for saying that I believe "most" women aren't that interested in porn and for getting upset when DH tries to prove me wrong

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DH and I have been having this "debate" for a little while and I have to admit it makes me feel a bit under pressure to conform to his ideal - ie that most women do watch porn. This evening, I happen to have deleted the history on the computer purely because it was getting busy and he joked that I had been looking at porn. Which I wasn't. I don't really have any interest in it and, though have done very rarely in the past, it's not something I really enjoy. If anything I find it degrading to the women involved. When I stated this, my view, once again to DH he started looking online and printed out an article which vaguely implied that 40% of porn is downloaded by women and left it by the cooker. I said well that still doesn't mean "most" women.
I feel upset that he's tried to discredit my view and make me feel like there is something wrong with me for not being into it. He says, I quote "you are not all women so you can't speak for all women". He also says my reaction, ie getting upset by him doing/saying this is just hormones. I'm pg, 1st trimester. Which I again, feel like a devaluation of my feelings. But AIBU? Is it just hormones? Do most women in fact watch porn?
PS I'm a regular but have namechanged for obvious reasons

I've watched it and don't mind it at all

I don't see why all the threads ATM as if it's anyone's business

OP, it doesn't matter what most women do or don't do. You don't like porn, and your OH is being a DICK by trying to make you feel like a freak.

Also agree with tiger

I've watched it in mu younger days, before I realised the full extent of what goes on to produce it.

These days I read it! Far better!

I don't. Did many many years ago with my first serious boyfriend at uni. But I I'd lots of things then that I wouldn't now mostly because I was immature and desperate to please and had v low self esteem.

Have no interest in porn now. Am completely certain that dh doesn't use it. Well as certain As I can be. To the extent that cannot be bothered looking iyswim.

Regardless of how I feel about porn or whether 'most' women watch porn, your DH is behaving badly by rubbing your nose in something that makes you uncomfortable. If 'most' watched porn, it wouldn't change how YOU feel about it, and he is married to YOU.

Yeah, what tiger said.

I don't think "most" women watch porn, certainly not regularly. I'd be interested in the provenance of figure of 40% of all porn downloaded is by women. That seems implausibly high to me, given that most porn is designed to appeal to men, since they are the largest consumers.

And it's not hormones, if my DH was trying to prove that to me it would annoy me too.

I think you are in a better position to talk for women than he is tbh. But it doesn't matter what everyone says/does/thinks, if you don't like it then that is your (correct ) opinion, and he should respect it.

or what smallwhitecat said.

Does he have to win every argument?

Agree with previous posters - it doesn't matter if ALL other women like porn. You don't, so he should respect that and stop banging on about it.

And just for the record, when I was in my twenties I used to LOVE watching porn but my tastes have changed as I've got a bit older and now prefer reading books that have a well-written and erotic sex scene. Much nicer than a couple (or so) of random bodies smacking away against each other.

Divorce him.
He sounds like a nasty arse.

'Most women' where I live wear leggings and Ugg boots. Knowing this fact and being confronted by it on a daily basis isn't going to change my opinion that I don't like how they look and I don't want to wear them.

point well made Yank

But yes, on a more serious note, if this is indicative of how he normally behaves (trying to make you feel that something is wrong with you sexually), then you may want to examine your relationship.

FWIW, my XH branded me a 'nympho' and made me feel like there was something wrong with me because I had a higher libido than him. You can have different sexual interests, but I think you have to be careful of labeling each other as weird or sick when those interests (or lack thereof) don't match yours.

i have watched porn, but that is me.

it doesn't matter if 99% women like porn, if you don't like it you don't like it

He searched for some random statistics, which don't even back up his theory, printed them out and then left them by the cooker??

Jesus. How 'right' does he have to be?

What point is he even trying to make? So what, because 'most' women - in his opinion - are into porn, you should be too? You're a freak if you're not?

He sounds lovely.

He's trying to put forward a ridiculous argument OP

What matters is that you don't like it, not percentages or anything else.

Does your husband often badger you to the point of bullying to prove a dubious point ?

because there is a name for people like that

cheers, giyadas

I hope you don't have dc wandering around a family area like the kitchen, that could come across his "research"

What does he want idiot? Is he trying to persuade you to watch porn with him or let him watch it if he wants to or watch it on you own so that you can see how inadequate his 'equipment' is?