The OFFICIAL AIBU buddy bench/naughty bench thread NO 7

[ElmoFan]

Come hither all those who haven't found their place on mumsnet, have scrapped in Aibu or crossed words in chat. The buddy bench shalt not judge.

The buddy bench will hand out wine and cakes, it will join you on your scoffathons getting pissed

All those who sit on the bench, will have their sins erased and be given a warm welcome and cheerful chat from CheerfulYank, gomummy, tiredmum, teaandcake, valiumredhead and far, far too many more to mention.

Welcome to the buddy bench, we look forward to meeting you all

Oh and don't forget, last one to leave polishes bench and locks up!

Ooh, lovely flowers. Of course you can stay Busy. :) Welcome!

It is so scary when they do that, isn't it Tea? Sounds like everyone had fun, though!

Thank you. . We've got snow here too. When we came back home this evening my DS ran out into the dark and built a snowman. Lovely the way snow makes you feel, ( until you have to get to work in it of course!!)

The snow is only maybe an inch thick here now Not sure whether it'll be better by morning. A day with snow with it good enough to drive on Monday though, would be perfect

I was so excited I woke DD and showed her, she wasn't quite so excited and wanted to go back to bed

Welcome busy, sounds like you've had fun in the snow already

Ha tea, told you I would blow it your way just kidding its not my fault really

stupid snow why here and it's still going I wish it would miraculously disappear it looks to cold out there

Come on tired mum smile! Make snowmen, snow angels, sledge and drink hot chocolate with your boys, it'll melt within a day or two from the look of the forecast. It's warmer this morning than earlier this week. It was -3 then, it's 0 today. Think positive Make happy memories with your kids And your partner can dig the car out etc.

Snow isn't that thick but I reckon we can sledge here, off to wrap up. Kids are super excited.

my sad thread

I wish tea, we are having other problems our stupid gas company

Sorry to hear this tiredmum. I read your other thread. Some good advice there but I know it is utterly miserable with no heating. Try, if you can, to make it an adventure for your DCs.

I was without heating for a week last time it was really cold. Luckily we had an electric shower and I would leave the oven door open for warmth in the kitchen, (but can't do that if you have no gas!!!). We brought the duvets on to the sofa and huddled.

Scoot up, I think I need to join you

Thanks busy, all sorted now thank goodness, have updated other thread

Hi gonzo have you been naughty then

Hope you are both having a good day?

mmm yes confess all Gonzo

Hello everyone. :) Hope you're all having a good day!

DH and I have decided to go to the "big city" (St. Cloud, it's about 40 mins away) tonight to do our big shop. I'm loaded up with lists and coupons! :o We usually try to do it on a weekend day, but our weekends have been so hectic lately and we haven't have any days to just relax. We figured since Mondays are crazy already, we might as well just go tonight after DH gets done with work and get it all done. I'm going to pack pj's for DS and hopefully he will just go to sleep in the car on the way home.

What's on everyone's agenda for the week? :)

Hi cheerful, things are not to bad just getting over the palaver at the weekend, which is in the middle of being sorted, so will be happy when things are back to normal

Just housework mainly planned this week

And looking after my poorly Jamie he has been coughing, and going hot, so have been giving calpol to bring the temp down, took him to docs he gave him antibiotics as he does not want it to spread, so he has been having lots of cuddles even though he just wants to sleep most of the time, he isn't my happy energetic boy at the moment, bless him. He is being well looked after though

How about you?

Oh poor Jamie My ds is poorly too with a tummy bug I HATE being out of my routine and being housebound, I start feeling all cabin feverish!

Hi Everyone :)

Oh Tiredmum & Valium i really hope your ds's start to feel better soon xx

Just popping in to say a big Hello & hope you are all well :) Been really busy in RL lately , lots going on with ds's new school & BIL

Gomummy Hurry back soon lovely xxx

Cheerful - Glad the pooch made his way home safely :) xx

welcome to all our new Buddies on the bench :)

Hi elmo :)

Hiya Valium , Hows things ? :)

Ok thanks elmo, just a bit tired, I get very bleurgh when ds is poorly iykwim. You ok?

Oh i know exactly what you mean :( poor little man , hope he is feeling better soon xx
Yeah i'm ok , just a bit fed up . Ds is getting picked on by his Year head (who is not even one of his teachers ) It's such a long story tbh , don't want to bring the bench down ?

Tell us if you want to unload elmo, only if it helps though x

Hiya Elmo, where ya been

Valium its horrible seeing them so ill isn't it, all I can do is make sure he is taking fluids and getting him to take his medicines. He has dropped the amount of milk he is having, but I am giving it on demand though

Missing Gomummy already

We are here to listen Elmo, fire away

Thanks :)

well there's a boy in ds's class who likes to tell lies about the other boys (lets call him E ) including my ds. Last NOV he accused my ds of making prank phone calls to his phone & E's Mother claimed she witnessed my ds's name coming up on her sons phone . Now just to clarify this boy was making harassment calls to my ds at the time , in fact phone records show 9 calls made one Saturday evening in the space of 40 minutes until i took over ds's phone & told E to Stop phoning ds(he was making pig noises when i took the phone off of ds ) . Ds was determined that this never happened but his year head (who has a very nasty reputation in the school) took ds into her office and called him a bully & a liar Screaming into ds's face until he burst into tears. we were called up by her to the school & she demanded i get proof to clear my ds of these allegations . So i went to ds's phone network & they thankfully were able to print out All of ds's outgoing & incoming calls since before he started in that school last September. When i phoned the year head to say i had the proof she required , she told me that she didn't need to see the phone records as she was dropping the whole thing & wanted to draw a line under everything . I agreed but let her know that i was very disappointed that E's mother had lied about my son . To which the year head tutted at me down the phone .
Since then almost on a weekly basis this year head has called ds into her office to give out to him over something that E has said (more made up stories) .
Things came to a head the week before last , I received a text from ds saying he was very upset and asking me to meet him at lunch time . so i rushed up to the school & waited for ds to come out to my car & explain what was going on .
Ds burst into tears the second he saw my car :( He was so upset he thought he was going to be sick , so i took him straight home & he missed out on the second half of that school day . He told me that E had told another lie and accused my ds of calling him a name. The year head pulled ds out of his maths lesson & pinned my ds up against the wall in her office , screaming & pointing her finger right into ds's face (so close she was almost touching his nose) Calling ds a liar & a bully
I phoned the school as soon as i got ds settled (i was livid) & requested that this teacher phone me back ASAP! She didn't phone me back so the next morning i phoned again requesting a meeting with the principal . I only hung up when the year head phoned me demanding to know why i wanted to meet with principal. We exchanged words , I held my temper but got my point across that she had acted in a very unprofessional manner IMO and that i wanted the principal involved at this stage.
So we had our meeting last Thursday with the principal & the year head . The principal apologised over the way ds was treated but the year head sat there saying that the reason ds got "himself" into such a state was because she had "found him out" . The principal said he found my ds to be a lovely, polite kid & that ALL of ds's teachers spoke very highly of ds :)
We asked the year head to stop being so aggressive in her approach to ds especially on the word of another boy who is accusing lots of other kids of saying things & has a past history of doing this in his last school . At this stage the principal agreed that this was very unfair on my ds (especially as we had already offered proof to E's lies) & thankfully the year head seems to have backed off , So far!. Yesterday she walked up to ds & told him she wanted him to work on a project with E in the hopes of building a bridge between them . Ds agreed and promised to give a 110% in his effort to resolve things.
It's a horrible situation tbh . E has No friends in this new school :( and for the first time in my ds's life he actually seems to be popular .
The year head told us at the meeting she didn't like my ds's behaviour in the school corridors , when i asked her why she said " well he's ALWAYS smiling" It must be a crime to be happy in that school .

well done if you've made it to the end told you it was a Looooong story
xxxxxx

Blimey elmo -that would make me have a meeting with the school governors tbh!

It's a nightmare tbh Valium . Going to see how things go this week but if E says anything else about ds then I'm putting a stop to this so called project and that's when I'll be talking to the principal AGAIN . The year head has actually taken some of ds's friends into her office and asked them have they Ever heard my ds call E names when these boys stuck up for my ds and told her that E is telling lies she gave out to them . WTAF .

She sounds demented!