DH REALLY showed us up tonight

[CarrieOke]

DH and I were invited to my parents for dinner tonight along with our DD(6). Also invited were my sister and her husband along with their DD(5).

Everything was going well until an advert for DisneyLand Paris came on TV and DH very uncharacteristically spat "oh fuck off with your screeching kids, what a pile of shit."

DH never swears and certainly never talks like this at someone elses house. Everyone was pretty shocked, mum pulled cats bum face but nobody said anything, I just gave him "the look".

DD then said "but daddy, I'd like to go to DisneyWorld". DH then replies "yes, DisneyWORLD, there is a massive difference between Disneyland and disneyWORLD. DisneyLAND is in France and it's cheap and nasty, people only go there when they can't afford to go to America. If we do go, we'll be going to the REAL disneyworld in the USA."

dd squeals in delight. Sister looks at her hubby who shakes his head. DH see's this and adds "well come on, Disney Paris is a cheap cunt holiday!".

My mum at this point stands up and busies herself in the kitchen. I am furious. DH knows full well that my sister and her family are going to Paris next year. I ask to have a word in private and in the hallway I ask him what on earth he's playing at and why he's acting so odd. He says I'm over-reacting and he's just trying to liven up the evening. When we go back in DD is telling DN that she's sorry she won't be going to the REAL disneyworld as her parents are cheap. I tell her off and DH shouts "USA" to which DD copies and they both start shouting it. Mum comes back in and complains about the noise and my dad asks me how much DH has drank and suggests we take DD home. First time I've ever been asked to leave my parents house DH still refusing to apologise. AIBU to not let this one drop? he's totally shown me up in front of my family.

Unbelievable behaviour.

Atrocious behaviour.

Did you know that Plato advocated double the punishment if someone committed a crime while under the influence of drink? First, for committing a crime, second for making themselves too drunk to be responsible for their actions.

OK, being vilely rude, tactless and insensitive is not a crime, but the principle holds.

Nope, don't believe a word. You blew it when you said you DD told your niece she was 'sorry' that her parents were 'cheap'. 6 year olds don't talk like that. I know I'll be flamed, but my troll radar is going off. Bollocks.

He said all that and everyone just felt awkward? He wouldn't have been seen for dust if he spoke like that in any home I can think of. He called your family cheap cunts, but you feel just embarrassed?

What an interesting first post.

oh here we go again

report it to mumsnet if you think it's a troll. you don't get a medal for being "right" if it turns out it is a troll.
you do risk upsetting someone a LOT if it isn't.

"well come on, Disney Paris is a cheap cunt holiday!"

true though innit.

maybe the OP changed name? she knows "cat bum mouth" which is a fairly MN thing isn't it?

let's give her the benefit of the doubt eh, like the talk guidelines ask

YANBU. I would be absolutely mortified. He chose to drink and even when someone's been drinking, they generally are just freer with saying what they think already. It sounds like there is something underlying.

Perhaps he is unwell, and if so, he needs to get to a doc straight away. He can't just brush it off as nothing or try to make YOU feel bad, like YOU were over-reacting. No way.

If he isn't ill, he was just being a knob with the aim of humiliating you and your family. That means that either the relationship isn't working for him (problem) or he's seeking to control you by humiliation (problem.) Either way, he has to admit that what he did was mega wrong and do whatever it takes to ensure it doesn't happen again. He also owes everyone in the room a sincere and personal apology.

Disneyland Paris is cheap. I much prefer Skeggy.

Mmm have to say sounds odd, where is he now and what did he say on the way home?

I would be so worried if that were my DH, so would my family, if it is really out of character.

Oh fgs why would you make this up? I just don't get it.

Hi OP I would be a bit worried about him actually.
What is he stressed about?
Is there something going on at work? Money worries? What did you have words about before you left?
I am not excusing his behaviour but if it is really out of character something must be up?

Odd indeed.

A large number of people will, at some point in their lives, get pissed and make an utter arse of themselves.

Your DH has just had his 15 mins of fame.

Give him a bloody hard time tomorrow and move on.

Is this another highly a-moo-sing thread? Dear Good God - please make it end!

I laughed.

Nice work OP!.

True or not, this has made me cry laughing, especially the shouting USA. Sorry, as you were!

I quite fancy disney paris, i dont want to fly all the way to the states, plane would be hell with my two i just know it, but they would really enjoy disney, so paris is the best option i think.

Clearly Im a cheap cunt, but a happy one :)

Well so far we have suggested illness or drugs.

Is noone going to tell her to pack his bags and kick him out?

That's so horrible for you! Is he ill?