to be super cross that DD has watched Toy Story at pre-school today whilst eating tea?

[VeryHungryKatypillar]

AND they watched Cbeebies yesterday. I want to speak to the nursery manager about it but want to check I'm not being too pfb about it...

Playing with friends, doing a jigsaw even listening to a story would be downtime.

Friday afternoon was telly time in my ds's reception class - lovely wind down time when the kids were tired after a long week and the teacher and TA could get on with clearing up or whatever.

I'd not be happy. I'm surprised at a nursery even having a tv.

I think YABU but then again we have spent today watching toy story 3, tangled and tinker bell. There's a lot of learning to be done from tv especially Toy Story IMO if you think of all the questions, possibilities for imaginative play etc it brings up

YABU

As for 'learning a bad habit' do you really think your child is going to refuse to eat a meal at home without the TV on now?

My kids had 'fruit time' where they sat on the floor in a circle to eat their fruit

Oddly enough, they don't actually have to sit on the floor to eat it at home.

And 'super cross'???
Too much Enid Blyton perhaps?

I'm surprised at the number of people happy to pay that amount if money per day for other people jus to put the TV on...

Good lord... DSs both used to be watching some Disney DVD whenever I picked them up at 5 ish Lovely calm wind down time. It never occurred to me to complain, what on earth is wrong?

Toy Story is a bit scary, as I recall - nasty boy nextdoor freaked out both my DSs at this age

But nasty boy in toy story gets his come uppance. Learning opportunity- be nice to your toys or they will get you

Flippin' heck, so many posts so quickly. Just off to do bedtime but just wanted to say that 'super cross' is soooo not me. Had wanted to swear but toned it down. I kinda like super cross though, makes me sound genteel...

And I heart EB. And EBD. AIBU?

at the same time as eating as a special treat wouldn't be wrong. As a general rule would be a bit . I wouldn't complain, but perhaps drop into conversation to discuss.

If she is safe and happy at that nursery, and there isn't choice for another, I would leave sleeping dogs. It's not the end of the world, just not ideal.

Crikey! OP, if this makes you super cross I've got to warn you that some incident or other over the next 5 years will make your head explode. And that would be a shame because you sound rather nice.

EB is spiffing. Jolly good

Don't you lot remember why TS is a PG?
Sid is terrifying, as are the mutilated toys initially. I wouldn't be happy that they'd used a PG without my permission, it would have given my DS nightmares at 4.

Pick you battles carefully or you may end up moaning about every single thing that you personally do not agree with.

I don't think this is even a 'battle'. When my two girls were at nursery I found it much more enjoyable to pick them up when they were calm and had wound down. If I turned up a couple of hours early they were hyper and full of beans. That's fine at 2pm but not so much so at 6pm.

It's times like this that I am embarrassed to call myself a mumsnetter. DH would die laughing reading this.

Boobz, has he got life assurance?

Toy Story is a great film, much better than some of the Cbeebies stuff (I'm looking at you Same Smile). DS is two years seven months and has seen the second film in the series and sat through it all very nicely. But he loses interest in shorter programmes and wants to play.

I don't think it's ideal for a meal time if they do it every day, but as a treat or something it's not the end of the world. How long is she at pre-school for? If she's only there for three hours and spends half of her time watching TV every day then that's not so good. If she's there all day then a film that lasts and hour and a half once in a while is not too bad.

We sometimes watch TV while we eat at home and we sometimes sit at the table and chat. In the summer we eat outside a lot, either in the garden or by taking a picnic to the park or the woods. Yesterday we had lunch under the dinning room table because we were being bears in a cave. Sometimes we have a story while we eat, which means breaking the dreaded 'no-reading-at-the-table' rule (I hated that rule when I was younger).

As long as you are having 'at the table with no TV meals at home' she will be learning table manners and getting the benefits of family time to eat together and chat anyway.

Did she sit still all the way through and did she enjoy it? If she didn't and she was forced to then I'd consider that a problem, otherwise....I can't see the harm.

Oh and I also agree with:

ll31 Thu 17-Nov-11 18:06:05

"and just to add, when you're a pre schooler virtually everything is a learning opportunity!"

this is basically the jam sandwich thread isn't it?

cbeebies/jam sandwich is ok when parent chooses to do it but not ok when pre-school/nursery do it because it has no learning oportunities/nutritional value and the parent mught be stressed one evening and need to put child infront of tv/feed them jam sandwich but cant of nursery has laready done so that day.

it's the same thread isn't it? i'm not going mad am i?

I think its more the fact that full time child care costs around £1k per month, so paying that out to have your child fed a jam sandwich and shoved in front of a video, (whilst fine as a one off), is not really getting the service you are paying for.

Just read this out to my dh and 14 year old dd, both of them are laughing and saying 'It must be made up, it must be!'

DH has asked that you go and get yourself a sense of perspective