to say to 16 year old dd 'no, you are not going on a post-GCSE piss-up to Vile Newquay?

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Apparently I am the only mother in the entire United Kingdom who has said no.

She has said that she won't drink, she just wants to go because 'everybody in year 11 is going, mum, and I will feel left out'.

She evidently thinks I was born yesterday.

After my o levels I went with 4 friends to Bournemouth and rented a holiday house for 2 weeks! I had forgotten all about it til I read your OP. Looking back I cannot believe my mum said yes, and I'm even more surprised that my friends mum let her go. We predictably drank ourselves silly, but no throwing up. I remember ringing up my dad to get my results, crammed into a phone box with the others.

Maybe simpler times I don't know. Maybe my mum said yes because when she was 40 something like I am now she hadn't been out without my dad for 20 years. I think perhaps we see, and oftentimes still get up to some of the same things our older DC's are about to experience.

Oh hell no.

My DP is from Cornwall and is a strapping chap. Last time we were down there he said Newquay had turned into a horrible place, refused to walk down some of the cut throughs and told me to hold on tight to my bag.

Now Reading fest was what I did for my GCSEs. I would feel safer there in a group than in newquay.

My DS went to Rock after his exams. It is just across the river estuary from Padstow and Newquay. It wasn't vile.

No way would I let my 16 year old daughter (not that I have one) go out in Newquay. I live in Cornwall and have been on nights out there. It's not just alcohol that's the worry, there's also the laidback approach to drugs too. The amount of young women I have seen sprawled in the street, throwing up, passing out and having taxis refuse them is too many for my liking. Even if I said to my mum now, at 26, I was going Newquay for a night out I know she would worry.

YANBU

Please say no and convince other Mums to say no. It is in part because of irresponsible teenagers being allowed to come to Newquay unchaperoned that it has become the 'vile' place that it now is. The presence of uninhibited 16yr old girls has in turn attracted the perverted scumbag lager swigging men and changed what was once a wholesome family seaside town into a drug infested sex camp. That said, please do not judge the rest of Cornwall by this one hell hole alone as it is IMO the most beautiful place on earth.

I know quite a few pubic school gals who lost their virginity on the beach at Rock, honisoit.

Not accusing your DS btw

OMG, I didn't even know this was a thing - do all the 16 year olds in the country really go to Newquay after GCSEs? It must get very crowded.

What you should do is you should say, yes, you can go, and then drop her off at New Quay in Pembrokeshire, which is lovely and quiet, and has nothing to do at all except look at the sea views.

Nooooooooooo

Buy her an atlas, thats a nice end of exams gift.

Haven't read whole thread but someone on the first thread said "What harm could she come to?" Teenagers have been killed in Newquay in the past couple of summers due to them being so wasted they have falled over the cliff. The police are mounting campaigns which involve phoning the parents of any pissed teenagers they find and insisting they come to collect them. There have been marches through the town by residents who are so sick and tired of it that they want their town back and the kids aren't welcome any more.

Don't let her go. The place is a cackhole anyway.

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There has been no talk of this in my house and nor will there be!

We have faced this twice over recent years and on both we didn't automatically say no.

We set out strict criteria (like actually having some where to stay!) but with both DC their close friends didn't go, so neither did they. Plenty did, and all came back safely.

Instead DS2 and a few close (sensible friends) found a place to stay in Wales for a few days - not surrounded by other gormless, drunk teens. Had a great time looking after themselves.

PS I lived close by.

getorf-all the places youve listed are shit.the rest isnt!why did you go to the shitty places.

p.s-the medias newquay is a very exagerated version of rl newquay.i was going at 16 although it was a taxi ride(a long one but still a taxi ride)away from home.

My DD also wanted to go to Newquay at 16, definate no no but did pay for her to go to Leeds festival with her friend (and friends slightly hippy 50ish godmother who kept an eye on them).

Post AS again she wanted to go to Newquay then Zante or Ibiza, again we refused to pay but we did agree to her going with a group of friends to France (someones parents were camping within easy drive of them) and they all really enjoyed that experience - doing train/ferry and sharing an apartment in Brittany, was more of an adventure really.

She went to Zante last year post A's, we couldnt really say no as she paid for trip and was 18 - she was quite sensible by then and now seems to have got it all out of her system. I think she was shocked by what went on (also by the fact she was the only one who wanted to eat properly!) and also was there on the night the young lad was stabbed by the taxi driver.

this year is probably hoping to be included on where ever mum & dad go, maybe something to do with being at uni and now acutely aware of cost of everything.

No way Jose! YANBU

I probably wouldnt say no.

I went to my first festival when I was 16, it was a couple of hours away for 3 nights. I genuinly thought 'going away' would be generallt accepted at 16.

All my friends parents were fine with it too.

For that reason Id say yes. Provided I knew ALL the details, where she was staying, how and when she was getting there and back, not just her number but a couple of her friends numbers Just In Case and regular contact.

Although none of us ever contacted our parents, we didnt have mobiles then!

okay you all need to chill out! im going away next week to newquay as an end of gcse celebration. the security is so good there is nothing to worry about! trying to keep your children from going out and having a good time will not only make them resent you but go behind your back and do it anyway! its FUN! so there might be a bit of drinking and whatever but can you all honestly sit there and say you had a fantastic celebratory time after exams with not a drop of alcohol! i dont think so! there has been accidents and they are all very unfortunate but people go every year and the amount of people that get hurt in comparison to how many teens go is really not that many! More people die who go abroad and who are a lot older than 15/16 but no one stops them. this is a chance to be responsible and i think you should all give a second thought on letting your children go and have a good time. if you want a good relationship then respect has to be mutual! i hope this hasnt upset anyone and as im not a parent i cannot judge peoples decisions but i believe that empathy is the key to making these choices!

This will be a no in our house too

But then depends where you live as we just 30 odd miles from Newquay then maybe yes if camping etc but no to a weekend in a room in town centre in Summer.

We stayed just outside of Newquay recently. After seeing the regular busloads going from Smugglers Bay campsite into town and seeing the state of the place when we went to the aquarium in the morning,I wouldn't be going near the town after 4pm. Filthy. I bet the locals hate what it has become.

I wonder if OP's DD went in the end....thread from January this year.

Ok, I am possibly the worst mother on mn.

My DD1 is going on a post gcse holiday to Magaluf completely unsupervised and she will be drinking.

Starting to thinking may have been a bit too lax about this decision!

Ruby I have passed out.