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Ruined Christmas - AIBU to want to cry?

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loopsylou · 23/12/2011 12:27

Sister came round today to stay for christmas with 2 DN's, husband and dogs. Lovely newly clean house ready for Christmas and what happens? Dog knocks over tree and rips apart decorations my daughter made, that we've had for 5 years. Her spoilt little brats feed ENTIRE BLOODY lamb leg (for christmas eve) to said dog. Her DH and mine have disappeared to the pub, she's gone to bed (MY BED AS HER BACK IS APPARENTLY TOO SORE TO SLEEP DOWNSTAIRS) leaving me with 3 kids a manic dog and a broken in half christmas tree. Now transpires that DN1 has climbed onto the bathroom sink and pulled it from the wall, I had water all over the floor before I could stop it, told them to clean it up only to be shouted at by a 10 year old that I wasn't their mum. I cannot believe all this has happened in 1 day, but I'm at my wits end and I've locked myself in the kitchen rather then deal with all that. :( AIBU to just curl up and cry? Xmas Sad

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Catsu · 23/12/2011 12:55

Didn't realise they were 10! That's why I asked how old they are.
Was imaging a couple of unsupervised toddlers running round the house.I've got little ones (one with autism) and they can do all sorts if unsupervised!

How sick is your sister op? If she is genuinely ill and needs to be on bed then call your dh and get your bil to come home and sort out his kids and the mess! If sister is taking the piss then wake her up and get her to sort it or leave

Sounds terrible

WorraLiberty · 23/12/2011 12:56

Blimey, words fail me Xmas Shock

RedHelenB · 23/12/2011 12:57

Not being funny but they didn't feed the lamb to the dog, by the sounds of it it took it & they were sensible not to try to snatch it back. Whose dog is it? Maybe it needs to be take for a walk with dsis & kids while you have a relax?

Dsis does need to have a word with dn though about his rudeness to his aunt.

stinkingbishop · 23/12/2011 12:58

OP do keep us informed on what else is happening. The kids will block your chimney with cling film to create a Santa trap which will result in your chimney catching fire. The dog will wee all over the sofa you have to sleep on. They will run a bath tonight and leave it running so the ceiling collapses. And your DP and BiL will be arrested for loutish behaviour as, having spent all afternoon in the pub, they decide it's a good idea to decorate your entire street with loo roll because it 'looks like snow'.

In all seriousness, throw an absolute eppy. I can imagine DS is in a lot of pain but it is therefore her job to get on the phone to her DP and get him back to get it sorted. Including a plumber, NOW, and a new cut of meat for Xmas. And telling his DC that, when in your house, they obey your rules.

OldLadyKnowsSantaClaus · 23/12/2011 12:58

I think Catsu was just giving an alternative point of view.

StealthPolarBear · 23/12/2011 12:58

catsu if the children were 2 maybe. My 4yo wouldnt misbehave to this level.

HollyGhost · 23/12/2011 12:58

are the men back from the pub yet?

EndoplasmicReticulum · 23/12/2011 13:00

I'd be sending them home. They've got time to sort out their own Christmas meal, if they go today. I would not put up with this, and agree your husband needs to come back from the pub to back you up.

thisisyesterday · 23/12/2011 13:00

don't curl up and cry.

i would be bawling those kids out like nothing they've seen before. i don't give a shit if you aren't their mother... they'd be getting it from both barrels and they WOULD be clearing it up.

whilst they were doing that, "d"sis would be getting woken up and told exactly what had happened.

i would call the husbands home and tell them to deal with replacing meat etc. and the dog would be banned from the house

DeePanCrisPandEeeven · 23/12/2011 13:04

no, curling up and crying is what sis should be doing when you've finished with her.

utter disrespect. Agree with all who say boot them off - but not before replacement food and tree is gathered and the little scrotes have cleaned up.

breath-taking.

Winkly · 23/12/2011 13:05

What thisisyesterday said. Time for a shitfit of unholy proportions.

MJinSparklyStockings · 23/12/2011 13:07

oh my god, get her up to help you, what happens next depends how she reacts

WhenDoISleep · 23/12/2011 13:10

Ditto what a lot of people have said - DSis has to get up, clean up the mess, read the riot act to her kids and sort out a replacement tree/decorations and a replacement meal for tomorrow.

DH and BIL need to get back from the pub ASAP. BIL needs to help sort out the havoc his family have caused.

DH should look after your DC and tell you to go out for the afternoon so you can calm down.

Failing that, get DSis up and tell her to leave and you will bill her for the damage. Don't invite them back again.

How would DSis/BIL react if the boot was on the other foot, and your family had arrived at their house and caused all this chaos in the first morning?

MillyR · 23/12/2011 13:17

I'd have gone out and left the whole situation by now. I'd be in a cafe drinking hot chocolate, eating cake and reading a book. I might even stay out at all day and have a restaurant meal on my own tonight as the lamb has been eaten.

I would refuse to deal with any of it at all.

FabbyChic · 23/12/2011 13:17

Id tell them to fuck off, your sister is responsible for her own children you arent a fucking child minder.

Get her out of bed tell her to call a plumber and get the sink fixed at her cost, replace the leg of lamb and fucking supervise her children.

Id also call your husband back and tell him either sort it or christmas is off.

SnapesMistressofMerriment · 23/12/2011 13:22

I hope you have got your sister up and the men back from the pub by now OP.

NatashaBee · 23/12/2011 13:23

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loopsylou · 23/12/2011 13:29

DH not answering phone (GRRRRRR) but sister is awake and won't get up so I put her brats kids in with her and am pleased to say they were screamed at. Sister apologised and has agreed to send BIL to get new tree when he's back if he's not to drunk to drive "D"N's have now settled down in DD's room to watch some movie. Dog is outside. :D Sink sadly now completely off wall and on floor. Pipe blocked with towels. :( Starting to relax but still have a 5 and a half ft tree to move out of living room and trying to get sis to pay for new dinner. (still haven't found leg)

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EndoplasmicReticulum · 23/12/2011 13:30

What do you mean she "won't get up" - is she planning to spend the whole of Christmas in your bed while you run around looking after her children and cooking / cleaning up? Bloody hell.

Dustinthewind · 23/12/2011 13:30

Have you told her to go home?
With all the annoying bits of her family?
How far away is the pub? I'd be there causing a scene.

HollyGhost · 23/12/2011 13:31

Is your sister's dh also not answering his phone? If you know the pub, I'd phone them there.

There should be no "trying" to get sis to pay for the damage. If she won't pay I would tell her that they are not welcome to stay.

AbbyAbsinthe · 23/12/2011 13:32

Not good enough, OP. (Not you, obviously!)

Who the actual fuck does your sister think she is? What do you mean she won't get up? Why is she in bed in the middle of the day leaving you to look after her brats?

Time to get angry, I think love. I would be apoplectic with rage by now.

MillyR · 23/12/2011 13:32

Phone the actual pub landline, and get the landlord to find your DH.

HollyGhost · 23/12/2011 13:32

Better still, go to the pub and explain the situation.

WorraLiberty · 23/12/2011 13:32

Just get her up and ring her DH's phone too!

Do you know the name of the pub?

You could Google the number and phone them