to be super cross that DD has watched Toy Story at pre-school today whilst eating tea?

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AND they watched Cbeebies yesterday. I want to speak to the nursery manager about it but want to check I'm not being too pfb about it...

Hmm, well i don't think you're being entirely U.

We're in NZ. My kids go to Play Centre two mornings a week - it's a day care unique to NZ in that it's run by us Mums. When the kids have morning tea, whoever's on that duty chats and sings with them and reads them stories.

I would expect a nursery that I'm actually paying fees for to do this rather than plonk them in front of the telly.

And I say this as someone who is in NO WAY anal about TV use at home.

Ok so I've swallowed a few OFSTED reports recently with the 'learning opportunities' thing...

Not sure how long Toy Story is, but isn't that a bit much if they watched all of it?

Oooh and there could be some learning opportunities from watching tv ...Sitting nicely and following a storyline

Its not the tv itself I have an issue with - a little is fine and some childrens tv is great, but eating whilst watching is just wrong and it sounds from the OP like the nursery might just use tv as an easy option

I think you should speak to them about TV during mealtimes, just to make sure it's not an everyday thing (a one off is probably OK I think?), but I don't think the TV itself is the issue?

I don't see why you think Toy Story is any different to CBeebies.

The evil bastards

Oh unclench!

Its probably approx 90 mins long, and yes - I'd be pissed off if DS was plonked in front of a film for that long.

And YABU for being 'super cross'.

Blimey you are going to be on gin and valium for breakfast by the time your DD is in reception if this is making you angry!!

Anyway there are plenty of things to learn in Toystory!

If nursery as in childcare (hence eating tea) then I do not think every minute should be a 'learning' opportunity - we all like some down time. Do you not sit and watch television/film to relax from time to time.

If nursery as in 'school' then I would would ask haow watching the film related to my child's learning.

It's not about them being evil fuckers, poisoning their little minds. To me at least.

It's lazy, when you're paying good fees. Plus yeah, eating gormlessly in front of the TV is not something I'd really want to be instilling in v young children.

Oh. My. God. I feel for you OP. Not a single learning opportunity! Not even one! What an execrable waste of precious time!

I'd give you a biscuit but hell, where's the leaning opportunity in that?!!

What's wrong with reading them a few stories, if they need 'down time'?

I would be rather pissed off that this habit was being taught somewhere that I paid for my dd to be.

YANBU. I would ask why they do it and not use it as an opportunity to teach good table manners.

not everything in a young child's life has to be about learning! Enjoyment is also a key ingredient to happy, healthy kids - and Toy Story is a lovely film that children enjoy watching!

To be fair, when a Nursery of my acquaintance was going through a dodgy patch - poor management, staff with low morale - videos were very much in evidence as a first resort, so I won't completely pooh pooh the idea that they are a bad thing.

But you have to look at the place as a whole

If it was tea time i doubt it would have been the full film as it would have been home time when it finished AND what 3 year old will sit for that long with a room full of toys etc?!! ..
Yes they shouldnt be eating watching tv but if this only happens twice a year then its hardly going to make them forget table manners

Let it go this time op but moniter how much tv they are watching

I, for one, would be annoyed if my child ever watched TV at pre school/nursery.

Not everything has to be about learning, no, but you are not paying £50 a day to have your child babysat by Pixar.

And down time is fine - ok but the odd video on but Toy Story is 90 minutes long and it wasn't down time it was meal time so they should not be watching tv whilst they eat

*put the odd video on

Toy Story is a PG so through that I might understand but to be honest a bit of down time is needed now and then.