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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

to think that this is a peculiarly nasty way for a grownup to treat a child. Warning IL related.

205 replies

lightofmylifelol · 11/01/2012 21:42

Namechanger as I'm not sure if SIL is on here. Cutteduppear, mortimer, pearlbarley.

Well I have a lovely little boy of just 5 - he started Reception in September and is absolutely sailing through lol - the teacher is really impressed with his abilties (she told me to keep doing what I have obviously been doing with him as he's so ace [proud]) and all my mummyfriends are AmazeGosh when we talk about reading levels. Smile

Anyway, so I do whitter abit, lol, but what happened today was this - DMIL and DFIL come round 3 times a week to help me out - I have a lo as well, and it's just so exhausting having one at school and a smaller one isn't? So they tend to do things like washing and ironing and DFIL loves to throw the hoover around - they also bring a meal to help me out and pick DS up from school twice a week and play with him here. It's usually lovely although DFIL has taught DS to drink the remains of his crisps from the packet.

So, to today, DS decided to teach gramps how to play "duminoes" pmsl, of course gramps is a good sport and pretended that DS was actually teaching him. Awww. BUT he didn't let DS win! 7 games in all they played - and gramps absolutely whooped him 6 times out of 7. The eejit. DS was exceedingly upset and cried for hours, I tried all the tactics in the book, explaining to himabout people being mean, and ice cream and extra stories at bedtime, but to no avail. The little soul went to be very saddened by the whole experience.

This really isn't on is it? We never have let him experience such unkindness before. No-one would not let a 5yo win would they? It just crumples children, and they're only young once, it's such a shame.

They've gone now but I've just sat here and thought about it and I'm fuming.

AIBU? And WIBU to speak to gramps it?

Angry
OP posts:
eggtimer · 11/01/2012 21:43

YABU.
And a bit precious.

Sorry.

scurryfunge · 11/01/2012 21:45

It is not important. Let it go?

Sposh · 11/01/2012 21:45

I'm wondering what the relevance of your genius child, your amazegoshed friends and the fact that your PIL seem to be the help round your gaff is to this story.

MrsMeow · 11/01/2012 21:45
Hmm
piratecat · 11/01/2012 21:46

i don't even know where to begin.

JayVazzle · 11/01/2012 21:46

Erm no yabu.

I second the precious comment.

flumposie · 11/01/2012 21:46

for real? sounds too much like an enid blyton story to me

Orchidskeepdying · 11/01/2012 21:46

erm- children have to know how to handle loosing!! not every one can win - what if he is playing a game with a child in his class - can both win? NO!!

well done Gramps!

ABigGirlDoneItAndRanAway · 11/01/2012 21:47

1/10, must try harder.

Nanny0gg · 11/01/2012 21:47

My very first
Biscuit

yellowraincoat · 11/01/2012 21:48

YABU

I thought you were going to say they had hit him, told him he was stupid, laughed at him or something that could actually damage him.

He is 5. He has to learn he won't always win. By mollycoddling children and letting them think they can always win, they don't learn any skills.

rubyslippers · 11/01/2012 21:48

This is a wind up

Amazegosh Hmm

canyou · 11/01/2012 21:48

It is unkind to let DC win every game they need to learn to lose with grace and respect the winner
YWBU to speak to Gramps he is teaching your DC a valuable lesson

CharminglyOdd · 11/01/2012 21:48

Have my first Biscuit*

*I never thought I'd read something to provoke one of those. Well done.

Goolash · 11/01/2012 21:48

This is one of those joke Aibu posts? Please let it not be real.

RevoltingPeasant · 11/01/2012 21:48

Erm this is obviously a spoof, no? Namechanger, unintelligible references to explain NC, stealth boasting, petty problem yada yada.

Also, no real person has ever called their grandfather 'Gramps'. Fact.

RevoltingPeasant · 11/01/2012 21:49

Right, xpost with entire world Blush

celticlassie · 11/01/2012 21:49
Grin
PotteringAlong · 11/01/2012 21:49

Of all the scenarios I thought this might be having read your thread title, never in a million years did I guess it would be this.

Yabu. Do not mention it at all to your FIL unless you want to cone across as slightly unhinged...

hellhasnofury · 11/01/2012 21:49

This is a wind up, right?

D0oinMeCleanin · 11/01/2012 21:49

You can't win at everything, everytime. Teaching a child they can is setting them for a fall later in life, imo. Tell ds to practise and one day he might win. Oh yes and appreciate your lovely PIL a bit more instead of ranting about stoopid things.

Although I have a sneaking suspicion that this didn't really happen did it? It was the amazegosh that gave you away. No one uses words like that, not even the most twee of all twee people.

MinnieBar · 11/01/2012 21:49

YABU. LOL.

missingmumxox · 11/01/2012 21:50

Oh poor thing, I don't think yabu, but yabvu not to have a supply of trophys to hand DS when he "wins" tis practically child abuse.

I would speak to gramps and give a ticket to Switzland, what a horrible old duffer!

1 Q how do you let 2 Pdt win at the same time?

pigletmania · 11/01/2012 21:50

YABVVU and precious, your ''clever'' ds will have to learn to be a valuable life lesson about loosing.

Spero · 11/01/2012 21:51

Well I feel cheated. I didn't manage to find a copy of Take A Break on the train today so I thought from the title this might be my shameful dollop of horrible human behaviour, to make me feel better about myself.

Peculiarly Nasty? Really? No. If this is the worst thing that happens to diddums in his childhood, well what a lucky, lucky, lucky little boy he is.

You both need to grow a pair.