to say to 16 year old dd 'no, you are not going on a post-GCSE piss-up to Vile Newquay?

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Apparently I am the only mother in the entire United Kingdom who has said no.

She has said that she won't drink, she just wants to go because 'everybody in year 11 is going, mum, and I will feel left out'.

She evidently thinks I was born yesterday.

Did she tell you straight faced she wouldn't drink?

You could say you'll go with her .

Ah go OOOOONNNN. I would be afraid she'd return barefoot, hungover and up duff personally.

It would fill me with fear and worry, so, YANBU!

See their is no way I would let my dd do this (tbf she is 3, but thinking ahead).

Yet my Mum let me go on a coach to Amsterdam for three nights to see a band when I was 16 and a 1/2 and I had an amazing time.

So I dunno.

Oh god, there wtf is wrong with me today?

Hmm, I would be ok with it, in fact am actively encouraging ds (yr12) to go to assuage my guilt about leaving him otherwise home alone while dh and I go to Tuscany(he refuses to come with us).

She'll be fine. It's a rite of passage.

To vile where? I can't read the thread title due to length on my phone

Is Newquay vile?

But I digress. How long does she want to go for? Just a day trip? If so, I'd be inclined to say yes. I'd want to know a lot more, if it's for longer.

Blimey getorf, you really don't like Cornwall do you?

But no, YANBU. I can't think of anything worse TBH.

I went out in Newcastle after my GCSEs

Ah go OOOOOON.

Sounds like the sort of thing I would say no to.

At 16 I was still only drinking locally so sleeping it off safely at home

No waxing way.

We were down that way a few years ago, WhitWeek and my drugging word, it's not where I would like my gels to lose their innocence.

«adjusts Alice band»

There are special hotels catering for the 16-18s. One's called Escape and is basically a party room with dorms.

Last year, I was the only mum who said NO. Turns out, so were all her friends' mums. Ha! DD had a post GCSE BBQ instead.

What were you getting up to at her age?

I would - will - let dds (nearly 14, 11 and 4 atm) go somewhere reasonably civilised with a group of friends if they want to. Newquay post GCSEs is not imo 'reasonably civilised' so I would be saying no too.

wot mary said

dreads this question

You can show her this thread to prove you are not the only mother in the UK to say not a chance.

Tell her to go youth hostelling in the Yorkshire Dales for a weekend with some lovely long hikes.

My DS is 13 but in another couple of years I'll be the only mum saying no to that too.

Just like I'm the only mum who thinks 11pm is too late to go to bed on a school night.

And I'm the only mum who expects him to do any chores around the house at all.

And he's the only kid at school without an ipad/iphone...

Yeah. Right.