to think that, however well intentioned, favourite MNer threads can reinforce the clique-y image some have of MN and

[MardyBra]

be hurtful to anyone left out.

And unfortunately, because of the large numbers of MNers, there are inevitably going to be lots of lovely lovely posters who don't get a mention. (btw, I would love to have a with all those who kindly mentioned me, annd loads more too).

I sob at those threads
heartbroken gut wrenching sobs

They should be banned !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[ froth froth ]

Not trying to start a new Nobdies or anything, I'm just concerned that some may feel a little excluded by the love-in thread.

Yy you total itch

I agree with you. Everyone wants to be mentioned and it feels a bit like a rejection when you're not mentioned. I know it shouldn't matter, but we're all only human and I think it has the potential to make people feel like they're less valued than others. Or less noticed.

I realise it shouldn't matter - words on a screen, internet, imaginary friends, not 'real life' etc - but it will matter, because it's real human beings with feelings and insecurities and nobody wants to feel forgotten or unimportant - even on an anonymous website

I'm never listed and I don't care.

YANBU of course, they are horrible bumlicky threads.

I don't care about them.

Come across dull and arse-kissy so I just don't read them :)

I seriously think anyone who feels sad about those threads needs to grow a thicker skin. And I mean that in a caring way.

Yep - just plain arse-licking. Playground stuff really, even if it's meant to be all warm & fuzzy. It adds to the whole "MN Royalty" idea, where some posters are put on a higher plain than the rest of us, just because they are noticeable.

Arf at and I mean that in a caring way

Very good

YABu to care. The bumlicky threads are laughable

Don't lose sleep Mardy. We lesser mortals cope

Ok so IABU to care. Maybe I'm being soft at worrying about the feelings of those who are left out. I didn't say they were arse lucky btw. There are lovely MNers on the thread at the moment, and I don't believe the intention is to be divisive.

I agree Stewie and Hecate

I think their nice threads full of luff. And I never get mentioned but I don't mind 'cos I is hard as nails

I find them a bit boring. I don't post enough to be remembered, so I wouldn't expect to be mentioned, but I agree they are a bit quichey.

It's mostly the same ten or so posters that are mentioned on threads like that, they are just the most prolific, recognisable and popular - I don't think it lessens the feelings people have for others they might not remember.

In the recent cryptic name game in chat, I really struggled to remember more than a few names and there are loads of people I really like here.

YANBU mardy, and I think you are kind in starting this thread, but I wouldn't take those threads too seriously.

I refused to name names, for exactly that reason - even those who named me didn't get a mention back.

The only person I did name was someone I am genuinely curious to meet (which was the question asked) and it had nothing to do with favouritism or cliques - I barely ever talk to the woman.

It's also not much use to serial name changers who have something interesting/funny/valid to say, but prefer to keep a low profile or to remain as un-outable as possible. It's hard to build a rapport with them, which is no-one's fault, but it is true.

Mardy you are lovely and considerate and compassionate and empathetic and rather empathetic to post such thoughtful thoughts.

Now, to cut to the crux.

WTAF is "arse lucky"?

I always thought my wibbly specimen was due to lack of cruncjes, but are to telling me the state of my behind is due to fortune and not lack of effort?