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Original poster

erm.. chocolate finger for 10 month old at nursery?

355 replies

DuelingFanjo · 31/10/2011 18:31

I didn't put anything on his form saying that I didn't want him to have cakes/biscuits/chocolate so maybe I am being unreasonable but I was a bit Shock to be told that the nursery had given DS a chocolate finger today. I said 'oh, really?' but now I am home I think that actually I am stupid for not saying something and now I feel annoyed with them and annoyed with myself.

What to do Sad? I have to say something. I was told that they feed the babies healthy food, no juice and so on so I thought they might know that chocoloate fingers for a baby that old is not normal? Or is it? Am I the weird one?

It's a good nursery, highly recommended and they haven't done anything I don't like before.

OP posts:
banana87 · 31/10/2011 23:44

I would not be happy if my 10 month old was given chocolate. They are 10 months FFS!!! Complain, it's not right. Angry

QuintessentialShadow · 31/10/2011 23:45

Babies dont need treats, and chocolate, or crisps for that matter as a part of a healthy diet.

Moominsarescary · 01/11/2011 00:07

Obviously anyone who thinks it's ok for a 10 month old to have a chocolate finger as a treat for Halloween must be obese and have fat kids

Realy?

And who said children needed chocolate, crisps as part of a healthy diet? It's a treat ffs occasional treats do not make children fat

QuintessentialShadow · 01/11/2011 00:09

Those are your words moomin. Not mine. It is the attitude to food that I am concerned about. Why does a 10 month old need chocolate? Does a 10 month old know it is Halloween? Will it be distraught not to celebrate? To not get his chocolate finger?

Whatmeworry · 01/11/2011 00:15

Disgraceful. Should be a jam samwidge.

MollyintheMoon · 01/11/2011 00:16

But why give them treats? Seriously, what's the point? They're babies! It's like dipping a dummy in alcohol as my mums generation did to help them sleep. Sure, it's not going to do any lasting harm but I doubt many people do it today.

Also this thread does show that many parents would be Hmm about it which makes me think the nursery was BU.

Whatmeworry · 01/11/2011 00:28

Also this thread does show that many parents would be about it which makes me think the nursery was BU

Eh? I've read exactly the same thread and seems most people think the OP is BU. "Many" in this case seems to be more "a minority who post frequently"

CurrySpice · 01/11/2011 00:32

Am I the only one who could murder a chocolate finger right now? Blush

brdgrl · 01/11/2011 00:49

*Also this thread does show that many parents would be about it which makes me think the nursery was BU

Eh? I've read exactly the same thread and seems most people think the OP is BU. "Many" in this case seems to be more "a minority who post frequently"*

ok, now i deserve to be flamed for being SAD. but i just counted up the responses each way, halfway down the thread (and then i gave up, ok?) -
YABU - 28 (including any one who didn't actualy say YABU but was snarky in their remarks in a way that indicated YABU! )
YANBU - 18
Neutral or indeterminate - 14

Point being - a significant number of people do feel similarly. So the OP is hardly some outlier wacko who should be mocked.

ok, guess i can't keep putting the hoovering off this way...

Fakeblondie · 01/11/2011 01:09

IMO they were being unreasonable.
All my dc were still excl bf at ten months with no sign of a tooth even. if someone offered them a choc finger of course they would suck it and then possibly even decline boring old fruit and veg .
Introduction to food experience should be led by you and your baby and I just LOVED watching my dd first taste of choc recently but would be most upset if a nursery gave any food stuff without my prior agreement. if say the child was a few years old then it would be maybe different and they will of course want to partake in party food and special days ect, but your dc is still a Baby !

winniethepug · 01/11/2011 06:17

YANBU - I would be very annoyed if someone gave my DS chocolate without asking. Yes, I know it sounds precious but surely fruit, crackers etc is a better snack? And we wonder why kids are getting fatter.......

ChunkyPickle · 01/11/2011 06:35

Count me in the YABU for two reasons a) that they asked if it was OK to give him this kind of stuff at the beginning, and you didn't say it wasn't and b) because I think that labelling food as 'healthy' and 'unhealthy' isn't a good idea.

I also think that being scared to give your children chocolate in case they start refusing non-sweet stuff is a bit odd - given that BF babies are exclusively fed sweet stuff until they start eating solids and you don't hear people complaining that they won't eat their broccoli.

Anecdote isn't data, but mine eats everything, and has yet to pass up dinner because he knows there's pudding after.

peggyblackett · 01/11/2011 06:49

Another YABU.

I'm a firm believer in everything in moderation. Mine very rarely have chocolate, but I personally think it would be wrong to deny them all together.

moreyear · 01/11/2011 07:08

Yanbu - I would be annoyed too. Life shattering no, but none the less annoying. Which is exactly the sense I get from your post.

PerryCombover · 01/11/2011 07:22

your baby your rules hun

nicknamenotinuse · 01/11/2011 07:26

One chocolate finger. Close the nursery down.

diddl · 01/11/2011 07:46

Did we find out if it was a one off?

hocuspontas · 01/11/2011 08:20

150+ posts and no one's mentioned that trusted MN phrase 'I wouldn't MIND if it was a home-made flapjack' Grin

Familydilemma · 01/11/2011 08:26

Okay-so I am on dc no 3 and have very few precious bones left. But I think at ten months the op isn't being precious to object to chocolate fingers. Bit harsh all of you. She's not saying no chocolate ever, just that babies don't know they want it do why give it?

bumbleymummy · 01/11/2011 08:29

YANBU. It's unnecessary and if you aren't comfortable with it then let the nursery know. FWIW my two DSs didn't have chocolate until they were both over 2 so it is possible and they didn't know any different so didn't think they were 'missing out' or anything. Even now chocolate is a very occasional thing and I don't believe for a second that restricting certain foods at this early age is going to give them eating disorders later in life (has that been suggested on this thread yet? I didn't bother reading the whole thing because I could see what way the comments were going.) There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeding your child healthy food and avoiding crisps and chocolate until they are older if that is what you want to do.

This is another parenting choice that has absolutely nothing to do with anyone else so you tell anyone who criticises your decisions to piss off. Your child, your choice. :)

exoticfruits · 01/11/2011 08:29

It makes a mockery of BLW and shows it in its true colours-Mother decides what the baby can choose and where and when they can choose it! (my belief all along Grin) This was true BLW-the baby was offered food and chose to eat it-and probably enjoyed it so based on that it would choose it again!

exoticfruits · 01/11/2011 08:31

If they don't have chocolate until they are over 2 yrs you must have a pretty miserable first birthday party-or do they just look at the food? I made mine novelty cakes.

Original poster
DuelingFanjo · 01/11/2011 08:32

"that they asked if it was OK to give him this kind of stuff at the beginning, and you didn't say it wasn't and b) because I think that labelling food as 'healthy' and 'unhealthy' isn't a good idea."

did they?

Actually no one and no paperwork expressley asked me if it was ok to give this stuff.

I remember there being a bit on the form for 'special dietary requirements' . I asked about the food and was told they gave healthy snacks and no fruit juices. Rather than write down that I didn't want my son to have cake/chocolate I naively believed that it was unlikely a 10 month old would be given chocolate in a nursery which had told me their snacks were healthy when I asked. I figured that professioonal childcarers would have some idea about healthy food for babies. I didn't realise that it was the norm to give chocolate to babies. I now know I was wrong.

Obviously their idea of healthy for a baby is different to mine and it's something I need to clarify.

OP posts:
clam · 01/11/2011 08:38

Don't know whether to laugh or cry over this thread.

reastie · 01/11/2011 08:41

duelling don't get me wrong I'm completely with you and I'd be exactly the same as you in your position but re: the healthy diet thing - a chocolate finger although not healthy in itself can be perfectly healthy if eaten in small amounts and not regularly. I think if it was a one off halloween thing then just try and let it go, if it might happen again then maybe mention to them you'd rather your LO didn't have it. Either way best chat to nursery staff about it.