.. to NEVER wash DD's hair...

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She's 5. She hates it, I hate it and two days later its looks the same as before. I think I last washed it about 6 months ago. I do bath the child once a month whether she needs it or not every few days, and she goes swimming every now and then but I am not sure that counts as she won't get in the pool showers. There must be a mild disinfectant effect of the chlorine tho??

You are just winding us up, now, right?

Cos nobody would encourage their 5 year old to be that different at school deliberately, surely? To the extent of encouraging them not to take part in timetabled lessons I mean.

Have you any idea how hard it's going to get for you as she gets into her teens if you have no control over your child?

How does she do PE then?

I have my PFB in reception at the moment BTW so understand that it is a bit hit and miss at that age!

Sounds to me (if this isnt a wind up) that you dont actually give a shit about your kid.

What does her dad think?

actually some people aren't allergic to the lice saliva and so may not scratch. and some parents may think that their kids are scratching their heads because they don't bother to wash it.

like i say, couldn't care less about the hair washing but doubt that the OP is checking hair properly. if it can't be washed i doubt very much if it is being gone through with a fine comb.

I am now totally convinced that this is a wind up - well done OP you got us all going there ha ha ha

my wee girl actually got a reaction to the elastic in her knickers for a while, do not know what sparked it. she wore little leggings shorts until it cleared up.

Have you tried washing it with her leaning over the bath?
I bloody hated having my hair washed and this was the only way I didn't mind. Still wash it like that now

I expect the school assume there are some significant problems at home (smelly dirty child without proper clothing), and therefore don't want to add to your troubles by complaining about lack of PE kit. It's your life and your child, so up to you what you do. But since you asked for opinions, I have to say that you are bringing your daughter up with some bizarre habits and I doubt she'll thank you for it when she's older.

Not howling with outrage OP, just feel really sad for your DD you're so lazy lighthearted about not doing your best for her.

OK, OP, if you are serious and not just winding us up, I urge to seek help with your daughter from your GP and Health Visitor. Nothing you've described is normal and what's worse it's limiting her and your quality of life and her ability to integrate school in the usual way. There are options and treatments available for sensory issues if that's what she has.

i do believe the OP that the child isn't smelly.

And SS1 I promise I am actually a very attentive mummy in most (not all) other ways. You don't need to worry ur little head about junk food or DVDs its homemade spinach soup and craft activities on the kitchen table all the way. I just have to be careful she doesn't get any glue in her hair.

I mean that if she is constantly bothered by clothing to the extent that she is spending entire days holding it away from her body she might benefit from some sensory therapy. Unless she can wear a mumu 24/7.

Not washing hair, for me, if it looks clean and scalp is fine etc is not the end of the world.

But why doesn't she have her PE kit? Is she doing PE or not? That is sounding not right to me.

hair fine as long as not minging etc

no pant not fine

no PE not fine

IMO

Why did you post on AIBU? Do you think there's a chance you are BU? Or do you want to boast about how weird you are? Or is it all a wind up?

If this is true then the teacher will be logging all of this. She will have noticed that your daughter never has socks on, has dirty hair, never has a PE kit, and your daughter may have mentioned she doesn't wear knickers. There will be an incident book somewhere and your daughter will be in it. It's not normal to send a child to school without underwear and teachers will assume it means there are problems at home - because usually it is a sign of a lazy and neglectful mother. Not saying that's the case here, but it will be what the school think.

OP - attentive mummy !!!! lmao !

Duchesse - Whats a mumu? Genuinely - I clutch at any straws when it comes to clothing suggestions.

And she does her PE in her school trousers

Don't wash DS2's- he has ASD, sensory issues with his head, so hair-washing causes major melt-down. I do rinse it through and scrub his scalp with my fingers for as long as I can.

It looks clean and shiny- think JLO caramel curls, only prob is it smells like wet dog when it gets wet

I've never washed my 16 month old's hair. Never used soap/shampoo/bubble bath on him.

Oh yes re PE

DD is in recep too and she does it in her tights if she is wearing them
If socks she puts shorts on
Otherwise they would never get them all changed!!!

Do the school know about her issues
Has she said why she won't wear pants/socks?

It would be infinitely better if the school are in the know about your daughter and that you are trying and etc

Rather than as far as they know she has no pants, socks or PE kit

Midsomer - I posted on AIBU because I genuinely wanted to know whether anyone else had found washing hair makes no difference. I am actually not at all weird. Older DD not at all weird. Younger DD - um yep a bit. I have spoken to her teachers about the trouble she has with clothes, and they see the problems for themselves so they are in the loop and have been rather more understanding than some... but it is what you sign up for when you post AIBU so that's fine.

Glad the school is on board