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Ruined Christmas - AIBU to want to cry?

282 replies

loopsylou · 23/12/2011 12:27

Sister came round today to stay for christmas with 2 DN's, husband and dogs. Lovely newly clean house ready for Christmas and what happens? Dog knocks over tree and rips apart decorations my daughter made, that we've had for 5 years. Her spoilt little brats feed ENTIRE BLOODY lamb leg (for christmas eve) to said dog. Her DH and mine have disappeared to the pub, she's gone to bed (MY BED AS HER BACK IS APPARENTLY TOO SORE TO SLEEP DOWNSTAIRS) leaving me with 3 kids a manic dog and a broken in half christmas tree. Now transpires that DN1 has climbed onto the bathroom sink and pulled it from the wall, I had water all over the floor before I could stop it, told them to clean it up only to be shouted at by a 10 year old that I wasn't their mum. I cannot believe all this has happened in 1 day, but I'm at my wits end and I've locked myself in the kitchen rather then deal with all that. :( AIBU to just curl up and cry? Xmas Sad

OP posts:
Methe · 23/12/2011 12:29

NO Yanbu. Ask them to leave!

scarletforya · 23/12/2011 12:29

i don't believe you? Shock

Kick them out!

Dustinthewind · 23/12/2011 12:29

Lock them all in the garden, phone the DHs and tell them to come back before you gut your sister and serve her in place of the lamb.
They need to replace the tree and bugger off home ASAP.

OtterBaubles · 23/12/2011 12:30
Shock

Get in there and kick your sister out of bed. Tell her you are going out for an hour and you want your house back to normal before you come home. If that is too much for her, she should just leave.

Cankulzof · 23/12/2011 12:30

and she has reacted how..?

HollyGhost · 23/12/2011 12:30

don't curl up and cry

call the men back from the pub, explain what has happened and that you need a break

walk to the nearest cafe with a book

duvetdayplease · 23/12/2011 12:31

I think you have to call an urgent meeting of the adults and say this has to stop or they leave before the end of the day. YANBU. This is awful!

Kayano · 23/12/2011 12:31

Get your sister out of bed to sort it they have a bloody cheek

I would have decked the 10 year old Wink

Dustinthewind · 23/12/2011 12:32

'www.amazon.com/Serve-Man-Cookbook-People/dp/1880448823'

Serve with the same side dishes as for pork.
YABU to curl up and cry, go and kick up some shit.

Dustinthewind · 23/12/2011 12:32

www.amazon.com/Serve-Man-Cookbook-People/dp/1880448823

Mulledbee · 23/12/2011 12:32

That's awful. :( I would wake your sister and insist she deals with the problems and replace the lamb - there's still some food available at tue supermarkets.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 23/12/2011 12:32

Agree, ask them to leave. There's no excuse for your sister and BIL to neglect their parenting duties because their visiting. What is your DH thinking of though, taking BIL to pub and leaving you to it?

Ask them to go - today - they can book into a Travel lodge and, if you feel like it, they can come to you for lunch on Sunday. If not, don't bother asking them.

MudAndGlitter · 23/12/2011 12:33

YANBU!!!
Drag her out of bed by her hair, hand her a bin bag, a mop, directions to a supermarket and her children. Take yourself off to bed.

Bohica · 23/12/2011 12:34

Get her out of your bed to deal with her mouthy children. Tell your DH that you need him to come home now as the house is trashed.

Interested to know how they managed to feed the lamb to the dog without you knowing though? Was it cooked?

I've had a shit day as well so you have my sympathy.

AFuckingFestiveKnackeredWoman · 23/12/2011 12:34

Get her out of your bed and tell her to get her children under control.

Don't be passive and just put up with it for the sake of harmony - Thats completely unacceptable behaviour and they should be punished.

Pixieonthemoor · 23/12/2011 12:34

Oh no!!! I am so so sorry and of course you would not be unreasonable to just cry. What appalling behaviour from the dn's - feeding the lamb to the dog and busting a basin. I BET they would not be allowed to do that at home. I am afraid it is time to turf sis out of YOUR bed and read the riot act to the whole damn lot of them. Disgusting behaviour AND you are not their unpaid babysitter either. AND your 'd'n should not be speaking to you like that. Aaaarrrgh I am upset on your behalf. Xmas Sad

Pandemoniaa · 23/12/2011 12:35

Riot Acts need to be read. Get men back from pub, sister out of bed and then stand them, in the midst of the carnage, and lose it. Big Time. Make as many dire threats as necessary to ensure that order is returned and behaviour improves.

Littlefish · 23/12/2011 12:35
  1. Wake her up and ask her deal with the mess made by her children.
  2. Ask her to replace the leg of lamb, or provide a meal for the whole family.
  3. Ask her what she's planning to do about the Christmas tree.
  4. phone your dh and get him and BIL back from the pub.

Or, take a deep breath and when your sister wakes up, explain that you are looking forward to spending a lovely christmas with her, but in order for that to happen, you need to agree some ground rules for both families.

How long are they staying?

SantasHat · 23/12/2011 12:36

Get the sink mended pronto and give them the bill before they leave.
Make your sister do her share of the cooking
Don't be a doormat - make the adults take charge of the kids.
You can't teach the kids to behave in a few hours so don't try.
Give yourself a pat on the back for NOT INVITING THEM NEXT YEAR.

ujjayi · 23/12/2011 12:36

YANBU. I would have flipped out big time by now.

Agree that you need to summon all adults - regardless of any physical discomfort they may or may not be experiencing. They are taking the p*ss and need to be told.

I would want tree and meat replacing (perfectly do-able at this stage), the cost of putting sink right etc

I hope you have some luck with this.

HecateGoddessOfTwelfthNight · 23/12/2011 12:36

Why oh why oh why are you putting up with this?

You have the right to open your mouth and say something!

Don't let them all take the piss like this.

Haul her arse out of bed and tell her to sort this out.

GwendolineMaryLacedwithBrandy · 23/12/2011 12:36

Seriously?? Xmas Shock If this is all true (and I'm not doubting it is) then I would wake her up, tell her to pack her bags and brats children and skedaddle. Any one of those things on its own would piss me right off.

duvetdayplease · 23/12/2011 12:36

I agree with the suggestion from Pandemoniaa to lose it. Sometimes the only way to be heard.

MerylStrop · 23/12/2011 12:36

get your sister up and tell her to sort her kids out, and the mess they have made

ring the pubgoers and tell them they must source and procure alternative meat or have pot noodle for lunch

Catsu · 23/12/2011 12:39

How old are the kids?
Did your sister ask you to supervise them while she has a rest?
Am just imagining the other side to this...
I am in lots of pain with my back, just arrived at my sisters house and asked her to supervise the kids and dog while I have a little rest. She didn't watch them, they made a big mess due to being unsupervised. Sister woke me up and told me to clean if up or clear out of her house!