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.. to NEVER wash DD's hair...

432 replies

GoTheFkToSleep · 29/11/2011 18:47

She's 5. She hates it, I hate it and two days later its looks the same as before. I think I last washed it about 6 months ago. I do bath the child once a month whether she needs it or not every few days, and she goes swimming every now and then but I am not sure that counts as she won't get in the pool showers. There must be a mild disinfectant effect of the chlorine tho??

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sweetsantababy · 01/12/2011 13:53

I think madboys has a very helathy attitude to nudity. I sleep naked too, DDs see me naked all the time.

4madboys · 01/12/2011 13:54

depends how long/thick the hair is, you cant see them always, esp not the little ones, vile things.

sweetsantababy · 01/12/2011 13:55

fair enough if you have trouble seeing them.

4madboys · 01/12/2011 13:56

yep otherwise i wouldnt bother, believe me i would rather spend my evenings doing other things! once the hair is wet and has been brushed before hand its fine with a nitty gritty comb tho. its just ds4 who doesnt like it.

ElaineReese · 01/12/2011 13:59

I'm no anti-nakedness guru or anything, just probably wouldn't walk the house around naked as I the kids have got older. Nor would I want them to see me giving birth, to be honest, but there you go!

I just would imagine most 12 year old boys wouldn't relish their mums boobs and fannies all over the house, tbh - it's more that I think that's what they're like than that it's right or wrong, though.

homefries · 01/12/2011 14:01

Has anyone tried Vosene shampoo,hair lice repellant? A friend recommended it to me.

4madboys · 01/12/2011 14:08

we have got it, dont know if its any good as i dont use it all that often!

elaine he wanted to be at the birth, from the moment i found out i was pregnant and he found the positive test in the bathroom! was adament he wanted to be there. has seen home births on tv etc and is very clued up on the whole thing. i said i didnt mind as long as if i asked him to leave he did, but i had no need, he sat quietly the whole time and the picture i have of him holding a literally minutes old dd is priceless, he was so proud and in awe of the whole thing. it was a good experience for him and i think he has a special bond wiht her because he was there, he certainly dotes on her. :)

AitchTwoOh · 01/12/2011 14:15

lol, they're not ALL over the house, presumably. they're just taking up a small part of it while she's on her way to the loo or having a baby.

he sounds like a lovely lad, mad4.

and the POINT of the combing is that i can't see them without combing. all these people who say their kids don't get nits might be in the very same position and not know until the whole school is scratching. how hilarious, though, that it's not okay to give pants and hair-washing a miss but nit-combing once a week is overkill. Grin

4madboys · 01/12/2011 14:20

lol aitch no my boobs are large but not that large! so yes its when i am on the way to the bathoom/bed or after having a shower in the morning i will come downstairs and sort bfast and the baby, generally with a towel round me but it inevitably drops off.

and aitch wasnt it YOU who tried that trailer thingy? what was it like in the end, did you do a review on here? i dont think we can get one for our car as we have a 'composite' boot :( sob sob

and yes i cant always see the nits without combing so i comb their hair once a week, dont shampoo it once a week always, or that often actually! and yes they go out occasionally wihtout pants on! but they are clean and their clothes are clean and their hair is 'generally' brushed, so i figure we are doing ok.

and aitch he is lovely, always has been very mature for his years so i didnt see an issue with him being at the birth, there was one bit where he was tapping his foot and i snapped at him to stop, the midwife said 'this is where you do EXACTLY what your mother tells you to do and nothing else, you may breathe but nothing else without permission!' Grin

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GoTheFkToSleep · 01/12/2011 14:21

*I've found this whole thread like a trip to the playground. People might as well point at the OP and shouting EEUUW OP's got fleas!!!!

'no underwear she must have worms'

Sadly it's these opinions that rub off on children and result in the bullying that the OP is being blamed for provoking!*

Too true EmmaRoyd

And the same characters are the ones happy to accept that bullying has to be accepted as a fact of life....

And, 4madboys I am with you on the nudity - If the DS's get uncomfortable with it then they will let you know. I don't know if I would have wanted my DCs to see me giving birth as I wouldn't have liked them to hear the frenzied swearing Grin but you know what will work for your family.

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AgentZigzag · 01/12/2011 14:32

'And the same characters are the ones happy to accept that bullying has to be accepted as a fact of life....'

Bullying is a fact of life, I'm surprised you think it doesn't go on OP.

Why would you bury your head in the sand pretending it's not there?

You're not someone who actually believes the schools when they tell you the crappy measures they draw up to tackle bullying addresses the problem are you?

But you're wrong that I'm a 'character' who accepts it, unless the sentence I've quoted is just a shitty dig at those who disagree with you?

Is it?

4madboys · 01/12/2011 14:35

not much swearing during her birth, lots of mooing like a wounded cow tho Grin

fishandlilacs · 01/12/2011 14:50

my dd is 4.5 she is a tad dramatic when it comes to hair washing. I bought some new shampoo and told her is was special shampoo that doesn't get in your eyes (it isn't, it's cheapo aldi) and I showed her a new way of doing which was her lying down to be rinsed off and we called it playing "mermaids". I have been incredibly careful not to get any in her eyes since we have been doing this method and now she firmly belives tha if she uses that brand washing her hair doesn't sting her eyes.

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GoTheFkToSleep · 01/12/2011 14:57

U still trying to get me to flounce Zigzag?

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AgentZigzag · 01/12/2011 15:07

I would never try to upset anyone on here, let alone to get them to flounce.

And if someone read your post without reading the rest of the thread to see I was joking earlier about you not flouncing, they might get the impression I'd tried to upset you at some point, which of course isn't true.

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GoTheFkToSleep · 01/12/2011 15:11
Hmm
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AntiqueAnteater · 01/12/2011 15:13

i vaguely recall reading somewhere that no underwear at school is a flag for child neglect/abuse

will try and find it

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GoTheFkToSleep · 01/12/2011 15:15

Sure, some neglected and abused children wear no underwear. Some also have bruises but just cos your child has a bruise it doesn't mean they are abused.

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MegBusset · 01/12/2011 15:19

DSes are 4.9 and 2.7 and have NEVER been shampooed (DS1 has eczema and v sensitive skin). They do get bathed every day (in bath oil for the eczema) and a quick once-over the head with a damp sponge. Their hair is clean and smells lovely :)

AgentZigzag · 01/12/2011 15:24

Which do you mean OP?

Hmm = WTF?

or

Hmm = STFU

RockyAddict · 01/12/2011 17:02

Aitch the reason I know that he's never had head lice is because I do check his hair. Regularly. Thank you. I may not comb it every day but when we have cuddles together, I have a sneak peak. It's actually not compulsory to have had head lice before you leave school. Just very likely.

My other DC has had it 3 times and he has short hair which is washed 2 or 3 times a week.

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 01/12/2011 17:03

GoTheFk

Wow, way to dismiss the expererience of several posters.

Thanks for that.

sweetsantababy · 01/12/2011 17:05

aitch who said it was over kill to nit comb your DCs hair once a week? I personally think on my children who have very fine hair there is no need as I can see them when I look closely so wouldn't put them (or me) through nit combing. Your being quite snide on this thread.

sweetsantababy · 01/12/2011 17:06

Oh and my DC have had headlice that I found by looking

missismac · 01/12/2011 17:20

Ok, I haven't read through this thread in its entirety so apologies if I'm repeating what's already been said.

I've never washed any of my 4 children's hair (current age range 8 to nearly 16). It does get wet in the bath & when they swim or shower, but I've never used shampoo. Hair is self regulating if you allow it to be. Shampoo is an unnecessary product.

They all have beautiful hair which attracts comments, partly because some of them have a lovely colour. you can't tell they don't use shampoo, their hair is no different from their friends and I've saved myself a lot of heartache & some money.

They've occasionally had nits, the younger ones sometimes still get them. I comb through with a nit comb until they go and that seems to work fine.

I don't see the problem when there doesn't seem to be one? Why make work for yourself for no good reason? Stop washing her hair OP, she'll be fine & look fine.