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to conduct this straw pole...answer A B or C

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ThatVikRinA22 · 01/12/2011 19:02

picture the scene if you will...

you are working a 7 day week. today you have worked a 9 hour day, starting at 7am, with hardly a break, you missed lunch as you were so busy.

you arrive home in the evening and you pass your DP/DH as he is going to work as you come in.

you cook a meal for your 2 teenagers, one of whom is 20 tomorrow. As that meal is almost ready, you call your 2 to come and get their meal.

as you are serving up the meal your 20 yr old shouts to you " what did you call me for? you said it was ready, i am busy"

would you:
A) serve him his meal with a sweet smile and an apology for interrupting his busy schedule?
B) make sure that before he left the room he was wearing his meal.
C) tell him to bog off back to his busy life and scrape his meal into the dog.

please do tell me what you would do, as i am most interested to find out if i was unreasonable. i chose one of the options above....i will tell you which one later.
thankyou

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TeddyMcardle · 01/12/2011 19:13

C! Though I'd probably eat it myself Blush

LoveBeingFullOfChristmasCheet · 01/12/2011 19:13

And he will be expecting presents tomorrow?

EdithWeston · 01/12/2011 19:14

C (B if pre-menstrual).

Funtimewincies · 01/12/2011 19:15

C here too, although I wouldn't bother answering, I'd just tip it straight into the dog's bowl and sit down to enjoy my meal Grin.

not so little bugger Angry!

FredFredGeorge · 01/12/2011 19:16

A of course, why would you call them saying it was ready when it wasn't?

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ThatVikRinA22 · 01/12/2011 19:16

BOF....i found wine. i am on it already...

i have put DHs portion in the fridge. if he gets particularly desperate he could always have that....but he has now interrupted his busy schedule to go out and find a take-away. i have locked the door....i suppose i should let him back though.
really.
i should shouldnt i....

a few more answers just so i get a decent cross section for comparison to check my unreasonable-ness and i will tell you which of the 3 i opted for...standby!

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UnexpectedOrange · 01/12/2011 19:17

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MMMarmite · 01/12/2011 19:18

D. Phone home half an hour earlier and get teenager to cook. You're not doing yourself or them any favours by spoiling them.

OldLadyKnowsSantaClaus · 01/12/2011 19:18

You don't have to let him back in. He's an adult.

Make him apologise properly first.

UnexpectedOrange · 01/12/2011 19:19

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BonnyBanks · 01/12/2011 19:19

I think I would stop cooking/doing laundry etc for anyone so ungrateful.

ivykaty44 · 01/12/2011 19:20

C) tell him to bog off back to his busy life and scrape his meal into the dog.

UnexpectedOrange · 01/12/2011 19:20

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ivykaty44 · 01/12/2011 19:21

I wouldn't do the wearing meal solution - as it would mean more cleaning and I know who would be doing the cleaning up from the floor and walls etc

HappyCamel · 01/12/2011 19:21

C and stop doing things for him or charge him rent. Your future DIL will be grateful.

hiddenhome · 01/12/2011 19:21

I'd dump it into the middle of his bed and make sure some of it was rubbed onto his best shirt/jeans Angry

thousandDenierStocking · 01/12/2011 19:22

C, plus an eviction notice.

rhondajean · 01/12/2011 19:22

B. Followed by half of C and whatever left into the dog. followed by never cooking for him again, he is almost 20, SCREW THAT.

My 12 year old has been known to be able to scrape a meal together when I have particularly bad/busy days. Id say he can manage.

GrimmaTheNome · 01/12/2011 19:23

Of those options, C (provided the meal wasn't very oniony)

And then draw up a dinner rota.

RetroMuff · 01/12/2011 19:24

C. What did you do?

TheGashlycrumbTinies · 01/12/2011 19:25

C

Takeresponsibility · 01/12/2011 19:25

Oh dear - I did B -to DH1, sadly it was cold because I walked to the pub with it before tipping it over him.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 01/12/2011 19:25

well he goes to live at uni next september....i think it will do us both good.

i guess i should say that he has aspergers syndrome but i have never allowed him to use this an excuse for being rude or hurtful, after all he will have to function on the same level as others in the big wide world and i would rather he know when he is being an arse than get a smack in the teeth when he tries the same tack with a bunch of strangers.... he is intelligent enough to understand that he was being unreasonable, and he is sensitive with his friends/girlfriend etc, so he does have it in him. its just me as his mother that gets the rough end of the stick....
and sometimes i feel the need to show him that actions speak louder than words!

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MildlyNarkyPuffin · 01/12/2011 19:26

I wouldn't be cooking for a 19 year old if I worked 7 days a week. He's an adult. If he broke the balsamic vinegar he'd be cleaning it up and then going to buy me a replacement. and if he walked dogshit in he'd be shampooing the carpets.

So D) If you talk to me like that you don't eat in this house.

Lotkinsgonecurly · 01/12/2011 19:26

C swiftly followed by wondering what he was cooking for dinner tomorrow night for the family?