AIBU to think that childminder's assistant should not be in her pj's when looking after children?

[lou19]

Our DD goes to a lovely male childminder whose partner is his assistant. They are both lovely but a few times I have noticed when I drop DD off in the morning that his assistant does not seem to have got dressed that morning, still wearing pj bottoms, a comfy top, shrug and slippers. He usually wears a tracksuit, which of course it's absolutely fine. I know it's their house and she doesn't have to go anywhere, but for some reason it makes me feel uneasy. If I'm paying money for them to look after my child, I'd like them to look a bit more professional..is that unreasonable?And if not, should I say something?

I don't really see too much difference between that and a tracksuit

YABU - as well as they are looking after your child and doing everything they should be why on earth does it matter to you what she is wearing?

Sorry, you need to get over yourself!

I don't see the problem if the care they provide is top notch. I suppose it depends on whether they're disney PJ's or not? Maybe they're cotton baggy trousers?

You can choose what to do with your money. But is the care they provide less important than their uniform?

Yabu!
What on earth does it matter? Truly?

Kerrr-ist almighty! The things some people worry about!!

you're probably right. so far I have been happy with the care they provide, although I have had some minor issues with baby coming back looking a bit crusty around her face, or not having worn a bib so food all over her front...I know babies get messy but these things can be limited with a bt of attention. I guess I take a lot of pride in her appearance, her being my first and all that. maybe I am more anal than I think I am!

They are looking after small children in their own home. You want them in a suit and high heels or something appropriate for playing on the floor/changing nappies/having food raspberries blown at them etc? I know which I'd prefer and expect!

Work clothes for the work environment and baggy scruffs of any sort would be what I'd wear for a day at home with my kid.

Maybe she hadn't started work yet. Isn't it meant to be a home from home care? wouldn't bother me as long as she's fully clothed . If she was dressed ready for a night out I would be concerned.

My son goes to a private nursery and even the manager wears trackies and a sweatshirt! They are dealing with small messy children all day, what do you want them to wear?

Oh and when my son comes home covered in dirt? I know he's had a fun day.

I see what you mean as you are paying them, so you want them to look like they are ready to work rather than ready to have brekkie and a cuppa, catch up on Facebook, jump in the shower, get ready etc. You'd want them to get down to playing with your child or taking her out somewhere or whatever they have planned right away. On the other hand, if she is the assistant, then maybe the actual childminder does all that anyway and it doesn't really matter how long it takes his partner to get going for the day.

lou19 I'm so glad your baby goes to these people to be minded- getting " a bit crusty" about the face and grubby clothes suggests she's been getting stuck in- waving spoons about and generally having a good time eating. Babies aren't fashion accessories they are their own little people and sticky is normal!

Just send her in wearing older clothes that it doesnt matter if they come back stained then - dont send her in in designer stuff - they are bound to do fun activities such as painting etc etc so theres no way she is going to come back sparking clean. When my DS was small and went to a CM I gaged the messier he came back, the more fun he had had.

Seriously, pick your battles because if you find small things like that annoying or whatever, god help you as she gets bigger!

guaged, not gaged!

Definitely think that PJs and slippers are more suitable for looking after children than shoes and an expensive outfit. Personally I think I would prefer PJs to a tracksuit, but I do hate tracksuits and think they should generally be banned unless you are some type of athlete.

Sorry, I think YABU...

If you want to take pride in your child's appearance, that's fine...but it is not under your jurisdiction to decide that your childminder's partner needs to take more pride over theirs in the presence of your little princess!!

Earth calling OP - come home....come home.....

YABU. The quality of care is paramount, everything else is minor detail. Relax!

You can always mention the foody clothes and supply some extra bibs, but what people wear is frankly irrelevant.

I guess that it's just that I wouldn't do that. I completely agree that u wouldn't expect them to wear a suit and heels but comfy clothes. I wear scruffy clothes myself when at home with her. Maybe it's a cultural thing- my mum when she visited wasn't even impressed by the tracksuit, and I had to tell HER to get over herself!just goes to show I am turning into my mother...

I am a live in nanny and I never start work in my pj's unless my boss is away and it's a weekend morning and we're going to have a quiet morning.

My thoughts on the pjs are if she's still in her pjs I guess she will have to go and get dressed (possibly showered) at some point then she will be leaving DP over numbers.

But it appears a lot of people think YABU so

okay

tell us about the cultural thing please?

YANBU

I'm a cm, I start at 8. When parents arrive, I'm dressed, made up, hair brushed etc....That is the norm !

You so need to get over this!

Just because it's not what YOU would do, doesnt make it wrong

Theas18, I think you're being a bit harsh, I can assure you I am not one of those mothers who obsess about their babies not getting dirty- I am all for her having fun, waving spoons about and such like, I have studied child development and I know the importance of "messy play". But this IS my little princess we are talking about, my first child and my first experience of using childcare. So please go easy on the old judgement.

Don'tcry - this is the childminder's partner we are discussing.....NOT the CM himself!

Thanks DontCry and Oneofthechildlessones. I still don't think I am being completely unreasonable but seeing everyone else's comments I am feeling kind of reassured that it is not a huge deal...just a bit niggly, that's all.

YANBU.

It's not appropriate to work in your nightwear really.

Even if you work from home.

(Obviously excluding adults who work from home alone. You can work naked for all I care. But if you are interacting face to face with other people as part of your job then getting dressed isn't much to ask).

pictish but the partner is also his work assistant, so working too.

I would expect somebody to get dressed before they start any job. Even when I work from home I am fully dressed, hair done and teeth brushed, You can't get in the right frame of mind unless you are dressed and ready to go. However it may be that she is dressed, she may have changed from her bed pyjamas into day clothes and wears pjs because they are comfy.

I think I would have made a jokey comment like "oh did your alarm clock not go off then?" to see what her reaction was.