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To be furious that hubby left toddler home alone?

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Tinaland · 10/01/2012 15:48

My husband left my 18 month old home alone while he went to buy cider. It was 9pm and DS was asleep in his cot (he can't climb out) but was restless as he's got a cold. Hubby was only gone about 5 mins but I am furious and feel a bit sick that he left him.

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SecretMinceRinser · 10/01/2012 19:47

I think that's unfair Silver. I've been on here for years under different names and AnyFucker tends to post straight-talking helpful advice which is what a lot of the AIBU's on here need.

FabbyChic · 10/01/2012 19:47

Or met his mates on the way, five minutes my arse he was gone longer than that.

FabbyChic · 10/01/2012 19:47

((((any fucker))))) loves any fucker.

Silver66 · 10/01/2012 19:48

ditto to Fabby Hmm

are you both that perfect in your own lives Biscuit

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cookcleanerchaufferetc · 10/01/2012 19:49

I am agreeing with fucker and fabby. You don't "babysit" your own child. You don't put alcohol before your own child. Clearly I am verging on perfect if some people have standards like this ....

WellBlowMeDown · 10/01/2012 19:51

I take it the monitor wouldn't work in the shop. If there had been a fire or something, it might have been to late. Would not do it and would have serious words...

WellBlowMeDown · 10/01/2012 19:52

Or a burglar?

FabbyChic · 10/01/2012 19:52

Shop, queues. No excuse get rid of him and send him away with his pissy trousers.

DrCoconut · 10/01/2012 19:53

OMG you married my ex! Cider was his life, and he put it before me and DS1 once too often. Anyone who puts accessing alcohol above the welfare of a child has a problem. How you address it is a matter for you to decide but he needs to be very clear that it is unacceptable to leave a toddler.

Silver66 · 10/01/2012 19:56

Fucker - are you a recovering alcoholic? or an active alcoholic - your vitriol towards any thing to do with alcohol is astounding - constantly

You are very quick to condemn

What's your story????

squeakytoy · 10/01/2012 19:59

i once had to pop out for 5 mins when home alone with my two.. i knocked on my neighbours door and asked her to sit in my lounge for 5 mins while i was out.. i didnt just leave them!!

but you DID leave them.. while you went to speak to your neighbour... the house could have spontaneously combusted in those couple of minutes you know!

Silver66 · 10/01/2012 19:59

and ditto Fabby

himynameisfred · 10/01/2012 20:03

it's pretty awful to speak about people like that, they're people too.

Some people do need cider, or sleeping pills or something in order to get to sleep at night at some points during their lives.
You calling them scummy and trampy says more about you.

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Rindercella · 10/01/2012 20:04

The only thing I have the hump about is that some people on this thread consider it to be okay to leave a small child alone to go and buy some booze. I will repeat - until I am blue in the face if necessary - that it is an irresponsible and unnecessary thing to do.

I have no axe to grind with you sardine. What a ridiculous assertion. Perhaps something to do with compost heaps takes me back to my childhood...is that want you want to hear?

And sorry lifechanger, obviously my English education didn't take me as far as that lesson

lifechanger · 10/01/2012 20:08

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Rindercella · 10/01/2012 20:09

Grin Great! So obviously I did learn the lesson, and it's hidden somewhere in my befuddled aged mind

AnyFucker · 10/01/2012 20:10

silver you again ?

how funny that you picked my post out of dozens on here saying this man was wrong to do what he did

anybody might think you had a problem with me

oh ....

PS you need to stop obsessing about STD's. It's not healthy.

Rindercella · 10/01/2012 20:11

And Anyfucker is great, for the record

lifechanger · 10/01/2012 20:11

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Whatmeworry · 10/01/2012 20:12

Am gutted that no one has said Leave The Bastard yet...is Christmas Goodwill still deep upon the land?

natation · 10/01/2012 20:16

I only know one person whose partner was "caught" like this leaving a baby unattended - a few times he took the dog out for a walk whilst his baby was asleep.... and he is a Police Officer. No it doesn't surprise me, some men really are from Mars.

Nagoo · 10/01/2012 20:16

The problem here is not cider.

It's that there is a huge disparity between what the two parents of this child think is good, or even adequate parenting.

We have seen on this thread that some people think that leaving DCs in cots that they are just the right age to learn to fall out of is ok.

But the OP doesn't think it is OK. I myself would be fucking livid about it. If her DH was married to some of you more laissez-faire posters, then everything would be rosy, wouldn't it?

PenguinArmy · 10/01/2012 20:17

I'll be honest and bypass whole tone of thread but this has just prompted me to go get a beer.