For getting annoyed by my mum saying "college" all the time??

[movember]

Sounds a bit petty but my mum constantly refers to University as "college". Maybe I am being anal about it (probably) but I come from a non academic family. Out of 7 siblings, only one aunt actually went to university (and none of my 12 cousins have either so it was always a bit of a battle against the odds for me. I'm not massively academic so it took alot to actually get IN university, 2 years of education just to get to interview. Then I had to apply amongst 800 people for 200 places. I was one of the successful ones but it was bloody hard and I am proud of myself for getting in.

It's a big deal for me.

Yet my mum constantly refers to it as college and talks about it as if it's just a few gcses Im doing (its a science degree). I and my sister correct her all the time but she does it that often I'm sure she's doing it on purpose.

Yesterday for instance:

mum - "what were you doing on the 26th?"
me - "it's a night out with people from uni"
mum - "oh yes, you're going out with your college friends."

I don't always correct her because I think it sounds a bit twattish but why does she do it??

I constantly get "oh, are you at college today? do you have an assignment to do over the weekend?"

errr ... I have an assignment to do over the next 3 months, not the fecking weekend.

It could be put down to her having no experience of academic stuff but it's SO annoying and she manages to get everyone's place of education right! for instance "oh when your sister finishes college she might go to uni!" hmm you sure she won't just stay at "college" forever? grrrr

No, honest! (If I did, I would certainly never admit it, because the idea of you coming after me with even a virtual machete is scary, but I was still at school in 198X, so am blameless...)

Though I always think that Morse missed a trick by never having a storyline where a particularly vitriolic don was hideously killed by a posse of unsuccessful candidates he'd humiliated at interview...

What's wrong with writing letters after your name, if you've earned them?

Hardcheese that is a funny idea for Morse! Actually whilst typing on this thread I was idly imagining the scene at some unspecified cocktail party as I am introduced to don (now a top professor I see from a bit of Googling) who gave me the big N-O.
Don: 'Hello how nice to meet you'
MrsBaldwin: 'We've met before in fact. It was 198x. You interviewed me for a place at your college
[Look of horror starts to pass over don's face as MrsBaldwin shifts bodyweight to block don's exit to bar]
etc

Actually this must be an occupational hazard for (college/university/uni) lecturers, bit like when you meet a doctor at a party and start telling him about your sore toe

It is definitely an occuptional hazard. I teach nowadays in a very non-Oxbridge university, but I'll occasionally get some total stranger coming up to me in a pub and saying in outraged/threatening/doleful tones 'I remember you, you gave me a D on an essay when I was in second year!'

YABU, YABVU to say uni. Lots of people say college. I went to a college of the University of London (although it's now independent) and would always refer to it as 'college'.

I always assume people who say college are being pretentious and trying to remind you subtly they went somewhere posh.

It must be a generational thing.

I can't hear anyone use 'uni' without ascribing a simpering, twee undertone to it.

'College' is preferable by far.

All the current students I know ,dd and her friends call it uni.
Who really gives a toss what it's called.

It wouldn't bother me tbh. As others have said 'Uni' is the word that grates on my subconcious.

Americans call university college or sometimes even school don't they?

hardcheese, i was in an episode of Morse filmed at my college!

I loathe the word 'uni'

I refer to college, university or "when I was a student"

But then I am an old gimmer who went to university in the '80s

Good for you Movember and ILoveTiffany! You should be proud...

I have just finished the first 3rd of my degree. I am getting top marks in all of my classes and I am proud too.

For your sanity OP, I would try to stop caring (or at least showing that you care).

When I was printing my PhD thesis, three people made comments about how great it was when they finally printed their 'big biology assignment at high school' HAHAHAHA nutters

Yes, I am in the US and they do refer to university as 'school' sometimes. And it is very patronising. It's hard to get to and through university, why belittle it and call it school? The students aren't school children.

Otcha, were you at Wadham? It seemed like the Wadham quad was in every episode at one point, 'playing' other colleges (the imaginary ones whose principals/students were always getting offed). Morse and Lewis would drive up to the gate of St John's or Balliol or somewhere or emerge from the Bod, and then magically reappear inside Wadham's front quad. Still, it made for a good drinking game...

Maybe you could pick up a grip in the college library while you are there?

I am doing a masters. I go to college.

Really?I always thought of college as FE only

no, next door at Hertford. Brasenose also used in lots of generic college scenes. Maybe it was a good moneyspinner.

It's a bit mean, when the OP has posted to say her mum runs her down, that she needs to get a grip/stop being insecure.

Presumably the whole point is that if your mum runs you down, it doesn't really matter whether or not they choose something utterly illogical as the means of doing it - it still hurts!

I would say college, or university in full; and for post-graduate, school.

The term "uni" hadn't entered general use, and was (dare I say it?) considered a bit common back then.

I went to University of Wales College, Cardiff, so I guess it would be right to say college, but I think I've always said, if it's ever come up, "when I was a student".

All the teacher training students I have seem to say "Uni", and for some ridiculous reason, like all the other "Neighbours" posters above, it gets on my nerves a bit too!

I prefer "college" to "uni" any day.

This makes no sense. I went to the University of Birmingham. That is it's name, always has been. It is University!

WTF? People actually object to "uni"? Bonkers.

YANBU, OP. You are at university, she should call it that. And if you think she is doing it on purpose, call her up on it!