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Xmas presents I am not happy and feeling like a child...

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sassyminder · 26/12/2011 17:29

There was 2 couples and a single women at our home for Xmas, all from my usband family ( mother and father in law, brother in law with girlfriend and sister in law) and I made sure I bougtht them all of them gifts on behalf of me, my husband and dd.
For the lady's one hand made to order ( very pretty and one of a kind) handbag each, one expensive umbrella each and one L'occitane en provence set of 3 hand cream each. For the gentlemen I bouth 1 pringle of Scotland Polo Shirt, for FIL, Diesel Laptop Bag for BIL and Animal manbag for DH + L'occitane en Provence after shave for all of men.
Here is what I get:
2 primark pyjama bottoms from BIL and girlfriend (one is XXL and other is S, I am size 8 so only one is good)
1 hideous hat from SIL
1 bodycream from poundland from In Laws.

They really took the piss this year!
My husband and daughter got nice things obviously.
it is not all about presents, but it hurts see they give each other nice stuff and do this to me, I would rather them tell me what the fuck the problem is they have with me and give me absolutely nothing!!!
Next year I am going all the way to spend Xmas with my own family fuck them.
My DD is the only child in the family so they will be sad and alone.

And they won't have my hospitality ( yes I always host spending on food, drinks, eletricity and so on) even tough we work full time until the 23rd (hubby until 24th) and boxing day.

I don't blame my DH, he always waits for his bonus after new year to buy me nice presents, and this year I am getting an Iphone and Apple laptop.

Bitches.

OP posts:
katkitya · 27/12/2011 21:09

This is a wind up, it has to be Smile

Even if she didnt want to speak to you, all you had to do was start a conversation with her "are you having a nice time at grannys?" that kind of thing.

Pekka · 27/12/2011 21:09

OP - you bought the same gift for everyone. It seems to me you put just as little thought into your gifts as they did.

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sassyminder · 27/12/2011 21:10

And anyway she didn't call my number somebody else did, than they grab the phone from her and when hear my voice says: oh! (Disappointment) is it you?? C'mon!!! Why
did you call my number?? It must be part of the plan.

OP posts:
ThatVikRinA22 · 27/12/2011 21:10

Actually, I'm with your inlaws on this one. Have a Biscuit

ilovesooty · 27/12/2011 21:10

The plan? You sound positively deranged.

ZZZenAgain · 27/12/2011 21:11

what is the ultimate goal of this plan?

LoveInASnowyClimate · 27/12/2011 21:15

OP, your mention of "a plan" worries me. I am not being flip, but do you have a history of mental health issues? Are you feeling ok?

WhatsWrongWithYule · 27/12/2011 21:16

By Christ, it sounds like you'd be doing everyone a favour if you did go home. And while you're there, get some therapy and take some parenting classes to try and salvage any chance of a relationship with your daughter you may have left.

ZZZenAgain · 27/12/2011 21:19

I don't see how she could possibly be feeling ok, it doesn't sound like it. Sounds more like someone about to have a breakdown IMO, don't push her over the edge

Ephiny · 27/12/2011 21:20

I'm starting to think this must be a wind-up. Either that or you are not quite well...

The way you speak about your 4 year old is quite bizarre. I know small children can be annoying and inadvertently rude sometimes, but I really doubt she is involved in some grand 'plan' to make you unhappy.

ZZZenAgain · 27/12/2011 21:20

well that sounds a bit heavy handed from me. I think I cannot help here, I'm off.

OP, talk to your dh. Please just talk to your husband - about everything.

LoveInASnowyClimate · 27/12/2011 21:21

Yes, perhaps "ok" was unfortunate wording on my part, OP. I feel worried about you, following your last post. Do you have anyone to talk to in RL? Perhaps you should start a new thread about the way you are feeling?

WhatsWrongWithYule · 27/12/2011 21:22

I'm sorry, yes, you could be right.

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sassyminder · 27/12/2011 21:22

The ultimate goal must be undermine me, they must be shitting themselves now that I'm self sufficient and can look after myself and DD even whiotout DH if necessary I paid off our debt I have the right now to stay indefinite in th UK or go back home if I wish, I now speak reasonable English, have friends and a life. I'm not that poor little thing who needed to borrow money from them to rent a bedsit (when DD was born we were sharing accommodation with strangers and did so until she was 6 months old). I don't need to count the pennies to go buy milk anymore.

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WorraLiberty · 27/12/2011 21:24

Of course it's a wind up

I loved this little nugget...slipped in the middle of a massive post than she starts the small talk she and all English people love

Big FAIL

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sassyminder · 27/12/2011 21:24

And maybe that is why she gave me poundland stuff? To remind me when I could afford only to buy from there ?? Well if that cream is good for me must be good for her aswell. Don't worry she will get it back.

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ilovesooty · 27/12/2011 21:28

Yes, we noticed your intention of giving it back to her several pages ago. Hmm

If it's not a wind up you're deeply unpleasant.

So they helped you out when you had nothing and now you have money you can't wait to rub their noses in it? Quite apart from your unspeakable attitude towards your daughter you sound utterly horrible.

ssd · 27/12/2011 21:28

op, I think you need to talk to someone, you sound a bit unhinged , sorry

I was very rude to you earlier, i apologise

ThatVikRinA22 · 27/12/2011 21:28

jesus. are you really a christian?

cos i have news for you.

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sassyminder · 27/12/2011 21:30

I'm not good at small talk.

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Ephiny · 27/12/2011 21:30
Confused

Don't you think you might be over-thinking this a bit? I'm sure lots of people on here got thoughtless or disappointing presents from their relatives or in-laws (I think I saw a whole thread about it actually). But it's going a bit far to imagine some big conspiracy against you, just because your MIL bought you body cream that wasn't your preferred brand.

Seriously, if this is for real, take some deep breaths and maybe step away from the computer for a while, try to focus on what really matters in life. If you find yourself feeling like this often, it might be worth seeking some help.

ThatVikRinA22 · 27/12/2011 21:32

i got nothing from my in laws.

i still manage to be more "christian" than you though op. i think you need to revisit the whole christian thing.

ilovesooty · 27/12/2011 21:34

I don't think she'd recognise Christian behaviour if it bit her on her spoiled little arse.

LoveInASnowyClimate · 27/12/2011 21:38

OP, I am worried about you. It might be a good idea for you to speak to someone about how you feel. The Samaritans might be a good starting point if you have no one to talk to in RL?

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