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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be just a bit annoyed with the lentil weavers?

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buggerybollocks · 29/12/2011 19:07

Now I'll admit to being a little bit of a LW but I spotted a poor woman on a forum being blasted for asking for advice about sleep training. It was suggested that she just put up with the chronic lack of sleep she was experiencing and that it was all natural and any kind of sleep training would cause brain damage and blah blah blah.....

Ooh I'm just a bit cross with them and their high and mighty, moral high ground co sleeping, organic breast feeding selves.

Going to pour myself another glass of wine and calm down....

OP posts:

bumbleymummy · 31/12/2011 21:17

pictish - not so much 'I'm a better parent because I give my kids fruitshoots/greggs" specifically - more of a "I'm a better parent than you because I am laid back about those types of things and I don't think they're THAT terrible once a week/month/4 times a year/ " thing that crops up a lot. It just suggests that their standard of parenting is 'better' because they usually criticise those who don't allow those things and accuse them of being uptight/controlling/giving their children food issues etc.

OriginalJamie · 31/12/2011 21:29

lots of these terms weren't even invented when I had mine (BLW was "giving your DC a banana", co-sleeping was "can't be arsed to get out of bed", "tummy time" was "putting your baby on the floor to have a kick about"), and I'm glad of it. I would have been a neurotic mess

Moominsarescary · 31/12/2011 21:37

There is so much more to worry about when bringing up children, the early years are simple. With drugs, knife crime affecting all social classes , it's when their older the real worry begins

If as teenagers and young adults your children are helpful, caring hard working ( insert other qualities) members of society , that is all that matters, the whole bf, cosleeping, child wearing organic feeding whatever . Does not stop even the most affluent well cared for children becoming addicted to drugs or suffering depression or being in the wrong place at the wrong time and being the victim of knife crime.

Life is unpredictable

OriginalJamie · 31/12/2011 21:40

It's kinda true Moomin. A lot of it's a big old delusion of omnipotence/security blanket. And it all seems a bit irrelevant when they get older and you can't quite remember what you fed them when they were 5 months old

Moominsarescary · 31/12/2011 21:52

I'm so glad that I had my first 17 years ago, I think id have been a neurotic mess as well if ds3 was my first original

It must be bloody hard trawling through all the information and deciding what's best now , years ago there was no Internet , we read books listened to hcp advice and got on with it .

mrsjay · 31/12/2011 22:16

originaljamie i loved your co sleeping termanology for years gone by cant be arsed getting out of bed i really dont like these new buzz words for parenting my eldest baby is almost 19 and i did alot of these things just as part of what i did I really feel for mummies these days with all the different parenting styles ,

Moominsarescary · 31/12/2011 22:38

I feel for parents who's babys are in nicu, we were lucky and ds3 was only in for 4 days (born at 32 weeks) even so when he came out he had to stay on the mw on a heated bed for a week after so not alot of skin to skin, struggled with bf though expressed, no cosleeping and I wouldn't have felt comfortable carrying his 4lb self around in a sling all day

I met mums who's baby's spent 4 months and more in nicu, if they took the whole attachment theory to heart and the cosleeping etc they would be nervous wrecks or suffering from depression

marriedinwhite · 31/12/2011 23:14

moominsarescary I quite agree. 17 years ago I was as shocked at my mother telling me to put the baby in the pram, in the garden for an hour every day to make sure I got my jobs done and he got fresh air. He was born on Christmas Day! We co-slept for the first 6 weeks, well I slept in the nursery and tried to get him used to the cot (and sometimes crept downstairs and cuddled him on the sofa if it was a bad night).

How times change. His girlfried chucked him today - he's very upset. I was going out tonight for drinks but have cancelled. He is, after all, my pfb even if he is 6' 1" (ish).

PoppyDoolally · 31/12/2011 23:18

Poor kid! I got dumped at new year - near midnight - ten years ago! It sucks. It gets better though!

NormanTebbit · 31/12/2011 23:32

Attachment theory came about during studies on orphans - children who had been neglected.

It's not about CC or daycare, bowlby was not studying children who were loved and looked after by a parent.

This attachment theory brow beating is an example of how a little bit of knowledge can be used to make parents feel horribly guilty. If you are chronically overtired then CC is a good solution for the whole family especially if baby is sharing with siblings/ has parents who are working.

Op i'm with you on this. Frankly if you think this is damaging you need to get a grip.

mrsjay · 31/12/2011 23:35

aww marriedinwhite I hope your baby is ok being dumped new years eve what a bummer

Bewilderedmum · 31/12/2011 23:37

marriedinwhite - bless him! my oldest is 14 now, and negotiating the whole teenage thing - he is great! I actually really like having a teenager - but - you so FEEL for them. Mine is slightly younger, but taller than me, and v handy for reaching things in the back of the cupboard.

It is fascinating to see how they grow, develop, form opinions, move forwards etc - yet at times, they can be quite fragile still - even though they seem confident...

Hope he is Ok x

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