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Original poster

to conduct this straw pole...answer A B or C

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ThatVikRinA22 · 01/12/2011 19:02

picture the scene if you will...

you are working a 7 day week. today you have worked a 9 hour day, starting at 7am, with hardly a break, you missed lunch as you were so busy.

you arrive home in the evening and you pass your DP/DH as he is going to work as you come in.

you cook a meal for your 2 teenagers, one of whom is 20 tomorrow. As that meal is almost ready, you call your 2 to come and get their meal.

as you are serving up the meal your 20 yr old shouts to you " what did you call me for? you said it was ready, i am busy"

would you:
A) serve him his meal with a sweet smile and an apology for interrupting his busy schedule?
B) make sure that before he left the room he was wearing his meal.
C) tell him to bog off back to his busy life and scrape his meal into the dog.

please do tell me what you would do, as i am most interested to find out if i was unreasonable. i chose one of the options above....i will tell you which one later.
thankyou

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ThatVikRinA22 · 01/12/2011 19:49

Grin edith....perhaps my sub concious was at work...i have seen The Wicker Man.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 01/12/2011 19:50

or even my subconscious...Blush these spelling errors are getting embarrassing....

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SantasStrapon · 01/12/2011 19:50

C)

And in future make it very clear that you expect dinner to be ready, if there's been someone at home all afternoon. Time you started training him for the practicalities of Uni life.

rhondajean · 01/12/2011 19:50

So what did you do? (losing patience)

JKSLtd · 01/12/2011 19:52

Of your choices I would choose C.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 01/12/2011 19:52

ok.

i did option C.

happy dog. Son has just gone for a takeaway which will have taken far more time than waiting 30 seconds while i served up and cost him.
we are not speaking at the minute.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 01/12/2011 19:53

how i resisted the urge to go for option B i will never quite know...the dog would still have eaten it...

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JKSLtd · 01/12/2011 19:55

But from the sounds of it you would have had more laundry.

I don't know much about Aspergers but I do think you need to change things around a bit.

A dinner rota.
Laundry lessons.
etc.
good luck

Honeydragon · 01/12/2011 19:55

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Honeydragon · 01/12/2011 19:56

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ThatVikRinA22 · 01/12/2011 19:56

it was indeed C honey....

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WowOoo · 01/12/2011 19:57

Am glad it was C after all.
I love the Wicker man and now randomly have that Britt Ekland song in my head.
I'd not speak for a while. Let him stew (get it?!) for a while.

eatingdust · 01/12/2011 19:58

So glad it wasn't A, although I'm sure none of us here thought it would've been.

Am Angry on your behalf, but it sounds like fairly typical teenage behaviour, even if he is 20 tomorrow.

We have 1 in uni, and a 15yo at home. They have tended to need very specific instructions while we're out at work.

When they were both at home in holidays, there would be a document on the wall with things like "chicken in fridge, put it in oven at 4pm; all dishes in dishwasher not on floor in living room". Generally all this would be done in the last hour before we arrived home, with the rest of the day spent watching mind-improving stuff like Jeremy Kyle as far as we could tell.

However, dd2 did, without asking, cook a pasta bake for us this week when we were out at work, so there is hope.

Do tell us how the rest of the evening goes.

EdlessAllenPoe · 01/12/2011 19:58

how about

e) pour water into my pot noodle, informing everyone they can fend for themselves as they are old enough (and not bother cooking)
or
f) when you walk through the door, ask teenagers why dinner isn't made yet?

rhondajean · 01/12/2011 19:59

Well done you for showing such restraint, I am proud of you.

daveywarbeck · 01/12/2011 20:01

The one and only time my husband did something similar, I calmly went out to the wheelie bin and put his dinner, plate and all in the bin.

Your son should be cooking even if he is developmentally about 14. I could cook dinner at 14 and did nearly every day.

jamdonut · 01/12/2011 20:04

Oh my God! Are you sure you're not me, because this sounds EXACTLY like my DS1?!!! (19 year old).

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ThatVikRinA22 · 01/12/2011 20:09

so this isnt just his aspieness then jamdonut.....makes me feel better about feeding his dinner (from Waitrose! happy happy dog....) to the pooch.

i am on Wine so rest of evening will be just fine Grin

need to let DD have the lappy for a bit before...thanks for the support y'all! i clearly was not unreasonable!

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northernwreck · 01/12/2011 20:10

What edless said. Particularly f).

Why are you cooking for any of them when you are working7 days? Why are they not cooking for you!!?

flatbellyfella · 01/12/2011 20:27

Give it to the dog . Tell him to enjoy his MacDonalds tonight.

ExquisiteChristmasCake · 01/12/2011 20:32

I probably wouldn't be cooking for a 20 year old man in the first place!

C

perceptionreality · 01/12/2011 20:32

C, yanbu!

t0lk13n · 01/12/2011 20:34

Make it the last meal you cook him!

redpanda13 · 01/12/2011 20:47

C

Heleninahandcart · 01/12/2011 20:52

C and he was lucky it wasn't B.