To be furious that hubby left toddler home alone?

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My husband left my 18 month old home alone while he went to buy cider. It was 9pm and DS was asleep in his cot (he can't climb out) but was restless as he's got a cold. Hubby was only gone about 5 mins but I am furious and feel a bit sick that he left him.

YANBU OP. The risk of a fire in 5 minutes is low but the consequences are potentially fatal. As a pp has said fire can engulf a house in minutes. Why would you take that risk to buy cider? It's hardly an emergency is it?
I don't think this is about the single error of judgement but more a concern that the dh is putting a minor need of his own above the need of his toddler to be kept safe.
And I don't put taking a dump in the same league as nipping to the offy/shop where you wouldn't even hear your smoke alarm. Also most people need to shit more than they need to buy cider.
I don't know where social services stand on this but if anyone told me they left their toddler home alone I would report them.

People with large gardens / areas of land don't all have nannies rindercella.

That's gets a TBH

'Is he a pisshead tramp, cos he sounds like it.'

You do have a way with words fabby

Gosh there are some incredible views on this thread.

I think it's cos he went to get cider. If he'd been doing something else the reaction would've been different.

Sardinequeen, I am trying to point out the very obvious fact that a 2-3 minute walk is quite a long way from the house. I do not care what reasons a person might have for walking across their land. I couldn't actually give a shit. But I just wanted to establish that for an averagely able person, a 2-3 minute walk to a shop is not the same as just to the end of most people's gardens and should not be compared as such.

You just keep making really odd statements, I'm just responding to them.

If you don't care why someone might go down the garden, why ask the question?

Sardinequeen, have you never heard of rhetoric before?

I think it would be irresponsible to go trekking across a massive garden while your kids where asleep in the house too. If you are out of earshot of your smoke alarm it doesn't matter if it's your garden or the offy imo it's irresponsible and unnecessary.

Oh, and for the record, that has a question mark at the end so is an actual question rather than a rhetorical one. HTH

I'd kill him. End of.

It's rather hard to tell in a written format whether someone is utilising rhetoric, or simply gibbering a load of old rubbish.

I hope that answers your question

I don't know why you have the hump with me for saying that people go down their gardens to get to the compost heap TBH

All a bit odd.

The only bathroom in our house is completely out of earshoit of the childrens bedroom, as this house was built before indoor bathrooms and it's an extension on the other side of the house than the kids sleep.

I have baths while they sleep, without the use of a baby moniter.

I go and check on them afterwards, as the youngest may have been crying for 10 minutes or so for all I know

The problem is that if anything happens to the parent while they are out, nobody will know there is a baby unattended at home. It's like other people are saying, the risk is small but in the event of a problem the magnitude would be enormous.

I don't have the hump with you sardinequeen. I want to say what an odd thing to think, but feel you will probably assume I am taking the piss

Arguing the toss with somebody on a forum is not really something I get in a hump about tbh.

I really don't understand the fuss. In five minutes, it is highly unlikely anything would happen.

We used to have a lovely, elderly neighbour who would often phone for help in the evening once her carers had gone home and I regularly left DS2 in his cot asleep while I popped over the road to give her a hand.

Well you seem very shirty about something. Odd that compost heaps set it off. I thought it was a fairly innocuous post, amazing what can happen on MN.

Maybe the fact that it was cider, too, makes it worse, like if it was posh wine it would be a little bit more acceptable

Some people on here have a strange idea about risk assessing. If something is completely non-essential. Like buying cider while your toddler is asleep then no level of risk makes it worthwhile. So the fact it's unlikely that a fire will break out in 5 minutes is irrelevant.
On the other hand if you got a call from your nan saying she has slipped in the ice up the road in the middle of the night, there's no-one around and she's badly hurt. Then maybe you would take into account that the risk of leaving dear nan was greater than the risk of a house fire.
What kind of assessment did the the father in the op do? Did he think 'well there's a small chance house could burn down but if I don't go I won't have any cider....?' Well boo-fucking-hoo! I can't believe anyone is defending his actions and saying there was any attempt at a risk assessment. There was no assessment - he just wanted cider and didn't give a shit.

Haven't read the whole thread but the DH of the op is a twat of the highest order in my opinion .... Cider or baby ... He said fuck it, my priority is cider. Twat .....

Have only read the start of this thread but feel the need to say

Fucker - do you actually have a life that doesn't involve making any person that posts on this site feel inadequate, useless, in a disastrous relationship, in need of counselling, suicidal, in danger, at risk of contracting an STD............could go on but really can't be arsed

There is no defence here he is scum simple as, no one leaves a baby in the house, putting out the trash is what you do with the door still open you are technically seconds away. What would have happened had the Off Licence been being robbed? How about if the cider drinking twat had got run over? Mugged? Rapped with a broom stick?

Its irresponsible and not forgiveable ever.