say I said something I did not. Hopefully we can put this to rest now.

I wish you all the best.

Running - I don't think you have done more harm to breastfeeding than anyone else on mn and I think it is unfair for proudnscary to say that. You didn't tell Namnyplum she should have bfed and I totally agree that her posts were confusing as initially not even appearing o be about her and certainly not on the topic of extended feeding. I posted many times saying whilst I'm sympathetic to her situation this thread was not the best place ad perhaps a good idea to start a new one to deal with that aspect.

There is nothing wrong being passionate about your beliefs and I for one fed up of having to feel that as a bfeeding mum I have to tiptoe around mums who haven't on here for fear of upsetting them. However, it appears perfectly acceptable for derogatory cpmments to be made towards mums who bfeed.

Your last post was very gracious and I do think you've been unfairly treated.

Thanks mama! Honestly though, people like proudscary don't affect me at all and You are very right about having to tiptoe around the subject of bf. I have been accused of being obsessed and a fanatic because I believe that women should give their children breastmilk if they can and really it is bemusing that people have said I am so and so just because I have this belief - that a baby deserves the nutritional benefits of breastmilk! I am very happy to continue to think this and really, let them say what the like as they are showing their anger and issues by doing so.

Well said running. I'm mum if 3 now and bfeeding them isn't anything extraordinary in my view, it's normal and natural (and free )

Of not if. And not bfeeding all 3 still, just youngest