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AIBU?

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DH REALLY showed us up tonight

154 replies

CarrieOke · 03/11/2011 21:54

DH and I were invited to my parents for dinner tonight along with our DD(6). Also invited were my sister and her husband along with their DD(5).

Everything was going well until an advert for DisneyLand Paris came on TV and DH very uncharacteristically spat "oh fuck off with your screeching kids, what a pile of shit."

DH never swears and certainly never talks like this at someone elses house. Everyone was pretty shocked, mum pulled cats bum face but nobody said anything, I just gave him "the look".

DD then said "but daddy, I'd like to go to DisneyWorld". DH then replies "yes, DisneyWORLD, there is a massive difference between Disneyland and disneyWORLD. DisneyLAND is in France and it's cheap and nasty, people only go there when they can't afford to go to America. If we do go, we'll be going to the REAL disneyworld in the USA."

dd squeals in delight. Sister looks at her hubby who shakes his head. DH see's this and adds "well come on, Disney Paris is a cheap cunt holiday!".

My mum at this point stands up and busies herself in the kitchen. I am furious. DH knows full well that my sister and her family are going to Paris next year. I ask to have a word in private and in the hallway I ask him what on earth he's playing at and why he's acting so odd. He says I'm over-reacting and he's just trying to liven up the evening. When we go back in DD is telling DN that she's sorry she won't be going to the REAL disneyworld as her parents are cheap. I tell her off and DH shouts "USA" to which DD copies and they both start shouting it. Mum comes back in and complains about the noise and my dad asks me how much DH has drank and suggests we take DD home. First time I've ever been asked to leave my parents house Sad DH still refusing to apologise. AIBU to not let this one drop? he's totally shown me up in front of my family.

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onepieceofcremeegg · 03/11/2011 21:55

how odd

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Kitchentiles · 03/11/2011 21:56

YANBU. Is he always this much of a complete arsehole?

ecclesvet · 03/11/2011 21:56

How weird! Not that it's a good excuse, but do you think it was the drink talking?

verytellytubby · 03/11/2011 21:57

He sounds weird. Is he always like that? Was he pissed?

cocobongo · 03/11/2011 21:57

sounds like he is jealous, and also drunk

SacreLao · 03/11/2011 21:57

I would be pretty annoyed, how rude!

QueenCatherine · 03/11/2011 21:57

Sounds like he was either pssed or trying (and succeeding) to pss every one off.

YANBU

maxpower · 03/11/2011 21:57

YANBU but I get the impression from your post that this isn't his normal behaviour - what's his problem?

CarrieOke · 03/11/2011 21:58

Very out of character though, usually he's really quiet.

He seemed to be trying to annoy my sister all night and provoke an argument. He had had a fair bit to drink.

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FabbyChic · 03/11/2011 21:58

Jesus was there any need for him to use the C word at the dinner table, that really is out of order.

If I were you I would make him book the holiday now seeing as he feels Paris is cheap he can surely afford to take you all to the US for a decent holiday.

NinkyNonker · 03/11/2011 21:58

That sounds very odd indeed, and yes, he was very rude on many counts...swearing awfully in front of children, being dismissive and deliberately horrible about your sister's plans etc. I hope she understands he was very wrong. It isn't just showing you up in front of family, it is just rudeness whoever the audience.

Northernlurker · 03/11/2011 21:58

Oh that's bad! How much had he drunk? Personally I wouldn't tolerate dh being rude to my sister or saying cunt in public, in front of my kids.

FredFredGeorge · 03/11/2011 21:58

YABU but those adverts are truly awful...

slavetofilofax · 03/11/2011 21:58

I would make him apologise.

Is he usually a twat?

Hulababy · 03/11/2011 21:58

"DH never swears and certainly never talks like this at someone elses house. "

So, it was completely out of character?

Had he been drinking? Or any other problems he may be having for himt o behave so differently and inappropriately?

Pancakeflipper · 03/11/2011 21:58

Was he trying to fit in every rude word he knows tonight?

Bizarre and horrible childish behaviour.

Is he going to phone your parents and your sister and apologise for behaving like that in front of the kids.

Was it the drink? Is he not a happy chap at the moment and super stressed?

FredFredGeorge · 03/11/2011 21:58

YANBU ... I'm useless.

MenopausalHaze · 03/11/2011 21:58

Ghastly for you. Sounds to me like a combination of drink and drugs - could that be it OP?

Rudawakening · 03/11/2011 21:58

Is this out of character?

If he was 12 wold say it was said out of jealousy that your sis and bil are going but that would be odd.

Seems to be born of resentment.

auntiepicklebottom2 · 03/11/2011 21:58

i can't belive your parents either for asking you to leave there house...like you was somewhat responsible for his behaviour

ObviouslyOblivious · 03/11/2011 21:59

Sounds like you should have offered some Bear around?

Collision · 03/11/2011 21:59

i cannot imagine how embarrassed you must have been!

Was he drinking a lot?

squeakytoy · 03/11/2011 21:59

Blimey, thats bad.. was he drunk?

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