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Orgasm during childbirth?

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WorraLiberty · 05/12/2011 10:31

Am I being unreasonable to think this is possibly the last thing on the mind of any sane woman while she's trying to push a melon out of a mouse hole? Xmas Shock

Apparently 22% of the Mums she studied, orgasmed during childbirth....though she didn't say how many she actually studied.

My mind is truly boggled Xmas Grin

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G1nger · 05/12/2011 20:48

I used clitoral stimulation to sleep in early labour. I then gave it up. I had it in my birth plan to use during pushing but the midwives seemed too prudish...

Abitwobblynow · 05/12/2011 20:57

Not a chance. I should never have had vaginal delivery - not enough collagen - official. What I experience was the fibres of my clit (as well as everything else including rectum) SPLITTING. It was agony.

nativitywreck · 05/12/2011 21:49

Oh Sweet Jesus no wonder you are a bitwobblynow. I am a bit wobbly just reading that!

GlueSticksEverywhere · 05/12/2011 22:40

Holy crap! I didn't know there was such a thing as not enough collagen! Did it all recover?

AKissIsNotAContract · 05/12/2011 22:44

A relative of mine not only orgasmed in childbirth (with her second child) but it was the first orgasm she'd ever had. She didn't even realise what was happening to her until she had the same experience some time afterwards during sex.

MrsRhettButler · 05/12/2011 22:56

What's collagen?

flyingspaghettimonster · 05/12/2011 23:14

I don't know, maybe I was orgasming while I gave birth, and it just got hidden by the agonising pain as I tore from vagina to anus, top to bottom...

prizeelliott · 05/12/2011 23:30

I had a really romantic view of birth until I actually gave birth! Tried it 3 times incase...killed each time...actually 3rd time was probably the most painful! After pains were excruciating to the point I could barely hold the babyand had to go and lie in a hot bath shacking for half an hour. Deffo no big 'o' for me, despite no pain relief etc
Well done to those who did manage it! (jealous...although don't know who really wants an orgasm with that many people looking at you...perhaps that was my problem) xxxx

saladsandwich · 05/12/2011 23:36

wonders how many more women that mw has rubbed in labour Shock god if the mw had asked me that in labour i could have consented while off my face on drugs, i was definitely vulnerable wht ever they said i did ect i think she was bang out of order

i dont even think i'd want an orgasm at all in childbirth wouldnt want it to be conected to the same thing if that makes sense

HugosGoatee · 05/12/2011 23:38

Yet another reason to be Sad about my weird-shaped uterus and need for c-sections! Well not when I read about the (undoubtedly far more common) 3rd degree tears and the like.

FWIW I think it's pretty cool what pineapple's midwife did, and that it might have seemed an entirely natural and appropriate thing to do in the context. It does make sense. I bet she's a fab midwife.

HugosGoatee · 05/12/2011 23:40

Surely it's not assault if it's done for the benefit of the labouring woman and the midwife gains no sexual pleasure from it?

Moominsarescary · 05/12/2011 23:45

Maybe it was at risk of tearing or something, and massaging prevents it or something

I had an orgasm with ds1 but that was when a doctor examined me, must of found my g spot, I should have asked him to show my partner at the time where it was

I've been worried it would happen during internals ever since but nope

Snowinsummer · 06/12/2011 00:13

I had one when I was giving birth to my second child. I had cs for all 3 of my births, but only intense orgasmic feelings with the second one. I don't understand it for a second, as I'd had a spinal block, but the feeling lasted for quite a while & it was the weirdest thing ever. Maybe it was the drugs I was given but I'm not complaining!!

CheerfulYank · 06/12/2011 00:19

Sweet Odin's raven, Spaghetti Monster ! Shock

My Dh may send you a card...I think you've just put me off whining at him for another DC for a few months!

pootros · 06/12/2011 00:23

Wow, AldiW, that's really interesting!
So that's why they also call it the panic button.
Wouldn't it be awesome to quickly get a clinical trial going on that - you'd be remembered through the ages as the person who cracked the original evolutionary function of el Clitto, name remembered alongside Flo Nightingale, Marie Curie and Edward Jenner, and all those who gave of themselves in the interests of medical science.
Me - I was VERY loved up during my labour - perhaps a result of the injected opiate - but I took off all my clothes and kept trying to snog my husband apparently, to the extent that the midwife had to bury herself in her charts and make furious notes. The ring of fire bit kind of brought me back to earth with a bump though and would have put paid to any orgasmic intentions!

flyingspaghettimonster · 06/12/2011 03:52

LOL Cheerful Yank, sorry about that. It was my own fault though. I chose a natural water birth and didn't dare ask for pain relief, so in my confuzzled state I thought if I pushed before I was ready I could get it finished faster. I did - but with unpleasant results and 2 csections to follow...

GlueSticksEverywhere · 07/12/2011 11:26

Moominsarescary Did the dr realise you were having an orgasm?

GlueSticksEverywhere · 07/12/2011 11:34

HugosGoatee Surely it's not assault if it's done for the benefit of the labouring woman and the midwife gains no sexual pleasure from it?

I think it would be assult for anyone to touch you in a sexual place while you were off your face on drugs and fear and not in a position to give permission for such an unusual and not exactly standard practice! It's not the midwives place to decide that it was for the labouring womans benefit. Surely anyone who comitted assult could say the same thing "I was doing it for their benefit"! If it were something she wanted to try out then she should have discussed it with her patient way before they were in the delivery room and made sure she had persmission. I also don't think that the definition of sexual assult includes the perpetrator having to experience sexual pleasure themselves, as the act is still the act despite how the perpetrator reacts physically to it. For eg (a rather extreme example admittedly) a rapitt can't get off a rape charge by saying "yeah but I didn't enjoy it!"

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WorraLiberty · 07/12/2011 11:41

I wonder how it would have been viewed if the Midwife was male?

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HattiFattner · 07/12/2011 11:42

i can confirm that it is possible to orgasm during birth Blush.

However, this was with my 2nd and third, and both were very fast deliveries, so it was all over before I really knew it. STory of my life... Grin.

I knew it had happened as had the "after effects" - that nice pulsing. But during the actual moment there were no orchestras, fireworks and "yes, Yes YES!" moments. But it happened.

But there was def no one fiddling with my fanjo in that way.

GlueSticksEverywhere · 07/12/2011 11:42

a rapist that is! not a rapitt!

GlueSticksEverywhere · 07/12/2011 11:45

I wonder at what point these orgasms happened? As baby was actually coming out?

duchesse · 07/12/2011 11:49

Lucky them. I personally have only ever found it fucking painful.

HardCheese · 07/12/2011 15:08

Doesn't some birth advice also emphasise that deep-kissing your partner/husband/some passing medic (OK, not serious about the last one)during labour can help things progress and minimise pain, ditto nipple stimulation by mouth or hands ie. that things we think of as specifically sexual can actually help in the birth? I have a very hairy 70s natural birth book which shows a photo of a happy-looking labouring woman having her nipples stimulated by a man and a woman, one to each breast - don't know whether the woman was a midwife or an extra birth partner, though.

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