Not to want a complete stranger in our spare room for 2 weeks

[soandsosmummy]

DP told me this morning that someone new is starting at work with him on Wednesday and that as he's yet to find somewhere to live he's said they can stay with us for couple of weeks while he looks for a place.

AIBU to be completely pissed off especially as DP seems to think that we should treat them as a guest for this time and cook and eat with them as well as doing their bl**dy laundry.

DP can not understand just why I'm not happy about the idea and thinks its just the kind and sociable thing to do. At the moment all I know is they are male and nothing else about them

Apparantly he's turning up tomorrow evening

Well as DP arranged it it's his responsibility to entertain, feed and clean up after his house guest.

I would be hugely annoyed to have not been consulted about this.. but what's done is done eh? If I were you, I'd be letting your partner do all the "entertaining" and cooking.. and let the man do his own laundry!

Arrange lots of social engagements with your friends/family and go out lots!

I can understand you not being happy that he did not consult you on this. I can understand why your DP made the offer though - it was the kind thing to do. It is only 2 weeks.

Have you got children? If you DO have children then YANBU and don't accept this stranger into your home. Your DP sounds a bit nuts!

Nice offer but it's the offer a single person might make...or a Bible Belt Christian in the Deep South of the USA

"Sure ya'll come on over to our place folks! Ma'll just fry up a couple extra pigs feet!"

YANBU. He should have consulted you.

I almost wondered if we had the same DH, except mine (on both occasions) has given me an hours notice of houseguest(s).
One was a delightful single man, the other a peculiar couple who shagged constantly.
DH had to be in charge of everything, I refused. Nice singleton stayed for three weeks, strange shagsters had 11 days with us until I put my foot down.

We once took in a stray Australian teenager who got a bit stranded and would have been "all alone in the big city" if we hadn't, but I wouldn't have dreamed of offering without consulting DH and to a certain extent the children beforehand. I's be more upset about not being consulted than about a houseguest I think.

when I was younger I would not have minded this at all.

Now I'd hate it. I actually feel sad that my hospitality instincts have plummeted over the years, but hey ho.

ouch! a couple of nights, sure that would not be a problem. But 2 weeks, no way!

How do you know he will leave after 2 weeks??

Yes - your DH is taking the p*ss if he thinks that all the extra work will naturally fall to you...

Please tell me your DH is taking charge of the situation & the extra work?

YANBU! More about not being consulted than for having the guest!

YANBU I'd be telling your DH that any extra work caused would be done by him, inconsiderate twat.

Pom everyone HAS to take in Aussie teenagers....they're always getting stuck/lost/robbed/sacked and if people didn't offer them a bed or a bath to kip in, then the streets would be overrun with them!

[been there too!}

Completely out of order for him to make the offer without discussing it with you.

Make sure he does any additional housework etc required, it shouldn't be your problem!

The worst thing is that DP won't even be here for quite a bit of it as he works away 3 nights a week

serves him right if chap turns out to be really good looking and I sleep in spare room bed too

I know its the right thing to do but it would be so nice to be asked in advance

OH NO. Not if he's not there. What a cheeky git.

I think your DP is being very U to expect you to share your house alone with another man, who is essentially a stranger to you. Especially without even checking it with you!

You'll be alone in your house with a man you don't know? No way, I would never have this.

a stranger to you and your kids and your OH isn't even there to look out for you? I would be livid. Can you make him see how wrong that is?

Fascinating to learn from pom and BandOMothers that Home and Away/Neighbours do indeed paint a realistic picture of Australian teenage life.

No way - how does he know he isn't a weirdo?

And surely this guy will have to book into a hotel? It is his lookout that he hasn't sorted somewhere to stay, not yours.

I would be putting my foot down and saying no. Even though I wouldn't have to because my DH isn't such an idiot to something like this.

Well am not happy but its too late now as offer has been made. Just had an update from dp - he's 18 years old, leaving home for the first time and will be going back to his mums at the weekends. Not sure if that makes it better or worse

I've just seen he won't even be there - OMG isn't he worried about you being murdered in your beds?

Right, so basically another child to clean up after.

There is no way I would do this, no way.